OK... I have been w my husband for a couple years and just recently he started asing me to finger his ***, he asked me to put my dildo up his *** last night and wen i asked if he was gay he didnt get mad, he wasnt shocked, other then when we have sex he doesnt act gay, but it is hard for me to play w him w out thnking he wants a man, it kinda grosses me out, if i new forsure that he wasnt gay, then i woukd love do pleasure him, buut it kinda hrts my feelings thinking he might be gay. any advice?
2007-03-21 08:37:04 · 28 answers · asked by Roxanne S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't worry it's ok, he's not gay. Men have prostates in their anal area, and it's very sensitive. A lot of men like to be "finger popped" while having sex. It feels really good. It's kind of like a man G-spot. So don't worry it's just something he probably discovered on his own. I think as a wife it should turn you on to pleasure your husband. I honestly think he isn't gay, so please don't worry. Good Luck
2007-03-21 08:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Adam 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Okay......... from the horses mouth to you........ I am in a relationship that is the same. Most men have at least touched it themselves. Some men even own their own toys. They are not gay! Men have better, stronger orgasms with anal stimulation! I know! That sounds weird, but, if you've ever tried that with someone who has never had that done... anal stimulation durring oral sex... you'll find, that if they like it, their orgasm will be 10 fold what their normal orgasm is! I've been doing that for years with men! Mostly, because I found I had a strong liking for anal sex myself! I have MUCH STRONGER orgasms from anal plus clitoral stimulation than any other choice there is! So, enjoy it! Think of finding a strap-on & offering it up to him as a surprise one night! Strap it on with some HOT lingerie, stockings, and hot F-me shoes, and come around the corner... HEY HONEY, WANT SOME OF THIS? You never know! It could be the hottest sex you've ever had! Tell him things you'd like to try! Bet he's game! (Interesting fact... my man & I have used a double... anally against eachother! That was a fun night!)
2007-03-21 09:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by lisalikes70scheese 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some guys enjoy different things. Be GLAD he is sharing his feeling with YOU and not CHEATING! The prostrate is also known as the male G spot. There is a lot of pleasure there. It does NOT mean that he's gay. Spice up things and enjoy before he finds someone that will.
2007-03-21 11:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by JD, MAPSY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to get over it. He is asking you to stick it there...not a black stud named Tyrone.
His desire for men is what...AND THE ONLY THING...that would make him gay.
What you describe only makes him a sex freak and by my book...that's a plus. You could have a guy that looks at you and runs for the Viagra to get excited. Would that be preferable to someone that knows what gets him off and asks you to do it?
So if he asked a man to do it...yes he is gay.
But my belief is you are female and that makes him hetero.
Women make a common mistake of taking things personally.
Just because a man enjoys porn does not mean he is cheating on you.
And just because your hubby likes you to pack his pooter does not make him gay.
Just because a man like to watch sports does not mean he loves you any less.
Chill out and be glad your man feels comfortable enough with you to let his inhibitions down with you.
That means he trusts you and never expects you to run and tell this to every stranger on the internet.
2007-03-21 09:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only he knows if he's gay. Do to the location of certain nerves and the male prostate, guys are arousable "back there." That he enjoys the extra stimulation there doesn't necessarily mean that he wants a man providing it. My guess is that he isn't gay, based on the fact that I liked to have my wife do that to me, too, and I wasn't thinking about gay stuff at the time, just her, and pleasing each other.
2007-03-21 08:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some guys like that. He may not be gay...just secure in his manhood and found that he enjoys something. I wouldn't fret too much on it if you asked him and he said no. I would just go along with what he likes and to give him just as much pleasure as he gives you. To me, it seems he is introducing new things into ya'alls life to make it more pleasurable.
2007-03-21 10:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Smiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he shows no intrest in other men then hes not gay. Him wanting you to finger him and use a dildo his just an addition to yalls sexual realtionship. The prostate is in that region and can provide intense pleasure esp. when a man ejaculates. If these are the only things and rest of your relationship (in and out of bed) is healthy try it, just make sure your figurenails are short and your using lube.
2007-03-21 10:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Prometheus Cowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some dudes just like anal play. There's a couple reasons for it. For many it's because it stimulates the prostate gland, which is about as sensitive as the penis. Odds are he's probably straight.
2007-03-21 15:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking not gay but he may be interested in man 2 man sex. Which contrary to popular opinion doesn't make him gay. You need to use the dildo on him, if he's wanting that and he don't get it from you he may go elsewhere. By the way he sounds hot.
2007-03-21 08:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Naaahhhh! He's probably not gay, he just feels comfortable enough to ask you to do that.....it is sexually stimulating and he must enjoy it. . So don't worry about it. You're making him feel good and that should turn you on!
2007-03-21 08:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋