My wife and I have been married for 4 years and love eachother very much. For the past 4 years I have kept this inside but now I can't anymore and need to know what to do.
When she talks to her guy friends that she has known since she was a kid she tells them that she loves and misses them before she hangs the phone up. Also when writting them emails or what not she tells them that she loves them. Am I just a jealous freak or should she stop doing this. It makes me feel like when she says it to me it doesnt mean anything because she loves 20 other men and says i love you the same way to them as she does me.
Thanks for the help. I would rather do this than to fight with her.
2007-03-21 09:56:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is just like you, however he came to realize that there was nothing beyond the friendship shown. he's still a little skeptical about some of them but he understands that i don't feel anything more than that. plus it helps that i always reassure him. tell her how u feel about it. There is a difference in how she says 'luv u' to them and "love you" to u.
2007-03-21 10:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the fact that they were her friends from child hood, you should not be that jealous. Although, you do have the right to be, you are her husband. If you married this woman, talking to her about something like this should never be an issue. You are the man in the marriage and also the head of your home, if you dont take a stand then what happens to your home, your life, your marriage, your kids if any? Keeping things inside can have a very bad effect in the long run because you are onoly human and sometimes we just need to vent and let out the disgust we feel inside because it is really not healthy for the mind. Yes, she may say she loves them but THATS IT, YOU ARE HER HUSBAND, SHE LOVES YOU AND THATS WHY YOU TWO ARE MARRIED TODAY. ask yourself, has she ever given you any other reason to doubt her love for you that would be damaging to your marriage - if you can say no then talk to her about it and let her know how you feel, also let her know you do not like it and according to what she says is on you as to how it should be taken care of or not - you are being a husband, your not a jealous freak!
2007-03-21 10:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by thetruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being jealous. If she wanted them, she wouldn't have married you. I'm sure she does love them if they've been life-long friends to her- but in a brotherly way. Would you get mad if she told her brother she loved him? Trust me, don't make an issue of this.
2007-03-21 10:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you most definitley need to talk to her about. Communication is extreamely important in a relationship, especially marriage. You need to communicate to her that this is an issue for you (and a very valid one at that) and you need to sit down and discuss it. Don't talk to her in any confrontational tone or accuse her of anything and she most likely will be more responsive to your concern.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 10:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Leyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who'd she marry? relax, we all do it. If she's know them this long, it's to be expected, they are like adopted brothers to her. I have a few of those. My hubby is used to it now. I remind him that he's the one I married!
2007-03-21 10:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know i think she has no rightt to tell another guy that she loves them the only guy she should ever tell that to is you her hubby not some "guy friends" you have every righ to be annoyed with her talk to her calmly about it and tell her how you feel abou tit maybe she doesn't know?
2007-03-21 11:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she shouldn't be doing that since she is married she needs to get over her past boyfriends
2007-03-25 09:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves me too... but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you... she just loves you more cause she married you. as long as she's not sleeping around.. you're fine. relax and watch college basketball.
2007-03-21 10:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she married u didnt she?
2007-03-21 10:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Stinky007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋