What are some reasons that people get divorces? I'm fixing to get married and I don't want to divorce so I wanna make sure everything is in order.
He says that he wants to marry me, but he doesn't like talking to me about things that we have to, how can I make him wanna talk?
2007-03-21 09:59:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you want to marry a man who doesn't "talk"?
That is one thing that is big in a marriage!
I'd STOP thinking about marriage until he starts a talking.
It, "no talking" is one reason couples split up. Other things are: lack of sex, affairs, lies, and money matters ( even though I don't think people should end a mariage cause of money), but that's my thoughts.
Hold off honey in marrying him. He has to be more communitive than he is being.
2007-03-21 10:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons. I will list a few for you in no certain order.
1)Physical or verbal abuse-It can happen in any relationship and can come from a male or female. Both sides are guilty. It may seem hard for you to believe but we often hurt the people we love the most.
2)Cheating. After someone has been with someone for a while some people unfortunatley get bored. They want to stray which is morally wrong but occurs all the time.
3)Family. When you marry someone you marry their family as well. If a parent, etc doesn't like them you may have to choose and that is not fun.
4)Money. There are a ton of arguments over money. You and your fiance need a financial plan and to be frank decide who is in charge of the money.
5)Difference in morals,ethics, or religious beliefs. Different people have a different take on what is right or wrong. If you are not on the same page with your mate, that is an argument waiting to happen.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 17:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tina L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it's a cliche', but very true - communication is THE key. Soooo, if he's telling you he doesn't want to talk to you much, you already have a bit of a problem to begin with. If you two are going to marry he HAS to talk to you. You two are going to have a lot of things come up, and you're going to have to decide together what to do. The only way to do that is talk (is he lazy?).
Another key element is to remain close and have friends and interests in common. I'm divorced, and the mistake my ex and I made was developing separate sets of friends. One of hers became very special to her, and then we had to decide how to untangle the mess. I eventually decided to leave (She was confused regarding whom she would become coupled. That in and of itself was a decision to me and I left.). Do avoid this mistake. If you stay close to one another, and truly take an interest in one another, you should be able to avoid this one.
Good luck and be sure. He seems a bit shaky to me.
2007-03-21 17:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be that you shouldn't marry him unless he is a very nice person, and until you have been with him in a lot of different situations.
If something goes wrong, is he stil nice?
If he's in an awkward social situation, can he maintain his equilibrium?
If you screw something up, is he hard on you?
If you are both at fault for something, does he blame you?
If absolutely everything goes wrong, does he still have a sense of humor?
Be careful who you marry. It's a whole lot easier to get married than it is to get divorced.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 17:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about a pre-nup? This is a good time to think about protecting your assets.
Why do people get divorced?
They feel unloved
After the wedding one or both shows their true identity
Addiction (any and all of them)
Lack of communication
Lack of sex
Lack of companionship
Adultery
They take each other for granted
They become abusive
2007-03-21 17:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you want to fix to get married, then this marry is not for both of you, back off if I were you.
2007-03-21 17:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is a #1 priority for making any relationship work....remember this, men do not change...either accept this at it is or move on
2007-03-21 17:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you set yourself up for failure? If you can't communicate now, do you think it will improve later? Don't waste your time trying to change someone, you deserve better.
2007-03-21 18:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most couples fight about money, sex, porno on internet, lack of help around house, money problems, lack of sex ( yes these were covered again )
2007-03-21 17:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
infidelity
2007-03-21 20:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by dƒ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋