My son has asked me to house a friend of his for a while..I live alone and have never met this man..He's no one and nowhere to turn and in need of help..My son only has a small flat and helped his friend out for a few days;he's asked me to take over for a while..Not happy about it but fighting with my concience about turning a fellow human being away..What would you do ???
2007-03-21 08:53:40 · 16 answers · asked by trish b 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
before you judge him, get to know him a bit, meet with him and your son and decide whether you would be prepared to help him. but be careful- you dont want this to turn into something youll regret later. Hope you make the right decision.
2007-03-21 09:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! You have no idea who he is nor what he's like. What if he turns out awful, it will make your life a misery. Tell your son you're sorry and you can't help out. I can tell you sometimes even when you take someone in that you do know they can turn out to be a nightmare to live with let alone take in someone you don't know. Forget about feeling guilty. Say no.
2007-03-21 16:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how difficult this decision is for you. Have you tried contacting shelter? they may be able to advise you on alternative options which mean you do not have to open you home to a complete stranger. Alternatively would your son be happy if his friend stayed at his flat for a while and your son could move back home - if he is not prepared to make this sacrifice you should consider whether it is worth you making a sacrifice
2007-03-21 16:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by crazylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask ur son to stay over with him for a few days then u can get used to him and decide from then. this way u can get to know a bit about him he could be really nice or then again he could be wierdo. but dont turn him down straight away always do a good turn if u can. but for ur safety get to no him first. good luck! x
2007-03-21 16:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by bella x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm all for helping those in need, but when it involves your personal safety I'd be wary, if you knew hI'm im sure it would be different. Maybe if your son is that concerned he could move back in with you and let his friend stay at his flat
2007-03-21 15:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by thebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your son to let him stay at his flat for a while until you got to no him more and if you feel happy then try see what happens. or ask your son to stay as well until you are comfortable with this man.
2007-03-21 17:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by sweettinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could your son stay with you for a few days and his friend stay at your sons place and then you could get to know him first?. If he is o.k your son shouldn't mind doing that.
2007-03-22 15:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by foxy4t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long has this man been a friend of your sons, surely your son wouldnt put you in any danger.personally i did exactly what your debating doing and it didnt work out, the lack of privacy ,the helping himself to my personal belongings, unless you know this person really well , i suggest you help in a diffrent way by finding him shelter in a place designed to help people in his circumstances. good luck
2007-03-21 16:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have helped people out like that in the past. and have been helped out too. trust your gut feeling, talk to the man, because he might not be comfortable anyways. if you do decide to take him in, be careful, and remove any easily carried valuables. not everyone is a thief, but if he takes something important to you, you could wind up resenting your son.
2007-03-21 16:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by virginia g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should ask your son to introduce you all at least. In Sweden it is law if a stranger knocks your door in winter you have to give them shelter
2007-03-21 15:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mack J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋