My wife recently went on vacation and after returning there was a few pictures on her friends myspace they were of her and another guy she had her shirt off and his hands were between her legs and under her bra. there is also one of her sitting on the stairs and he is standing in front of her leaning inbetween her legs. there are a few more but i think you get the picture. i confronted both of them and they both said the say exact thing but the guy at first had nothing to say to defend himself but then it was "it was nothing and nothing happened so drop it theres nothing to worry about." my wife has been known to be very flirty when she drinks and she says that she doesnt even remember some of those pictures she was so drunk. i dont think that i can trust her anymore what should i do?
Thanks for the help
2007-03-21 10:04:28 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His hands between her legs and under her bra?..Dude, if you dont have kids with your wife, you need to drop her. Once a cheater--always a cheater. Dont wait until she brings home herpes or genital warts until you get the picture. For the record, I'm a 30 year old woman---and I'm here to tell you that your wife has NO respect for you--and she will continue to walk all over you, cheat on you, and flirt with guys. What more do you have to see until you accept reality
If you dont have kids with her--cut your losses and find a woman who truly loves you. If you do have kids--then call get counceling as soon as possible.
2007-03-21 10:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she and her friends are comfortable enough to post inappropriate photos of her on social media implies that all three of them take you for a fool. Frankly, they don't respect you one bit. If indeed there was drinking involved, then the photos would have been of a poor quality because the person operating the camera would have been drunk as well.
In fact, her friend knows that there's something between your wife and the other guy. They just want to test your response, and to use this as a decoy to cement the affair, so that you dont raise any objections when you see them together. Plus, any decent friend would not post such incriminating material on social media.
Don't take any of that disrespect from her. She would have accused you of infidelity if the roles were reversed. Try and get to the bottom of this. I'll bet you that her private communication with this guy via text and email will come in handy. Also, if her friend cannot look you in the eye when you're talking to her, or subtily avoids you, then you've been had!
I hope this helps.
Good luck!
2014-12-21 12:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Aristotle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible "nothing happened," but you're in a tough spot. If she was so drunk she doesn't remember the pix being taken, she was drunk enough for her inhibitions to be down. Even if she wasn't wanting to do anything, would the man control himself?
First of all, print copies of the pix, if they're still there. Preserve the evidence in case you need it later.
How's your marriage overall? Is it worth saving? If so, I'd suggest you insist on counseling--1. she goes on vacations alone; 2. she drinks heavily; 3. she does inappropriate things while drunk. You should insist she get help for her drinking and also that she go on no more vacations alone. Even if "nothing happened," this is serious. At the very least, she has severely damaged the trust that should undergird her marriage.
I don't think anybody would blame you if you divorced her. She has done real damage here. If you decide to stay, do print the pix--something may happen again later, w/o pix, and you may need them in court.
Brown'n suggested you "Keep tabs on the other guy." Wish I'd thought of that! Hire a private detective. You'll find out soon enough.
2007-03-21 10:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by Maryfrances 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u and her r man and wife Y is she going on vacation by her self. What kind of marriage do u have there is no way in the world that my husband is going on a vacation with out me unless we were divorced. U know how Ur wife is what is she doing taking pic. with another man that is not u. It would not be that bad if she knew what happened, but she can't even remember that!!!
U sound like u r OK with this I know for a fact that if my husband saw pic. like that of me OH MAN!!!!
Lets just say he wouldn't be typing here to ask what to do. It would b so over.........No questions asked.
Mayb she know u did something b4 and she is getting back at u. If that is the case the only one looking bad Is her. Yes I mayb old school, But I have more respect for my self since I have to live with my action not u.
I wish u the best.....l
2007-03-21 10:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. However, let's look at what you know. Even if they didn't have sex, they acted inappropriately if nothing else and that in itself is a reason to no longer trust her. In my opinion, I would talk to her again and I think I would put my foot down on her drinking outside of the home or only when you are with her. If she gets out of line then take her home. In other words, I am not sure the marriage should break up over this but if it continues you may have to make a decision.
2007-03-21 10:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she cheated and she will continue to lie about it just get a divorce before you find out she's pregnant and you're not the father.
2015-04-27 01:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Robert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur the same guy with the wifes love for me or friends! At the rate ur going - the end is almost obvious. Don't let her drink. Keep tabs on the other guy and see where this goes. Somebody will feel uncomfortable and it shouldn't be u.
2007-03-21 10:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something happened. I hate hearing that beer made them do it, or they can't remember, they do they choose to act like they don't. I would push the issue, ask some friends that were with her and tell them you need peace of mind. Ask them if it was their spouse wouldn't they want to know. If she gets pissed because your asking her friends, then she gets pissed. She shouldn't have taken those photos in the 1st place. What is her myspace account. I want to see the pics!
2007-03-21 10:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should be: Should a wife and husband take seperate vacations?
My boyfriend doesn't think either of us should do vacations, or even guys and girls nights out. I agree. ( maybe cause we don't have that many friends around here).
I wouldn't trust her as far as I could spit! My teeth would even fly further! :-)
Dump her azz.
2007-03-21 10:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think a little holiday fling is worth wrecking your marriage over, go ahead and scream the place down.
You say you 'don't think you can trust her anymore' as if there's some uncertainty about it. Let's get this straight: you quite obviously don't.
Again: if this is all it takes to wreck your feelings, then I don't think it's much of a relationship to begin with.
CD
2007-03-21 10:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋