I have been married for 11 years. I have four beautiful children. My husband has treated me badly for most of our marriage. I recently started seeing a man who is going through much of the same things as me. (we both want out fo our current marriages) He has children also. Even before we slept together our relation ship was beautiful and it continues to grow everyday. We knew eachother when we were younger and have always had a special connection. I truely love him. Now I am pregnant...just barely...I want to tell him. Is there a romantic yet practical way of telling him given our situation? Neither of us was planning on more children....however...abortion is completely out of the question.
we know we will be together no matter what......this just is something we didn't plan on. any advice?
2007-03-21 09:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by NaturalWitch07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jeez I don't know.
EVER HEARD OF DIVORCE???
2007-03-21 10:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is quite a mess you have created for yourself, your children, the cheater's children and now the child you have conceived with someone else's husband. And you want to be romantic? I think you are living in a fantasy land and need mental health counseling.
You cheated with a cheater.
You both have kids.
You are going to have a kid with the cheater.
You're both still married and lying to your spouses.
Not only are you immature and selfish, but also incredibly irresponsible. If you didn't want more children, surely you have heard of BC? Or better yet, refrained from having sex outside of your marriage - now there's a thought! None of the above would apply right now.
Romantic - get real. What you have is a great big mess that you created along with another selfish, immature person. Congratulations! You are a wonderful influence on your children!
2007-03-21 17:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope I'm not confused but I think you want to tell your lover and not your husband that you are pregnant. This is not the time for romance, just tell him so that you two can deal with the situation and figure out what you're going to do from here on out. Are you both going to continue in loveless marriages or are you going to do what you need to do and stop lying to your partners so that you two can be together?
2007-03-21 17:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont know what to tell you, sounds like you have made a few bad choices. Now that you got yourself pregnant again, i dont really see anyway out of telling the husband. Hes gonna notice an extra little one running around. should have used protection, but didnt so get started on the divorce papers, custody and all that because when you tell him hes gonna freak. good luck with the new bf, cause hes gonna be sharing your boat.
2007-03-21 16:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you want to tell you are pregnant -- your husband? The man who is cuckolding your husband? A third man you haven't mentioned? And you are finding happiness, a sense of personal fulfillment, and self-actualization out of all this? Good grief!
2007-03-21 17:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if you tell your husband what has happened, he will want out just as much as you will.
I'm not sure there is a romantic way to say "I don't love you any more, honey" or "I had an affair" or whatever.
You could buy him flowers, I guess. He'd hate that.
Most women start with "Honey, we have to talk."
2007-03-21 16:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should have divorced your husband before you had this affair. Now you're pregnant? Why would you do that to your family? Don't you believe in birth control? Geez.
2007-03-21 16:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to beat a dead horse, but I had the same situation with the guy I was cheating with. I said "I'm pregnant" he said "I think I want to work things out with my wife". So be careful
2007-03-21 17:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by mrshunley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be surprised if your friend wasnt lying to get into your pants, now you will have to explain it to your husband, I would suspect your BF to run the other direction when you tell him you are pregnant,
good luck to you
2007-03-21 16:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really screwed...again!!
2007-03-21 16:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋