Is it wrong for me to want my husband to NOT hang out with his friends every weekend? I can't stand them because they are complete jerks but he says he doesn't want to 'just sit around the house' on Saturdays. Um, how about taking me somewhere instead once in a while?
2007-03-21 08:37:23 · 8 answers · asked by cj_gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is 48 years old and we have been married 12 years. This crap only started in the last 6 months or so. They do have wives and girlfriends over there who I can get along with - I just can't stand the guys.
2007-03-21 08:54:09 · update #1
Every weekend is a lot. He should take you out. And if he wants to hang out with his buddies maybe he can limit it to just one day during the weekend not both.....
If you want him to know how you feel, start inviting your most annoying self centered friend over, every night to hang out, and see how he likes it.
2007-03-21 08:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kicks it with his friends EVERY WEEKEND? That's a bit much. What is he into? Sports? Hobbies? Is there something you can plan for you both to do together so you aren't sitting around the house on Saturday? Are his friends married? If so, reach out to their wives and see if you can plan something that all of you can do together. If they are his friends, they are his friends - nothing you can do about it. You can ask him to be more balanced in how he spends his time on the weekends....he isn't single anymore!! Just make sure that you make his time with you as FUN as it can be!!! Good Luck!
2007-03-21 15:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your hubby? They say men dont fully mature til 30! lol I agree with you- u need to get out of the house too and it should be you spending time with him! My hubby and I do everything together! Its just no fun without him! Tell him exactly how u feel! Tell him u dont mind him hanging out with his buddies every other weekend but twice a month IS ALL FOR YOU!
2007-03-21 15:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every weekend is a bit excessive I think - after all, he's not a bachelor anymore! I'd talk to him and see if you can work out something where he can still hang out w/ the guys once in awhile, but also spend time w/ you! Good luck!
2007-03-21 15:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, every weekend is not that big of a deal! My husband does it and I do not like one of his friends. Just because you don't like one of his friends doesn't mean he has to stop hanging out with them. As long as he is not doing anything illegal or cheating, I would not worry about it! As for him taking you out, ask him! If he says no, then you go do something for yourself, pamper yourself. I find it very peaceful to have time to myself. You might just find too, that if you do something for yourself you will not be so bothered by the fact that he wants to hang out. JMO.
2007-03-21 16:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by ~Miss~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he the same way before you married? Never believe that you can change someone. If you do not want to live the same way the rest of your life have a talk, if you are not important enough to spend time with now it is better to know it now than later. This is your life and only you can decide what you want it to be.
2007-03-21 15:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cinna 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should take you places sometimes but he the husband is the boss so what he says goes.good luck
2007-03-21 15:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only one day a week, I would let him do it. But I would find your own activities, hobbies, friends, lovers etc. to pass the time. Getting between you and his friends will just make him angry. He wants to party with them, but you don't need to take part.
2007-03-21 15:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋