My family hates my boyfriend because I have a great job and he is unemployed at the moment. We are starting a business together and I know that we would be successful. However, they have started spreading rumors that he beats me and posted it on the internet. He finally said today that he has had enough of the abuse (my mother cursed him out in front of his 4 year old daugther). I don't want to break up with him. I want him to ignore them. Am I asking too much. What should I do?
2007-03-21 09:58:02 · 13 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u will either need to decide to accept him and stay away from family....or accept the family and stay away from him....only u can decide what is best...remember your family loves u and is only trying to do what is best for u...they do not mean u any harm; however, as nice as they are it is your life and u get to live it any way u please....
2007-03-21 10:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off - ur family is outrageously innappropriate. if ur over 18, the relationship is off limits to them aside from offering an opinion.
second - it's ur job to protect him from ur family, not his to ignore them; u need to atand up to them and tell them to leave him alone
third- he's unemployed & has a child; girl, R U SERIOUS? this man should be hustling & making $ any legal way possible! not starting a business with his GF! not sure what ur ages are or what the business is, but this doesn't sound good. u need a guy that's already doing well, not someone who COULD do well with your help in starting a business! ur family may be right about him not being right for you
2007-03-21 17:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are looking out for your best interest! How do you expect to open a business with an unemployed boyfriend??? You are fooling yourself!! He's a Father and still unemployed??? You are being taken for a ride and only your parents see it!! If he's so disgusted with the way they treat him, THEN WHY DOESN'T HE JUST GET A JOB, ANY JOB??? What about him supporting his child???
2007-03-21 17:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stand up for your man and tell your family to buzz off until they can learn to accept him. He shouldn't have to ignore them he should be calling the cops on them for harrassment. It's not fair to him. Just because a man is unemployed does not give reason for the girls family to treat him like crap! I had the same problem, but after a week of not speaking to my mother (after giving her a piece of my mind) she called and apologized because she didn't want to lose me.
2007-03-21 17:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hold a family meeting with your family & friends and tell them how this is affecting your relationship. Let them know how you feel about your boyfriend and give him the opportunity to say how he feels about you and everything you're both doing. Tell them that if they can't accept it, to get out of your lives.
2007-03-21 17:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey this relationship is between the both of you. If you really want him you have to come to this decision that him and his daughter are your family. Man you have to keep away from them and keep him away from them. Don't totally lock them off just talk to them now and again.
Just keep him away from them and threaten your mother that you would stop talking to her if she doesn't treat the man of your dreams right. Stick around his family more often then yours.
2007-03-21 17:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are asking quite a bit if you expect him to just grin and bear it. perhaps you can do that because they are your family and you're much more used to how they are. but he isnt and he shouldnt be subjected to that kind of treatment. if you want him to grin and bear it then at least meet him halfway, cut your family off even if its temporary. you need to make sure they know that you are making your own decisions. if you dont make that clear to them you may find yourself dealing with the same issues with your next boyfriend.
2007-03-21 17:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are asking too much. It's not his job to fend off your family, it's yours! You need to pick either your family or him, it's that simple.
Really he needs to dump you as your family is a nightmare. He doesn't need that drama, which would be never ending, he needs a girl that will love him first...not second.
2007-03-21 17:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason that your family is acting this way, there just has to be. Probably, if you want to stay with him, the only way he will want to is if you tell your family with him there, that you aren't going to accept this behavior from them.
Something has to be going on though, for them to act this way.
2007-03-21 17:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to break up with him - you might have to "break up" with your family. It will be easier for him to ignore them if they're not around. He doesn't deserve such treatment; if you're not gonna stick up for him, then let him go and find someone your family will approve of.
2007-03-21 17:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋