I have a dear friend of 15yrs. Every time I see her she feeds me really well. She seems to want me to eat. ( I have no problems with food) The last time we saw each other we discussed how she likes to feed people. And keep them fed and watered the whole time they are in her house. I told her about YA and she said to try and find out what this means on a psycologial level.
She eats healthily and doesn't have a weight problem.
Can anyone shed any light on the matter?
She doesn't do this in an anxious way, more like she is happy when people are sated!
2007-03-21 11:48:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your last sentence--basically--said it all. It makes her happy. While some cultures are more inclined to "feed" people, it's really a very common & gracious thing. Eating together is a warm & friendly "ritual." I've never really given it much thought, but I find myself offering food to electricians, plumbers, whatever. It's a way of sharing, & making people feel welcome in your home. I honestly don't think it's "psychological" in any deep sense. Isn't it great??
Edit: Oh, PLEASE, janne501--look for the negative, & you will find it. Too bad, so sad!
2007-03-21 12:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is very much a nurturing, feminine, earth mother type of person. I have a relative who is exactly the same way. He's a gentle, nurturing kind of person.
One of the most basic ways to nurture and show affection is through food. When you are just born, your mother feeds you from the milk that comes from her own body. Classically, food has always been a way for mothers to show affection for their family, or for lovers to show affection for each other. "The way to a man (or woman's) heart is through their stomach."
Anyway, that's just my amature opinion off the top of my head based on what I've read and experienced.
2007-03-21 18:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Underground Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do that too, if I see a friend of mine I want to make sure they are all fed and watered - particularly if they are an unhealthy sort who live off takeaways and fast food.
Then again I had a bit of a weight problem in my early teens and thought it had something to do with that? If not then it's just a nurturing thing.
2007-03-21 18:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the happy hostess.
I have that probelm too in a small way. whenever people come to my house, I'm always up, making sure they have drinks or snacks etc. They always comment on it, & i only pick up on it when they point it out.
I guess it's because i used to be a chef... (in my mind, that makes logical sense... it's late & i'm tired)
2007-03-21 20:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by mexican_seafooduk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the other seems answers tend to tell you she is doing this becuse she is a good person, I tell you she try to control you becuse she " keep them fed and watered the whole time ".
she treat other people like cattle
2007-03-21 18:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she shows she cres by nuturing I do also I am not comfortable if a person does not warn me and lets me bake and xse a table and then they get here and say I can only have a cup of non cafe tea. If they warn me i have several tea's ready
2007-03-21 19:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just means she cares. it may be a generational thing in the UK following rationing. feeding someone is a nurturing caring thing to do. its not weird. unless she forces you to eat when you dont want to.
2007-03-21 19:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by kt_sub2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably a very nurturing person. She should be in a job where she can express this, such as child care, elder care, etc.
2007-03-21 18:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Grandmother used to do that. It was her way of showing her love, by feeding everyone.
2007-03-21 19:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by helllraiser5uk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a lovely thing to do. To me it just means she is very welcoming and just wants to look after visitors. She sounds very dear....ahh bless you both
peace
2007-03-21 19:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋