i've known him since 9th grade this has happen to me before and i don't understand why wold he say he likes me and then not talk to me any more after i had sex with him.WHY?
2007-03-21 10:10:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you had sex with him.
2007-03-21 10:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you did this before which implies that sexual activity with "friends" didn't work out before either. I'm sorry that you are hurt however friendship is a special type of relationship & if you are having sex then you are not sharing a friendship... you have now entered some new type of relationship with different rules & different consequences.
The only person who can answer this question is the man you slept with... and if he isn't talking to you then all you can do is really move on and make different choices when the situation arises again. Anything else is just speculation, it can be insecurity, inability to communicate, or just a desire to have sex with someone new.
2007-03-21 10:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Virgo477 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely because he is confused and trying to sort through how he feels about you. Perhaps he never made love with someone that he had such a close friendship with and it freaked him out. Remember the movie When Harry Met Sally? They were the best of friends and hung out all the time.
Then, they crossed that friendship line and Harry couldn't handle it. Later in his life, he realized that he loved Sally...all along, he loved her and almost lost her. Keep in mind that sometimes people that care for one another are not on the same page in life at the same time....and circumstances on one side can keep the relationship from developing. Just be his friend and don't push.
2007-03-21 10:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn the lesson...this isn't uncommon when people have sex. Some just aren't mature enough to handle it and don't feel comfortable interacting with the other person anymore. Sex does tend to change relationships in some way, either for better or worse...things are rarely ever the same.
2007-03-21 10:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be several reasons:
1) he is embarrassed about it
2) he really likes you
3) he wonders what you are thinking and is afraid to find out.
Do you have feelings for him? If not, why did you risk a friendship. It will never be the same. You will have to either figure out if you do have feelings for him, or live with the fact that your friendship will always be different now.
2007-03-21 10:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl, I know dawm right you don't give it up to NO man no matter how long you'v been knowing him...And if you wanna give it up make shure its what YOU want, and you really care for this person don't take sex for a game. And by what I have heard....thats all he wanted he never took you serious Sorry but its true + you dont deserve that you deserve better*
2007-03-21 10:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer is simple my friend. I am a guy and out of my selfeshness I did the same thing with one of my friends. If you start pulling away, he will try and get you back. Best advice (from experience on the other side) is stop having sex with this guy and just be friends unless he wants to date.
2007-03-21 10:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jack J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because all he wanted was sex, and he probably feels very awkward about having sex with someone he knows for so long. Stop calling him and let him come to you, if he doesn't then you know that it wasn't meant to be.
2007-03-21 10:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's afraid that he has some real feelings for you <3 and hes afraid to move on to a serious relationship
2007-03-21 10:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you should never have sex with a friend it ruins the friendship and now he is probably regretting it himself and maybe he think's less of you or of himself for doing it...
2007-03-21 10:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad but true guys are jerks they make us believe that ooh they like us they get what they want and dump us like that same here just happend to me like 3 weeks ago i know how u feel just forget about him show him that you dont need him and that you can do better. Dont take no BS from him or anyone. Good luck
2007-03-21 10:17:31 · answer #11 · answered by ms.olveraangelica 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋