He seems to drink about 5-6 pints a day, every day, which to me is much too much.
But he never has any problems with it. He never misses work, and him and his wife get on really well (she drinks a bit too, though not as much as him).
I've been looking at websites about drinking, and it's been difficult to work out how bad things are. They all agree that he's drinking too much, but they all assume that it must be causing problems in his life, and it just isn't.
He's never obviously drunk, never aggressive or violent, has a successful career and is doing ok in life. He gets on great with his kids.
I know he would never get involved with anything like AA (I've been on the website and all the "higher power" stuff would just make him laugh like a drain).
I'm not even sure if I should say anything at all. I just worry that he might end up on the liver transplant waiting list, and I'd hate for that to happen without me at least having made an effort.
Anyone got any advice?
2007-03-21 09:04:48 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
i havent any advice but my husband is eactly the same. drinks 8 cans of fosters or equivalent a night, doesnt really get drunk, never misses a days work and never has a hangover.
i know he drinks too much and i am so worried about his lifestyle but what can i say?
he says hes not an alcholic but apart from a couple of cups of coffee a day this is the only liquid he drinks!! that in itself will harm him surely!!!
so i dont know...just point out its not healthy and thats about all you can do!!! sorry i couldnt be of more help, i just thought i would let you know that this is not that unusual!!!
2007-03-21 09:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by louie3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight that you are concerned about the amount he drinks and the reasons why you are concerned ie: the health issues.
A safe limit is 2 pints daily, any more and you are putting your health at unnecessary risk.
Even though his home life is fine and appears to have no problems, just remind him of what he can do with the money he saves on drink every week to treat the kids or his wife every now and again, or put it towards a holiday for the family.
2007-03-21 09:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i do sympathise with you as i have an alcoholic partner,unfortunately if he does not see it as being a problem then there is absolutly nothing you can do,it dosent apear to be interfering with his work,wife etc,i guess the only thing really you can do is be there if things do go wrong,he will need some support then,you cannot tell someone they have a drink problem they have to realise it for themselves.he is very lucky to have a friend like you.just enjoy the friendship,im sure he will be just fine.best wishes.for more advice speak to alanon,they help relatives,friends etc of people who have a drink problem.
2007-03-21 09:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if somebody has a problem then only they can do anything about it, he has to notice it for himself if he wants to change.
If I were you I'd ignore it, you said that he's ok and his wife is ok, so maybe this alcohol thing is working for him, it's his way of relieving whatever stress he has and right now it isn't causing any problems. Don't worry about him - you sound like a good friend, so just be there if he needs you.
2007-03-21 09:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by floppity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your chum has issues and she or he needs to speak them out with a expert or get some style of help. All booze does is take the side off existence and eating too lots makes you only omit out. She needs to confront her issues and cope with them. Passing out isn't in basic terms undesirable for you, it incredibly is risky. some fool obtainable ought to extremely take great thing approximately her and make her issues worse. i don't comprehend what her issues are yet in basic terms time helps with a loss and protecting your concepts on different issues is the final thank you to pass plus protecting very very busy. If she is depressed, then she desires scientific help to end that. She is fortunate to have a chum such as you. Whoever instructed her to drink too lots certainly isn't her chum. area of transforming into up is discovering to handle disappointments in existence. Booze or drugs isn't the respond. are you able to speak to her mum and dad or ask your mum and dad for help. you could confer with a minister, take her to Alateen, attempt a counselor. . .any grownup you think of can furnish her help. you prefer a to blame grownup to help. it incredibly is greater duty than you're geared up to handle. good success.
2016-10-01 07:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With everything you have covered, there is nothing you can say that will convince him otherwise.
It is surely eating away at his liver. At some point (assuming annual physical with bloodwork occurs) the doctor will see elevated enzymes and other signs of inflammation. Only then will he possibly consider the cause.
2007-03-21 10:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by KirksWorld 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your problem. There doesn't even seem to be a problem so why create one - i'm sure he won't appreciate it. He seems to have a good life.
2007-03-21 09:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU are the one with the problem. Until he thinks he has a problem, he doesn't have one. You will do nothing but isolate him as your 'so-called' friend. If you don't like his drinking, stay away from him. Bring the gutter HIGHER! You are only making it lower.
2007-03-21 18:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No matter how healthy your friend seems all that alcohol will kill his liver, eventually.
2007-03-21 09:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by steve h 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get off his back and live a little yourself
2007-03-21 09:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋