I met with my ex the other day to get the remainder of my stuff and finalize our divorce papers. She had obviously been crying before I arrived because her eyes were puffy and her voice showed it. She almost cracked a few times as we exchanged things. I have tried for 2 months to reverse things. In that time she met someone and claims she is happy, althoughh her friends thinks she is fooling herself. I think she is letting pride and stubborness force this along. If someone is so happy to move on, should they appear to be so broken up?
2007-03-21 10:19:52 · 14 answers · asked by PuckDog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not sure what this means, but she has turned really cold towards me lately too.
2007-03-21 10:24:58 · update #1
I didnt cheat, but I gave up to fast on our marriage. I have been willing to fix everything that was bothering us
2007-03-21 10:26:37 · update #2
It can happen as the end of any serious relationship can make you question the path you are deciding on. You may know that you are happier or generally have made progress but still be ambivalent about the end. You are basically ending something that you have invested yourself in several ways & it can be difficult when you have to face the loss face to face, so to speak.
So to answer your question, yes you can be happy that a relationship has ended and still be sad that is over and miss being involved with the person.
2007-03-21 10:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Virgo477 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged once when I was younger to a guy that I loved and knew for 8 years....however I just couldn't go through with it. I broke off the engagement knowing in my heart it was the right thing but I was devastated by it. It's mourning the death of a marriage. The reality that you guys couldn;t make it work. No matter how happy she is with someone else, it's still a major event to happen - lots of changes and emotions! At least she's not cold-hearted and you know she cared about your marriage, it simply couldn't work. Sorry you're going thru this.
2007-03-21 10:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let me see if i can explain.
I am wildly happy with my man. My divorce from my husband will be final this Friday and I am NOT sad to see him go. I can't wait to get on with my life with my new man.
BUT.......sometimes, for no good reason I can think of, I go on a crying jag. I DON'T miss the ex in the least. In fact I'm back with the one I was missing the entire 11 years I was married to my husband. I'm happy, safe, secure, and get treated like a princess.
The only explanation for you is that sometimes women just need to cry. Heck sometimes I cry when I'm happy as well. It's just something women do.
2007-03-21 10:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many good answers. If your willing to fix things up with her, just like what you've added, do you think in your heart will still work out? Coz marriage is a lifetime commitment. That's why there's a "for better, for worse" in your marriage. Help her to break free from that pride. And always bear in mind that both of you are wounded and it would really takes time to heal. But you have to know what you really wanted. Good luck to both of you!
2007-03-21 11:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by denathene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you have a talk with her again and show her that pride and stubborness on both your parts is pushing you away from one each other. Show her there is no need for that. Try and be the 'fool' for a while and sees if she catches on. Give it one more real shot before you finally give up. Best of luck
2007-03-21 10:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Elder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because she found someone else doesn't mean she is not still hurting from the break-up. And if she found them within months of breaking-up then it is just a rebound guy. Sometimes we are devasted and cry at the loss but we still know we could never take that person back. Did you cheat? Walk out on her? Hurt her? These are all the reasons that she won't reverse it.....and it probably breaks her heart because although she still loves you, she doesn't trust you.
2007-03-21 10:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crying isn't an emotion yet an action it incredibly is inspired by ability of emotion, between different issues. And the respond is sure. while i've got been so thoroughly inspired that my finished physique shall we pass at the same time with my tear ducts.
2016-10-01 07:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't explain your ex's emotions. This is a question you need to be asking her, especially if you are serious about trying to fix your marriage. You made your mistakes and now she's making hers, you need to understand that and try to show her that you are willing to work at it even if that means some convincing on her part. Ask her why she's so upset if she is genuinely happy.
2007-03-21 10:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy to see a relationship you invested time and emotions in come to an end. It gives the person a sense that they have failed .. they couldn't make the relationship work..even if they initiated the breakups.. a sense of self doubt.. did I do the right thing ??
2007-03-21 10:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably still loves you, but is too afraid to get hurt again, so she would rather suffer without you than suffer and take the chance with you.
2007-03-21 11:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋