Is it wrong for me to terminate my pregnancy?

Question

Yesterday I posted 2 questions and I got some pretty good responses. Today I want some good answers also. I just went to the doctor and I found out I am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy in a matter of months but if I keep the baby this will be my first child. I terminated my first pregnancy. I am 21 years old and I am in college.My boyfriend has a child already who is 2 yrs old. My parents hate him. They dont know what I see in him and why im with him. He wants me to have the baby just like he did the first time. He takes care of his son and theres no doubt in my mind about him taking care of my child. Hes a very loving father. But anyway I want to keep my baby but as I said yesterday my parents are going to go crazy. What should I do? I can not have another abortion and adoption is totally out of the question..........let me know what to do about my parents. I WANT MY BABY

Answer 1

Keep the baby, you are 21 years old. You are an adult, you can make you own decisions.
YOU CANNOT USE ABORTION AS BIRTH CONTROL! By the time you "want" to have kids, the damage from the abortions could make it impossible.
Please, consider your actions, use protection and stop being so irresponsible. This is the "grown up" world, if you do grown up things, you are expected to make grown up choices.
I am sorry if if I sound harsh, but you are going to do some really great damage to your body and mentality.
Good luck Hon.

Answer 2

Your last sentence says it all: I WANT MY BABY.

Now from there, let's consider that abortion can cause sterility. This is not highly discussed by those who promote abortion, but it is true. You could kill your only baby, I know a lady that did that. In your case you've had a second chance.

You say you are 21, well that has been the age of majority for many years. It is good you are concerned about your parents. There are many parents opposed to a child being pregnant, but reconcile this when the grandchild gets here.

As far as the baby's father taking responsibility, that may or may not happen. He could be run over by a truck tomorrow. As a young person, he is probably not insured and if he is he would need to make you or the baby the beneficiary.

So, consider raising the child by yourself. If something else happens, that is gravy.

Go to a search engine and see if you can find some pictures of your baby in early development. They are really beautiful and a baby looks like a baby, because it is a baby, early on.

See if there is a Crisis Pregnancy Center in your town or near to you. They can help you a lot.

So keep the baby, accept the responsibility and get ready for a pile of blessings, as well as, the work.

God bless.

Answer 3

Your 21 years old, presumably by now you know your own mind, are able to stand on your own two feet, and also understand the ammount of commitment having children takes. If you love your boyfriend and your relationship is rock solid, and your ready for it, then your parents should stand by you all the way, sometimes this is not the case, though your parents have to let you go some time, so you can make your own decisions and learn by your mistakes (be what ever), either way there is no easy solution, though if you've thought it out properly, discussed it, thought about your career, and what happens say you do break up, and you still think having a baby is the right thing to do? then just tell them straight and get it over and done with. Just remember it aint as easy as it seems especially being a single parent trying to juggle a career too, and theres no shame in having an abortion no matter what anybody says just be more carefull! still there is a little good response in there and also something to think about, its your life, there your rules, you do what you think is best for yourself and the baby. your parents, if they love you will follow wether they like it or not, when they know your going to do it anyway.

Answer 4

Not having another abortion is the best for you and the baby. Let me explain- obviously it takes the life of a child- and you do not want to do that again- so don't. You are 21 and your parents may be upset for awhile but they will get over it I am sure- I counsel women who are pregnant all the time- and parents do come around- Adoption is not a bad option for some women- if it was not for adoption, I could have been aborted and so could have my 2 adopted kids. You want your baby, keep your baby- you are an adult. The more abortions you have by they way, the more miscarriages you could have when you want the baby- also maybe you will not be able to get pregnant either- and breast cancer risk rises. Your parents may hate your BF but they will not hate their grandchild. Do the right thing, you know what that is. How are you feeling about your last abortion- if you want to talk more about that please email me,

Answer 5

I don't really understand what your question is. At the end you said you want your baby, so keep it.

You're 21 and you've gotten pregnant twice within the last couple of months. I think something's telling you to have a baby. As for your parents, they can usually see right through anything that might be blinding you about your boyfriend. I can tell you one thing, this guy doesn't understand birth control and it doesn't sound like you do either. But, it's too late for that now and I don't want to lecture you.

If you're asking what you should do about your pregnancy, that's completely up to you. I could tell you how devastating an abortion is and how much it'll change your life but you already know that. You're a very fertile woman if you can get pregnant a few months after an abortion.

Whatever you decide, think it through. And please GOD get on some birth control.

Answer 6

i am going through the same thing with my parents they dont particularly like my bf and i am pregnant i was so scared about telling them i thought my mum would be alright about and my dad would hit the roof well it was the other way around! it has been 3 weeks since i told them and my dad has been supportive the whole way through my mum well she has been changing her mind the whole way through until last night now she is supportive. once you parents know that you are serious about keeping the baby and no matter what anyone says abortion is not an option they will realise that this is what you want! show them that you know that this will not be easy but you will cope! be responsible go out and buyy the book what to expect when you're expecting. by heidi murkoff. talkk to your bf and book yourself in to a hospital you need to do this pretty soon, and when you tell your parents tell them what you have done (booked in to hospital) etc.. im 9 weeks now and i am happy!! on the other hand just think is this the guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with?

Answer 7

Really, you said it all when you said "I WANT MY BABY." It shouldn't matter what your parents think. You are 21--I know that you still care what their opinion is--but once that baby gets here they'll forget about ever being mad about you getting pregnant. Break the news to them as soon as possible--it's much better than having it weigh on your chest. Explain to them before you tell them that you have something you need to share with them, but that it is very hard for you and you really need for them to be understanding and give you their support b/c it can not be undone. If you say it that way, they will be more likely to understand.

Abortion should only be chosen if you are the one that wants it--no one else should ever pressure you into making that decision or you will resent them for doing that for the rest of your life. Good luck! And don't be afraid to be happy--you're having a baby!! It's normal for the parents to hate the boyfriend--my parents always hated my boyfriends and my husband--but what matters is your happiness and that of your baby. Congratulations!

One other thing--being a mom is all about making decisions for your child. To be a good mom you have to be prepared to make the best decision for your child, even if it is in the face of adversity. You have to stand up to the parents of children picking on your child, or face down a snotty teacher that intimidates your child. You have to do what is best for you child, no matter how hard it is! I know this is hard, sweetie. But this is your first decision as being a parent--make it a good one!

Answer 8

I can not have another abortion and adoption is totally out of the question. I WANT MY BABY



that is all that needs to be said
your parent will get over this and past there feeling for him or they wont but you have other things to worry about your going to be a mom

Answer 9

It's your Baby. You want it, the father wants it so you keep it. You shouldn't have killed the first baby. That was a person who didn;t get to live because it wasn't convinient for you. If you dont want to keep it, have the baby then give it up for adoption. It deserves to live. Please do not end it's life before it begins. Your parents don't get to decide anymore.
Remember : Harm None. Even if it won't know, it's still a life
Blessed Be

Answer 10

The answer to your question is yes, very wrong. My mother screamed at me for about 2 hours, my father didn't talk to me for about two weeks. Ultimately, I had a miscarriage at about 4 months along. God has a plan for you and the baby growing inside of you! There are many single mothers out there making it work for them and their babies! You are an adult and your parents will cope. They won't have a choice. Would they really want you to kill their grandchild?! As far as adoption goes there are soo many options, like an open adoption where you still get to play a big part of your child's life. I guess I would start by praying that God will give your parents peace and you guidance.