ok, i have this problem where i think that other people think of me in a certain way, most of the time badly.
like with my girlfriend, if she like remains quietish or doesnt speak to me within a certain time i start thinking that she is mad at me or just is sick of me, whcih i later understand is fasle.
but like whats that sort of symptom called besides plain paranoia?
2007-03-21 09:07:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and i forgot to mention, when i feel this way i start doing wierd stuff like cracking my fingers, snapping my fingers, etc.
2007-03-21 09:11:57 · update #1
Actually, all you lack is confidence in yourself. Try to think positive and you will get rid of that feeling. Remember that you are a friendly person and everyone will like you for who you are.
2007-03-21 09:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by mandm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, paranoia is when someone thinks that everyone is out to "get them" and they imagine conspiracies against them etc. etc.
What you describe is being young and unsure of your self-esteem. I know that word self-esteem is overworked. But you are trying to find where you fit into the social scheme of things. What kind of girls can you get a date with, who is your friend, who thinks you're good looking.
That's how you are supposed to feel right now. Not so great, huh? But you will feel your way around and through the maze (I can tell you're intelligent from the way you think and are so straight forward) and get your bearings where other people are concerned. Sounds like a bunch of mumbo jumbo. Let me try harder.
You are not supposed to know where you fit in or what girls think right now. This is the time for learning those things. And you should always aim for the best. The worst thing that can happen is to get rejected and other guys could write volumes on rejection no matter how cool you think they are. It's just an act. It happens every time from when they go dancing all the way to the Prom. Learn to take a chance of being rejected.
You don't have paranoia. You have Youth. And I would pay you anything you ask for it if you could sell it to me. I want to be where you are one more time. Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-03-21 16:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is sort of like Obsesive complusive behaviour (relax, I don't think it is as serious as to be considered fitting a disorder)
AN obsession is a persistant thought (the paranoia) usually followed by a compulsive action (cracking your knuckles) in an effort to relieve the obsession.
Even though it doesn''t sound that serious, you can do some exercises that they recommend for OCD
-Thought interuption (when you find yourself thinking a paranoid thought, catch yourself, and deliberately think of something pleasant, like last time your g/f did something nice for you.
-Exposure therapy, sometimes works with complusive behaviour. engage in the obsession provocing situation , but be mindful of not giving into the compulsion (cracking your knuckles). Eventually you will get used to the feeling of anxiety and then realize the obsession to be false.
2007-03-21 16:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like insecurity to me. Self esteem workouts would be a good start.
You can improve your self esteem... positive self talk is a start.
Start naming some positive qualities about yourself and stop looking for the negative in everything. If you don't like yourself, it will be difficult for anyone else to like you, right?!
Good luck! :)
2007-03-21 16:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like insecurity. I knew someone who was like that and it became a problem within our relationship. might be good to talk about it now. if the person you're with is aware of this and is willing to be with you through whatever, then they will make the extra effort to let you know and ease your fears.
2007-03-21 16:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by mafarrar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that this has happened
to you before, right? When and under what circumstances
did this start? You're bringing your past into your present...
2007-03-21 16:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by comedycatalyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an esteem issue to me.
http://ww.public-speaking-solutions.com/self-esteem.html
2007-03-21 16:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to answer your question but I would take the chance some one would laugh at me and talk about me.
I need more points but you will just have to ask some one else.
2007-03-21 16:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Billy Butthead 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny. You have paranoia about being paranoid.
2007-03-21 16:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude ur trippin' out!!!! calm down!!!! do sum Yoga or sumthing!!
2007-03-21 16:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by hip_hop_baby77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋