Can i take my pregnant girlfriend back?

Question

Hi,can anyone please help? my girlfriend of 2 yrs is now 5 1/2 mnths pregnant,when she 1st told me i wasnt that thrilled but now i have got over the shock and cant wait to be the doting dad ive always wanted to be.The trouble is we had been having a few probs mainly her accusing me of cheating (which i havent) it all got a bit to much so we decided to have a break to think for a cpl of weeks.In which time we spoke every day but didnt see each other.I was out last weekend & she was trying to get hold of me but couldnt so things got bad we didnt talk.After calming down i made contact after a cpl of days she thought it wa over so decided to tell me that the baby may not be mine that she cheated back when we had a rocky patch with her ex.She has told me everything & sworn on her 2 kids lives that it only happened once that she loves me & wants to sort things out & be a family again.The ex is not the father to her other children.What do i do? if the child is mine i will support it 200%

Answer 1

show her what you have told us on here.

Answer 2

if you truly love her and can trust her then take her back. being a daddy is totally diff from being a father(sperm donor) she was prob accusing you only because of what she had done. a deep conversation will help you have to make sure the new baby if not yours wont be thrown in your face(get a DNA test to be sure) or used as a weapon if she is the vindictive type stay away all together. just take care of the baby if yours. people get so used to being with one person that it kinda clouds there judgment trust me Ive been there. its hard to leave something alone that's so familiar even when you know its not right. you don't have to be with her just because of a child. think back to why you split in the first place and remember an ex is an ex for a reason. good luck

Answer 3

Sounds like there is a lot going on. You really need to sit down and have a face to face talk through things. Lay down the rules first- Be honest, no yelling, no name-calling etc. Just talk through things rationally. It's great that you are committed to the unborn child- Will you feel the same way if it turns out it isn't yours? Would you support it the same? Keep in mind that she is probably having a rough time with her hormones all over the place so it is probably a confusing time for her, especially. Just have a talk with her and keep your mind open so you can work through these things together. Try to rebuild some trust.

Answer 4

If she’s insecure and is going to be deceitful like that then you should get rid of her, she isn’t worth your time.
On the other hand, if she only told you she cheated just to mess with your head then you have an even greater cause to get rid.
You don’t need that stress. If the child is yours then you should support it.
On the other hand, you could always demand a DNA test to find out if you really are the father.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

the relationship sounds very unstable, you need to get a DNA test and if the child is yours, you can support it, but you will always have to have some form of a relationship with your girlfriend at least for the child's sake but it doesn't mean you have to be in a romantic relationship with her again especially since she has already cheated on you, sometimes people are better off without each other and you could do alot better in another relationship that is actually built on trust, etc....

Answer 7

maybe she has said this because she was upset her hormones will be all over the place at the mo so try an talk to her im glad that you will support the child if it is yours but please what ever you do dont get bk 2 getha just for the babys sake as it isnt fair on the child if you love her an she loves you then im sure things will work out good luck x

Answer 8

Sounds like a Maury Povich episode. You both need to let each other go but get along for the sake of the child.

Answer 9

Only you can answer that question. At least she told you about cheating but will you ever trust her again? If you choose to take her back then I would suggest that you go to some kind of counciling as I am guessing these isues will not just vanish.

Answer 10

This is a very unstable relationship. There is a lot of trust issues that is unresolved. You should cut your loses with this relationship and if the baby is yours then support it. There is too many good women out there for you to stay in this unstable relationship.

Answer 11

I suppose you answered your own question in that last sentance really. If the child is not your will you still support it and be a good male role model to it??