i want a baby.?

Question

im 14 years old and i want a baby. my hole life i have alwayz been told that i cant do anything . theres never been any one to love me. i want a baby cuz it will always love me an i think i could take care if so i wanted one near the age of 16. in some ways i no this is ridiculous and it may ruin my life. but ive never wanted anything as badly as i want my own child. i dont want to hear ppls BS i want ppls actual help im rlly confused.

i dont have my parents. and my spelling and grammers fine. its just i use zs instead of s's .

Answer 1

hon, im in the same boat. its motherly hormones racing around in ur head and u dont want ur own kid. not at ur age, my best freind just had one and she used to a a swimmer w/ a 3.8 and now has a 2.0 and has no time for anything execept her two month old son. what u should do is get a cat or a puppy, something suddly htat you can fedd and take care of but dose not ruin ur life, thats what i did and now my Muchki is my favorite thing in the world! so go get a PET thats all urs to take care of!

Answer 2

I feel bad for you, if you are only 14 and you want a baby..You have your whole life ahead of you and your should to be enjoying it not wanting to start another life. Yes! I agree Babies are cute and lovable, but they are lots of work and very demanding. Having a baby is not something that you can just set aside and forget about it, not like a CD or movie (pick it up when you want). Have you told your mom/dad about this? Do you have an adult you trust to talk with? You really need to set you mind on your school and your grades so you will have good job to support yourself then, once you have that out of the way start your family. Coming from experience it is no fun having to get a job because you need to support another life and I will tell you that don't depend on the baby's father to help, most guys hear baby/pregnant and they run the opposite direction quickly..Hope this helps you in some way and for the best.

Answer 3

You do NOT want a baby @ 14. Who is going to support the baby? You can't even work yet. Who's going to care for the baby while you go to school? Even if you do have the baby @ 16 your going to be raising by yourself, there is no man going to stand up and take care of a 16 year olds baby expecially not if he's 16 or younger. If he's 18 years or older he'll just go to jail and then what? How do you figure you can take care of a baby? The baby has to have diapers (goes thru about 20 or more a day) that's just a little under a pack a day. Diapers aren't cheap. What about formula do you know how much that costs? $15 a can and the baby can go thru about 4 cans a week. Then you have to have clothes, somewhere for it to sleep (crib, basinette) those costs up in the hundreds. then you have to take the baby every where you go, you can't just go out w/ friends anymore w/o having the baby on your hip. Not only that but you'll gain a lot of weight during pregnancy and ugly stretch marks that never go away! Seriously, think it thru before you even have unprotected sex.

Answer 4

Hey Baby girl I think You should wait I know some people who had babies at 12 and 13 and they would tell u to it's not worth it your looking to feel that void in your life something is missing and you shouldn't try to replace it with a child look deep inside yourself and you will see what you really want to do listen to your heart cause baby girl you have a lot of room left to grow and when you have a child at a young age you have to miss alot and start being an adult no matter what me or anybody says it's all up to you if you still find that you want to have a baby then find some one with a baby that will let you take care of it for a weekend or so. Just so u could get a feel for what your in store for.NOTE:Babies and children are fun when you can return them keep that in mind . GOOD LUCK ON YOUR SEARCH. LATER

Answer 5

I felt the same way you did. I thought having a baby was the right thing to do. Having a baby that early is not a good idea. At 16 you really can't provide much for your child. You should think about finishing school and college and get a career a home do you have a car hao will you get your child to apts, what about baby sitting health insurance, how will you pay for all those things. It's best to wait so you can give your child the best possible life.

Answer 6

According to me each one of us has been born to achieve something before leaving this world and you also have been destined for great things in life. At 14, life is not always like a rosy dream but as a teenager often things are hard and I understand that perfectly but this does not justify your desire for a baby. You have your full life in front of you. Study, work, do some activities because there is a time for parenthood which I believe at 14 is really tough to assume. Look enjoy life, don't listen to the bad comments of people. Take only the good ones. And at such a young age to be a mother, you will feel old and will be envious of others who are just having fun. Everything has its own time and you have to wait for the Mr. Right.The one who will give you so much love that your whole life will change for the best. So just a bit of patience and yes one thing do believe in yourself and love yourself. My good wishes are with you.

Answer 7

Well this is what you need to think about 1st. You are really young and you will need to make sure you can take care of the baby..not a parent or a friend.. just you. You will have to have money at least 200 or more a month to properly take care of a baby. They need diapers, formula, clothes, and Dr appts. How will you be able to finish school and take a care of a baby? How will you be able to pay for a daycare? What will happen when you want to go out with a friend? Babies are demanding and need someone to be there for them all the time. And they need love and they can not love back now how you are wanting to be loved. You can have that love when you are older and can take care of yourself on your own. I am 33 right now and I am pregnant and scared out of my mind.. this baby will rely on me all the time and I am afraid I will not be here enough.. cause I am going to have to go back to work shortly after I have him. I also have a 5 yr old and I know that I was not there enough for him as well. I am going to be struggling to pay a daycare. And I am married and have a house.. everything that we need.. but money will be tight and it will cause stress. Please try to hold off on your plans for baby till you are at least 18. You'll be alot happier if you do. Good luck in your decisions.

Answer 8

Sweetheart, you are only 14 and have your ENTIRE life ahead of you. So, your spelling sucks...no biggie....you can get over that....as to BS, get your boots out because you're going to get a lot of it.
Yes, a child will love you like no other, but when they get older and you can't give that child EVERYTHING that they want, they're going to get mad at you and then you go through the roller coaster of they hate me, etc.
Children are so expensive and being a single mother is so hard.
I had a friend that I respected very much and one of the things that he told me was that he was so glad that he didn't have his child until he was in his 30's. He was able to do everything that he wanted to do. He wanted to travel, so he joined the Army and got to see the world. He wanted to race a motorcycle, so he built one and raced it. He wanted to have money in the bank so that he could take care of his child and he did that too. He had absolutely no regrets when he passed away back in 2005. He'd lived a full life and did everything that he wanted to do.
I tell you this because he was an orphan as a child. He knew what it was like to grow up without love because he didn't get parents until he was 10 years old. You're not much older than he was when he got a family.
Nobody will replace your parents, that's true. But you need time to learn to love yourself. I have known many teen mothers and while they love their children and their children love them, without the help of the families they have had a heck of a time.
I am a single mother of girls and it's really hard, much harder now that my mother has passed away, I didn't realize how much she helped me out. It's so hard at times because you don't get a break when your child is sick, when they are driving your absolutely crazy, when they don't want to listen to you. Those are all things that happen and it's that much harder when you are being both mom and dad.
At the age of 16 your baby's daddy isn't going to stick around, he doesn't have to...you're the one who gave birth, who takes care of it.
You will be promised the world by that young man, just so he can get into your pants and when you tell him your pregnant, he's going to bail.....because he can.....
If you decide to have your child at a young age, and many of us will implore you not to do it, then be prepared for the harshness that will lie ahead. It's hard to find a man that will accept your child as theirs because it's not their child and they won't always feel the same. It's harder to find someone that will accept you as a package deal. Yes, sometimes your lucky and get that, but most times....you won't.

Answer 9

No you don't want a baby. Not yet anyway.
They are A LOT of work and you will NOT be able to do the things you want when you want. You can't even get a decent Job at 16! Babies cost A LOT of money.
Try therapy or start baby-sitting. Nothing to be confused about, you are to young... even when you become 16, you still have a lot of growing up to do mentally and PHYSICALLY . So do yourself a favor and wait until you are married! or at least old enough to BE married. You have that baby now or at any point in your teens you will regret it later. Whether you think you will or not.

Answer 10

Honey, babies are great when someone is ready for one. I was 23 years old when I had my first baby. However, I was FAR from ready!! Having someone depend on you for everything in life is very difficult at times.

I hardly ever had time for myself. Always a diaper needing changed, a bottle needing warmed up or washed, or a cry that needs to be answered. Sometimes, cries that you cannot figure out what is wrong.

Having a baby isn't an answer for that hole in your life. A personal relationship with God is!! I have learned a lot about filling that emptiness in my own life through a personal relationship with God.

And hurting.......... I listen to Joyce Meyer Ministries on the television, as she knows about pain.

Answer 11

You're too young to have a baby. You're not old enough to get a real job yet and babies are extremely expensive. You should graduate high school before you even think about having a baby. Most jobs require at least a GED before they even consider hiring you. And where are you going to live? And babies shouldnt be had just because you want someone to love you. You need to give more love than you receive when it comes to babies. Please wait until you're older and more mentally and financially secure to be responsible for anothers LIFE. Babies are not all fun and games and loving and cuddling. Theres a lot of sleepless nights, a lot of time and money involved, a lot more stress...they are a lot more work than you might think.