One of my friend got a arranged marriage, but the boy was not suitable for her in any matter no good looking no education no proper job. but the edcation n job was hidden by boys side. my friend is very smart she just agreed the boy for not demanding dowry , but on the first night it self she lossed her happiness wen she came to know that the boy even did not comlete his SSLC n don have good job, wher she was a DE&CE passed and drawing a good salary. But she sacrified a lot for her hub wen he lost his job n wen he was suffering from diabetes n skin deises. she built house for them bought a car for her hub so that he can do school trips n she looked after the family for 3 year with out her hubs contribution. But ther was no issuefor the couple as her hub was not good in sex. she was working for 12 hours to serve her family. .He din care for her wen she was hospitalized. Now she loves one who is younger to her n he cares for a lot ready to give her a life n no doubt he is a genious.
2007-03-21 09:54:14 · 12 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The boy whom she loves has helped her a lot wen she was hospitalised. he was praying all the god for her fast recovery , later when he found that her hub is not caring her n only thinks of money he suggested her hub to improve businees but her hub was not intrested in any thing n just worried of money. funniest thing is during she was hospitalised she was just a skeliton and her husband was making fun of her figure, but the boy descided to marry her in that situation. Now she is staying in her mothers house (last one year after discharging from hospital). She started doing new business with that boy he spend a money on a business which is in her name. She applied for divorce. her parent agreed fo divorce but asking her to marry some other guy (not yet seen) and they don want her to mingle with the boy who loves her. She too loves that boy a lot n she needs her parent to agree which is doubt. Please suggest..... my friend is a very kind n good person.
2007-03-21 10:53:03 · update #1
No!! The married life can not be run on one wheel. Contribution of both wife and husband is of great significance.
Since you friend has done her best to tow the cultural line to her best possible, its very much needed for her to pay attention towards the need of her future.
A lady is incomplete if she is unable to produce a child, its totally killing her dreams. She needs a good husband to fullfill her love and desire, a careing and intelligent husband.
No female love such tardy and weak male even in animals and birds, after all we are human beings.
That fellow doesnot know how to care his wife also, its better to divorce but ensure that she keeps all the financial controll throughout the life with her next husband.
May god bless her, have a fresh life.
2007-03-21 22:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely wrong. You are asking this question instead of her: Then in this point she is lacking.
We cannot see a perfect match or total difference: This is the nature: Marriage over. So she has to accommodate and make him a perfect man: This is possible; It will take time: But she must be very tolerable to do all:
Your point: she divorce and marry another loving person: From your words: before this marriage she might have love with another person: This is the worst character for a woman than all the character of that man .. uneducated,drunker,jobless &etc
So you think the lover has all perfect expected character: Oneday he will tell you are already divorcee and I cannot expect good from you
My opinion
" live with what we have" and make comfort
2007-03-21 22:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently this is a religious and cultural issue for your friend. Here in the U.S. for the most part divorce is ok with a great number of people...but again depending on religious and cultural back ground. This is something that she is going to have to look into.....Personally, I am all for happiness, and it appears that she and her family were kept in the dark so to speak about this guy that ended up marrying...especially when it came to his education. I understand that he has medical problems, but this should not keep him from working. I think that for a marriage to be successful....both partners should give 100%. Your friend has given, way above that. I wish her luck and happiness....but this is a religious and cultural decision that she has to make, and it is not our place to say, because we are apparently not of the same religion and culture.
2007-03-21 17:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish this was asked by the person herself.
But I say she should see a lawyer and find out, what is the penalty for divorce, she has suffered and no one should suffer any further, yes it is a cultural, ethical, religious and moral issue but she needs a good lawyer to protect her from legal plundering of her assets, in case of the divorce.
Tell her to see a lawyer soon.
2007-03-21 18:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has to take a brave decision to make her future a happiest one. She shoudn't bouther about parent or others who never give her a happiness n peace. Age is not the question for marriage. atleast let her start a good life now. Ask her to forget her past n start a new future. gud luck to ur friend
2007-03-21 17:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by su 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read your question only.So my answer is only for the question and not for the details given below.The husband's non matchable should not arise because of the love affair.Then it is a sin.If the disqualification arises first and then the love means it is not a sin.
2007-03-22 09:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by kandaswamyraveendhranperumal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is fine to divorce and get married again but she should live independently for some time and hv full check on the guy cos if this guy also turns as the first guy then she is in hell.
2007-03-21 17:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by rishi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your belief system I suppose. I don't think it is a sin to get a divorce and re-marry. That's up to your friend.
2007-03-21 17:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-22 14:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sin. She deserves a better life. Just make sure that he is the right guy for her.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-22 02:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋