We have been married for almost 2 years and my husband does not talk to me. He does not seem happy. He says he doesn't trust me but I have never done anything for that to be justified. He will say things will change but then they don't. I can't talk to him, write him a note, or even email him...he doesn't respond. He says he doesn't know what to say. He knows what to say when he puts me down, and hurts my feelings though. His family is so close to him and it really becomes a burden. I try so hard not to say anything but his mother talks about me all the time and he does not stick up for me. I am just sad and worried that my marriage is not going to make it. I know I love him and he says he loves me, so what is the problem? Why can't we be happy anymore?
2007-03-21 11:09:08 · 11 answers · asked by K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lack of communication, totally. File for divorce, he is stonewalling you and you cannot do anything about that.
2007-03-21 11:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He says he doesn't trust you but you haven't done anything to justify this, he could be cheating. Cheaters always try to blame their partners for their guilt. He needs to communicate with you, you can't go on like this for the next few years, he's not treating you humanely. I'd have a major chat with him or can you talk to his mum just say you are a bit worried about him as he seems very quiet lately. Good luck x
2007-03-21 18:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel where you are coming from. If you don't have trust then what do you have. You have to sit down and talk this out or you will go through this marriage miserable. A miserable marriage is not good. You will find yourself always upset and stress out. Talk to your husband and soon. If he still don't talk at leastlet him know how you feel.
2007-03-21 18:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by married92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are not in a very good situation. Life is not about making other people happy. Make yourself happy, then work on other people.
Sounds like he is not very nice or responsive to you. You two either need counseling or to just plain end it. To be happy again together you need to work together at it, but he has to be willing to work towards it. Sounds like he doesn't want to.
I wish you the best and hope that you can get any problems resolved between you two.
2007-03-21 18:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Paul S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing worse than being married to a man who won't talk with you and whose mother constantly puts you down.
I packed my bags and my kids and moved out of town. I did not need that kind of aggravation. It was the best thing I could have done for me and the children.
He said he loved me, too. I found out later that that was a bunch of hooey. He was still in love with his high school sweetheart who left him for another man, divorced, moved back to town and immediately called my ex (who wasn't an ex at the time).
You've invested only two years. Do what you have to do so that you future is what you want it to be.
2007-03-21 18:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is going on with him and he may say he is happy and he loves you but he doesnt show it and I think you should be worried. He doesnt even defend you. Unless he is willing to work on the issues your marriage is over because 1 person can not save a marriage...You both have to work at it and on it. He wont even talk to you. Why are you torturing yourself. He needs to step up or you should step off.
2007-03-21 18:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you involved with someone who does not trust you? Seek marriage counseling, if he's opposed, tell him how you feel and how much you want this to work. If this does not render a response that is respectful to you--Lose him!
2007-03-21 20:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask your husband whats his problem try get him go to counseling with you i hope your marriage works out and good luck with your mother in law
2007-03-21 18:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing is that you guys go to a psychology, try your best to save your marriage , if it dose not work , well, divorce
2007-03-21 18:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by linda r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it somebody else. I don not know. You must ask him or go to counseling.
2007-03-21 18:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋