r my parents being unreasonable?

Question

sooo i am a stright A student, i have a lot of friends, i am a firly nice girl and my tachers all really like me. But my parents arnt that fond of me. they r neat freaks and i work best w/ clutter. my room is organized in piles, of books i need to reture, read, liked and ddnt like, dress cloths, jeans and tees, clean and dirty coths etc. put its piles. they also dont like some of my friends. im our "designated driver" even though we dont drive, im the one who takes ther beer out of there hand when there totally waisted, hands them a condom when they go into the bedroom etc. grandted i someimes follow them into the bedroom w/ my own boyfreind and ive normally had a beer or two (thats it, one or two) too. but my parents dont like it, there all "dont get drunk" "wait till ur married" :clean ur room" etc. sooo they have decided that i am the heathen devil girl, mydad said theat to my face, and i am now monitored on evrything. i cant go out unless my sister is withen ten feet of me,

i cant go on teh computer w/ out someone watching what im doin (im on at school now) so i can only do homework and i can watch i hour of tv a day.
i think this is a little extreme and wouldlike to know im there right or me, if m right then how could i aproch them withpur more punishment
thank u for reading this whole thing.

oh yeah im 16

Follow them into bedroom: this is at my freinds crazy apartment. all the walls are made out of papaer for one and two the bedrokom has fifve beds in it all w/ curtans around it (she has four roomates, the four oldest of the six of us. thus i can have sex w/ my boyfreind in one bed and them in another and none of us see each oteher. sry i know that sounded weird before.

i try not to through a tantrum and we are using protection and we dont do it a lot, just as a celebration like my first time w/ him was this summer and weve only done it twice since. i also dont drink a lot at all either times ive drank this school year: thaknsgiving 6 galsses of wine, new years, 5 beers, sunday 2 beers and once a weekish ill split a beer w/ my bf

omg ignore my brother he dosnt know anything about this no matter what he thinks

ok thank u i guess this was a bad diea bcause no one seems to understand what im asking. ill leve this up to see if anyone else answeres, but so far my question has not been answered

Answer 1

As far as the neatness thing goes - it is their house, so a little compromise on your part would be helpful - your room shouldn't have to be "military neat" but a little tidier would show them that you're trying.
As for the friends and their activities - not a good crowd to hang around with. I'd be scared if my kids were involved in a crowd like that too even if my kids weren't doing the same activities - you're guilty by association. It's unreasonable to think that you won't party it up sometimes but honestly, if you want your parents' trust, then prove that you're trustworthy and not have this as a typical behaviour.

Answer 2

I wonder exactly how old you are. It doesn't seem like you're doing anything more than what a lot of teens are doing nowadays. I do think your parents are being a little bit unreasonable. You have to give your kids a little bit of freedom. Otherwise they'll go wild when they get the chance.

I'm 27 now, but my dad was crazy strict when I was younger. I had to come straight home from school every day and page him when I got there. I was rarely allowed to go anywhere. Or even talk on the phone. I would get grounded for months at a time for little or no reason at all. He was just crazy. I called him darth vader for most of my teenage years. So, trust me... it could be worse. He and my step mom thought I was the anti-christ too. But, now they have an 11 year old daughter of their own and they are realizing that she is actually satans spawn. Now they realize I was actually an angel.

Just try to realize that as crazy as they are, they do it because the love you and want to make sure you are okay. Be careful with the decisions you make... and keep counting down until the day you get out of their house and don't have to deal with their crazy rules.

Answer 3

you work best in a cluttered space? OK here's what you should do after school: 1. eat a snack while watching t.v 2. do your homework 3. CLEAN YOUR ROOM 4. hang out with your friends. It's that simple. As for your drinking what were you thinking? you could either only be DEAD or in JAIL! you are what 16 and your drinking read this carefully: if a cop caught you drinking and you didn't have an I.D at all you would be in jail because you HAVE TO BE 21 TO DRINK AT ALL! stop drinking forever if you need more help call 1-800-3752872 which is Dr. Laura's calling thing on the radio you must call between1:00 pm-3:00 PM. ask her your question and tell her why she WILL give you an answear if you don't get to talk to her keep on trying ! But to me your parents are being REASONABLE you just don't like to be followed. trust me Dr. Laura will help you if only my retarded aunts would call her. darn it. If you are having sex with your boyfriend stop immediately you WILL GET PREGNANT NO MATTER WHAT !!!!! I may only be a 12 year old 7th grader but at least i know not to drink keep my room messy all the time and i know not to have sex just because i want to, being peer pressured into it and because my mom would KILL ME IF I SAID " HEY MOM GUESS WHAT I'M PREGNANT !" use your brain that's what its there for!!!!!

Answer 4

Wait a minute, can I get clarification on something? You follow them into the bedroom??? Surely that doesn't mean what it sounds like...

If you drive then you must be at least 16. And if you are that old, and your parents are alcoholics, and you are truly miserable, then the best course of action is to get a job. I was 15 when I moved out on my own. It's tough for sure, but its equally doable. I am not telling you to leave now. But starting with a job will at least give you an idea of how ready you are to start progressing with the responsibilities of an adult.

So work, save a lot of money, and DO NOT quit highschool. If you end up feeling that the hours at work are taxing on you combined with the hours at school, then it's best to work fewer hours than to skip any school. I made that mistake and paid dearly for it.

There is nothing wrong with being an independant teenager, but the key is handling the responsibility it generates. So start with the responsiblity first, and you can follow your best instincts from there.

Answer 5

Ok lets look at this from a different perspective, what would you think if your mother went to that same party had a few beers and went into the bedroom with her boyfriend? How about this you pay the bills for a nice house and then you have some one disrespect it and throw junk all over it. reality you are breaking the law sweetie your parents could have you arrested for the things you are doing so being unreasonable no I think not.

what is unreasonable about wanting your child to respect her self you say you are a strait A student what chance are you gonna have to go to college with a baby on your hip? Do you think if and when you get there your dorm mates are going to want to live with a slob?

It sounds to me that you want adult rights but not the responsibilities. So I guess it is all in how you look at it
I guess you would like if Mom and dad would sit around and party with ya huh have orgies upstairs burn a couple hooters with the neighbors?

Not cook dinner or wash your clothes or pay the bill because they just didn't feel like it you kids are just being unreasonable.

This type of behavior is wrong and it is irresponsible regardless of who it is or what age they are. being a teen doesn't give you the right to just act plain stupid.

Answer 6

It is slightly unreasonable. The computer deal with someone watching you is an invasion of privacy. Although, i don't agree with the drinking, try and talk to them. I am in the same hole with mine. I am 18, and i can technically leave, i don't want to lose them when it come to my college money. So, "don't get drunk" your only 16 and i should be the one drinking (18 was the drinking age 20 years ago). "wait till your married" isn't a fair statement. Abstinence is for squares. I suggest "condoms till you marry". Just complian (not ***** or throw a tantrum) that your underapreciated and hopefully you mightget some results. wish i could help more

Answer 7

Err yeah. Well, first off, if your parents found out that you drink and have sex, then of course they are pissed. The room thing should be left out though, because them asking you to clean your room is not unreasonable. As for the sister as a chaperone thing, I say that's pretty reasonable. I know people who, if their parents found out the same things, they would be so dead. Given the possible reactions that they could have, I very much hesitate to call their actions unreasonable.

Answer 8

Your mothers and fathers in basic terms want what's nice for you. Having been married at 17 after giving my mothers and fathers the ultimatum of "you sign the papers for me to get married at 17, or you will in no way see me lower back" then getting divorced from that guy. i ultimately at age 22 found out that my mothers and fathers weren't attempting to "run my existence" yet have been extremely looking into the destiny and searching for my ideal interest. i understand this wasn't what you had to hearken to, yet i'm specific your mothers and fathers have been there and performed that and have many reliable motives to declare/do what they have performed. i'm specific your mothers and fathers are VERY pleased with you. some human beings have hassle expressing that. attempt the community college. you may like it, then you certainly can pass to the different college (in basic terms a concept). the completed scholarship is outstanding!!! communicate on your mothers and fathers approximately it with say a counselor from college recent and locate out WHY they want you to bypass to the different college. they might have a reliable reason. reliable success :+)))

Answer 9

How old are you? Younger than sixteen, I think their rules are reasonable, if older maybe they need to relax them a little.
For your room, how about if you bought some boxes or crates and put stuff in piles in that instead of on the floor, that should work for everyone.

Answer 10

More Weewaness. You see, I am her younger brother and say her parents are being perfectly reasonable. Here are some corrections: You call dad a neat freak? His apartment is probabaly just like your room.
I know about the "beer test". To everybody else: Mom and Dad ARE reasonable.