i was very young when my parents divorced & it was a traditional African marrige, i was four years & my younger brother was 11 months, my mom took us with her to her family,when i turn 15 i gave him a second chance, yes he called me to stay with him and mom sat me free to him, besides things were not good in her family the breadwinner lost her job, that's my granny. i stayed with him for 6 months & came back home, because of him & his step wife whom they had 1 daughter. I was also disturbed from my studies because i went back home to stay & mom went out for work. life begun to be so unfair to me, infact us.It came a point where i passed my matrick in 2006 & i managed to registerer at the university of Lipompo somewhere in SA, BUT unfortunately my queen(mom) died. WHAT TO DO, DO I GO TO HIM?
2007-03-21 08:32:39 · 14 answers · asked by LOST-BAD-BOY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd stay with the family I know and love - your grandmother!
2007-03-21 08:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you have my condolences for the loss of your mom.
From the sounds of it, since you registered for university, I would assume that you are an adult, and therefore don't really need to stay with anyone. However, that being said, I understand that you might need some emotional support from your family. Here's what I would do. I would stay with my granny (after all, she's really the only family you knew and loved), and I would start again to develop a relationship with my dad. That way, you have the support of your granny, yet you're not cutting your father out of your life completely. Good luck!
2007-03-21 08:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father's not abusive and is supportive of you, you should go to him. He's family. My boyfriend moved in to his dad's house when he was 16 after not really ever having interaction with him his whole life, and now he and his dad are best friends! So yeah, unless his household is a danger to you physically or mentally, I say go to him. Plus, you've matured since you were 15 so you'll probably feel differently toward him than you did then.
2007-03-21 08:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by blondie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends how old you are. If you are of age and independent now, Make it on your own and stay in contact with your father. Or if you feel you can't attempt the world yet, stay with your father if the love is there.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-21 08:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is also the option of living on your own or with other family, but i would leave going back to my father as the last resort.
2007-03-21 08:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone here can answer that for you, all I can suggest is to follow your heart. Where will you be happy, content and loved? I wish you the best in whatever you choose to do. I am sorry for your loss. May God go with you wherever you choose to go.
2007-03-21 08:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where your heart tells you to go. Your QUEEN wants nothing more than for you to be happy. If happiness is with your father then so be it. But, honestly I doubt it, because you wouldn't have to ask..... you would know. Good luck to you young man.
2007-03-21 08:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay where is best for studies, you could could stay at the university halls, just keep in touch with yoiur dad if you want. sorry about your mom, but maybe its time you stood on your own two feet. good luck
2007-03-21 08:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Writing the way you do, there is no way that you could be in college. I'm not even sure you finished the ninth grade. Sorry, kid, but it's just not working.
2007-03-21 08:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL DO U LIKE UR DADDY IF NOT NO IF YES DO IF NOT STAY WITH UR GRANNY IF U DONT LIKE HER UR OUT OF LUCK. BEST PRAYERS THAT U FIND THE PLACE U R TO STAY
2007-03-21 08:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋