ten yr relationship with three children being involved
2007-03-21 10:53:28 · 10 answers · asked by dant 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no best way. It's gonna suck, no matter what you do. But if you think that it's best to end things, you need to end them quickly. You also need to tell your kids, and make sure they understand that your decision has NOTHING to do with them. Tell them that you both still love them very much.
It's still going to hurt. This isn't a magic formula for making it pain free. It sucks, but the longer you draw it out, the worse it will be.
2007-03-21 10:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok- just a reality check here. You are asking people who are strangers how to end a relationship with someone you have been with for 10 year? Have you paid no attention at all in 10 years? You know exactly how to do this- you know everything there is to know about this person. You know just what to say and how to say it that will be effective and gentle to this person.
A better question would have been where do I get the courage because that my friend, is a much harder question.
As far as the kids, well sometimes people just are better people apart from their partner or spouse- the kids realize when things are not right between their parents. People give kids so little credit.
2007-03-21 17:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Nickster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not for someone else i hope that would be wrong and dishonest not to mention disrespectful to your children and mate also to yourself,if you have exhausted every means and you are not being abused then a honest talk will do the other partner is owed the respect. then at least six month of solitude (no dating period) to see if that's the right choice because once the can of worms is open it will almost impossible to close at least if you started dating to soon and find out all you wanted was a fling or are infactuated with a friend or co worker or just wanting to hang out with the single folks again.Please don't let anyone influence this decision execpt you.
2007-03-21 18:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give us more information. are things so bad that councelling wont help? the first thing you have to do before you say anything is consult a lawyer...THE BEST ADVICE EVER for this situation. Get your legal stuff sorted out before you say anything, so you know your rights. I know from experience, and it makes leaving that much more easy (its never easy, but you know what I mean.) You have to think of your childrens needs before your own, and a lawyer will help you with that. You didn't specify if you were a woman or a man. There are different resources depending on what you are. Give us some more information so we can point you in the right direction.
2007-03-21 17:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by kiss_me_cold_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no best way, nor is there a good way.
It will suck, especially for the 3 children.
2007-03-21 17:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by zaphodsclone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now there's a question. No best or easy way I'm afraid, just be honest I guess. Good luck :o)
2007-03-21 17:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce and raise your kids yourself thats what i did i was married ten years and two children
2007-03-25 16:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quickly, quietly and without fighting
2007-03-21 17:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... with a lot of tears. Be very sure that the reasons are good ones.
I wish you peace.
2007-03-21 17:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
civil
2007-03-21 18:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋