My problem and I need opinions and advice - serious plz - I just tend to Always Runaway .............?

Question

Previously I used to runaway from tiny things - situations that were unpleasent, running to anywhere far from there. I also was never able to face situations - like if parents were fighting - I'd stay in my room, and just stay silent....
High school - and relationships - I'd tend to take my car and just head off for long drives, walk for km's, go to someplece that would just let me get away from all my troubles - someplace silent....
Lost my best friend when i was in the 5th grade, god abused as a kid, and a few others close to me, changed schools, put on weight, depression - I've delt with all that - Including my family who does not really love me, to say the least, and is not fond of me...

well, recently I've had this strange want - to just leave the city for a few years -- and I need to do that...

But I am trying to understand all this - and why i keep running....
can someone plz help me understand myself? why? what do i do? and advice plz

Answer 1

hi, most of the time the world is just not fair. and running away from it is sometimes good. but most of the time it is just wise to face it and just be positive about the whole thing. think of what can make things better. control the situation. for example, when your parents are fighting, grab hold of the situation by hugging your mom and tell her that you are sad that they are fighting. then do thesame to your dad. whatever the reaction is, just dont do anything. if they talk to you make conversation .then go to your room. then in the future do it again without saying anything. always control the situation. dont accept the way things are. you have to be a fighter. dont accept the fact that your family does not love you. initiate it. be the first to say it. hug your parents .one day at a time. even from behind while they are sitting. just change things around.start changing things around. dont just run away from it. if you really want to leave the city for a while maybe stay with a relative for a weekend. or maybe just stay in a hotel for a weekend. a change in scenery is good sometimes. but you have to notify your parents even at your age. its just loving to notify them where you are. so, start changing things around. dont accept things that you dont like. change it. change things the way you like it to be. it wont happen over night. it will be an uphill battle. but be persistent. be strong. be vocal be possitive.

Answer 2

We should never run away from unpleasant or difficult situations because we can learn only in diversity and adversity.

This is they way of Life to teach us and make us grow. By facing situations we get to know how to survive them.

I am telling this from my personal experience for example

1. When I got so much beating from my dad for little things, I distanced myself from him and I missed many important lessons from him and most important, understanding with him

2. When my aunt did something, I distance myself from her and I developed myself being uneasy and uncomfortable being with women and opening up.

3. When my cousins spoke dirty stuff for common aunts and know girls and all that, I kept myself away from them and I missed the leaning experience from those guys

So, we cannot learn swimming by sitting at the bank, one has to get into water to learn. So, next time you find an unpleasant or difficult situation, be in it, forget the bad things and keep the experience that you learn. Difficult and awkward situations is a way of life to make us wise and learned