Im a pretty shy girl. Its always bugged me but I think Im getting better at it. Well I have a b/f and he is the complete opposite of that. He's very outgoing and can talk to anyone. Well Ive known him for almost a year and a half and we have been dating for about 8 months. Sometimes he gets annoyed with the fact that Im shy. I dunno, Im just sort or scared that he may ultimatly break up with me because of that. Am I just being paranoid or are there any ways that might help me open up a little more? Please answer
2007-03-21 09:53:13 · 4 answers · asked by Neek 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its really rude of him to not accept and try to change u to his will...What if u arnt shy anymore..what next would he wnat u to change.Its understandable if someone asks u to change ur lathargic habits but sits another thing to try to change the root of someones identity.All ppl dont need to be outgoing..I was shytoo ..but trying to get rid of it just made it worse. Hope u get to knowwhat is making u shy..Is it what ppl will opinionate ablout u the fact that makes u shy?? Is it ur lack of connection and trust on ppl that made u shy in the first place..All these are ALRIGHT reasons..Itscircumstances that shape us an dmake us who we are..Look for a guys who would cherish u for u not his prototype. If he was in ur place he would know that SHY is not just a word u could undo and become NOT SHY..Its alotof things that go on inside ur head. Hope u get what is good for u...whether it is being ur shy and sensitive self ...or someone who is outgoing and social..
But take it form me...dont live inside urself coz it gets kindoflonely and dark inside.
And do so comfortabily.. not as an imposition and u will see..itmight just work!
Best of luk.
2007-03-21 10:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...I'm a total hypocrite for giving you advice because I'm really shy too, but I'm pretty good at giving advice to other people. I'll name a couple of the things that I do and didn't even notice until like, a week ago.
1. eye contact- this is my main problem and I notice a lot of other people do it too. Make sure you actually look people in the eye(not creepy-like, but sincere) and not down at your shoes or into space. Avoiding eye contact tends to make people think you are lying to them.
2. voice- When you are talking, make sure that you are actually loud enough for people to hear you. Face the people you are talking to. You will probably make even more friends when people realize what a great personality you have!
3.posture- The last hint I want to give you is about posture. I don't know about you, but I am between average and tall in height. I tend to slouch because I really don't like having people look at me. If you do this, try wearing an outfit that you REALLY, REALLY like for a day. I do this occasionally, and I feel so confident that I stand up straight. People always compliment my looks that day and I feel great! I'm sure you would too!
I hope this helps!!!
2007-03-21 17:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by ravenclaw125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he would just have to deal with it now..huh...im the same way .but my hubs dont mind it he likes me for me...not other reason.
2007-03-21 16:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Stinky007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it, if it is ment to be you wil be together
2007-03-21 17:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋