Worried :[?

Question

I'm 15, nearly 16 and i don't mean to sound old but i am so worried about other people my age.

Just in my close circle of friends, nearly all of them have either been connected with drugs, slept around or are constantly pissed.

Sorry to sound square but i don't see what's fun in spending the night out scantily clad, stoned off your face and waking up the next day next to someone you don't know. Nearly half the girls in my year have taken the morning-after pill.

Don't get me wrong, i like to go out and have fun. I've been pissed in the past, and i did things were i went further than i meant to. Now i just think, what is all the fuss about.

I sound like i'm exaggerating but i'm not. I'm just so worried that i'm going to grow up with this lot!!

I'm not saying everybody's like that but still.

Lol i sound like such an old bag, but please comment and tell me what you think.

:]

Xxx

Answer 1

Firstly you dont need to get drunk or stonned to have fun.


You just need to be in a decent party or nightclub, with cool music, great atmosphere, people loving the music, dancing, dance offs and people snogging.

Ie the club/party music and dj must suck if the only way you can enjoy it is to be out of your head.


Plus chickenshit if too scared to dance without being out of it.


Unfortunetly you are in a dodgy area.

The reason why many of your frineds have needed morning aftert pill is as they have not got the sense and responsibility to connect

Use of two contraceptives at ones (ie depro injection AND condoms) and sex.

much like people going on a motorbike in shorts and a t shirt and no helmet.


This means they are too immature and irresponsible to have sex.


It does not matter if you are 15-16 or 25-28

the same rules apply.

At least they had the sense to get morning after pills.

ALWAYS go for that if you have the slightest inkling something went wrong STRAIGHT AWAY, THAT NIGHT...


No comming here and asking silly questions.


Unlike the drink and drugs...


YOU WILL END UP HAVING SEX SOON... you just need to meet the right guys... all do. and fall in love and do romantic things etc... Just wait till you feel ready.

That ones aprt of life and if did not occur no music, romance, marriages, kids, families and no you.

Its best if you wake up to wake up with somone you know and want to snuggle up with not get away from.

Or at least be mates after.

So still go out but be the best dancer or stage diver/crowder surfer moshpit girl which will attract guys as you will be fun.


get natural highs from surfing, snowboarding, jetskiing, skidiving, scuba diving etc.

Also keeps you fiot and also lots of guys...


Skimpy clothes help (I am a guy) but only if you are comfortable in them and they need to suit you.

As said you just aint met Mr cute yet

Answer 2

I'm nearly 16 too. I don't think ur being an old bag. I know it's rediculous: some people in my class at school tell me i don't know how 2 hav fun just coz i don't do the whole binge drinking, drugs and sex thing like a lot of them. I think it's stupid and there's loads of other ways of having fun without the trouble and the regret afterwards. Luckily there are others in my class who think the same.
Don't worry, u wont be stuck with these people all ur life - in a year when we're at 6th form there'll be a whole mix of people - some more extreme than who ur with now and some who'll agree and become really great friends! You're not alone.

Answer 3

Personally i agree that you dnt need to be drunk and stoned all the times to have fun, you can still have fun without it.
Sometimes its good to go out and have a drink to have fun but as long as its not all the time, its ok
I also worry about people my age as i am 15 and nearly 16 too, i worry about certain people getting too drunk to know what their doing, then anything could happen.
I still go out with my mates and drink because its a good way to have fun but the best thing to do is not to go to out of your head
xx

Answer 4

You sound so much more mature than your friends, and you must be one of the only 15 years old to realise that getting drunk and stuff isnt good. You shouldn't worrry cause unless you wannabe like Vicky Pollard, i wouldnt be to much like your friends. Kids can go out and have fun,dont get me wrong, cause going out with friends is fun but doing it all the time, getting stoned and having to have abortions isnt gonna do your body any favour and you will seriously regret it. Good on you for realising this, ;-D

Answer 5

I'm going to sound old and boring here (i'm 33), you sound like you are really sensible - not boring or square!!

As you have discovered - you can have great fun on a night out without being completely sparkled out your nut!!

Keep it up and be there for your friends when they need you!

Lots of Love, xxx.

Answer 6

hun you dont sound like an old bag i agree their is more to life than that u sound like a very sensible young girl. Your friends are just experementing seeing what life is all about. They will get fed up with getting drunk and stoned all the time.

Answer 7

You sound like you have your head on straight. Kudos. Live your life with this sensible perspective and you'll do well. Enjoy creativity, learning about the world, and the beauty around you, and you'll live a lot longer and happier than your mates who only think about drink and drugs as "fun."

Answer 8

Live the way you want to live. You're nearly 16, so you'll be leaving school soon. Make new friends at college or work and behave how you want to.
I've watched loads of my old school friends mess things up, if you do want to grow up with them then don't.
It will be them stuck with STD's and babies they can't look after properly. One day they'll realise there mistakes and regret them, do you want to have to do that?

Answer 9

hello! :D

well i know what you feel like, im your age nearly 17, and i knoow soooooo many people who are always pissed or off their faces.

and i tell you this, your very smart not to follow them, we have all made mistakes, but never follow anyone when you dont feel comfortable whith it.

You sound very sensible and are obviously concerned about the situation, i would'nt want to grow up with people like that! lol

And as for half of the year taking the morning after pill, its afact that majority of teens dont sleep with people til their at least 16, so most of them are trying to act cool by saying they have, IGNORE THEM! :)

Don't worry about it, your the smarter one out of them all, just laugh at them when you see them with the biggest hangover in the world! :D

hope it gets better soon!
cya! :D

Answer 10

never fear my dear!! i'm 20, and for all of a year i went out, got drunk, had numerous trips 2 A&E and actually got arrested for drunken disorderly. oh, and did the stoned scean. i'm now getting super annoyed at my friends now when they want to go out 'on the pull' and get drunk, or just sit around getting stoned! i invited loads of friends over the other night 2 have a girl night, DVDS, ***** abt blokes (just split wiv my babys dad...hence bicth abt blokes) and within a hour i kicked 'em all out cuz they were drinking booze and starting to roll spliffs! IN MY HOUSE!! (33 weeks pregnant too...the gits were guno smoke round me!).

u don't sound old, but mature behond your years, and u kno what? u'll prob b the only one of ur mates not stuck in a dead end job, or pregnant at a early age, or the only one to have a good education!! (says she who's 20, pregnant, and single...mmmm, summat ain't right there) why don't u try joining a church choir, or...well, sum group that ain't connected to school? u meet people of all ages and all walks of life and u hav a great time AWAY from booze, sex and drugs. (btw, half them girls sayn they're on the pill or hav had sex are lying)
hey dnt get me wrong, i'll go out in 2 town for a night out, but evn b4 i was pregnant i'd hav 1 maybe 2 acholic drinks then softies the rest of the night, not scantly clad (nicely put btw) but NICELY clad, only reason i wear low cut tops not is cuz I FINALLY HAVE BOOBS! lol, plus, no ones guno look twice at me now, look like im pregnant with an elephant!

if u lived in the same town as me i fink we'd get on quite well, i like doing the whole dinner party thing, keeping AWAY from stupid teenage things (drus n booze n meaningless sex...then bitchin abt it the next day. dnt kiss n tell...tis rude). etc. BUT, if u wana b email buddies ur more than welcome 2 email me. might help u kno what rough age group u'd get on best with. but u sound like me. i kinda fink im a 26, 27 yr old trapped in a yr 20 olds body, sound familure?

anywayz, email me if u wana

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