my girlfriend is leaving for her gap year this summer for 9 months atleast, whereas I am already at uni, first year.
we've only been together for 2 months, but by the time she leaves for travelling we would have been together for quite a few months.
she says she does not want to break up, but Im not sure what to do.
Do you think it's possible to keep a relationship going without seeing each other for that long....
what should I do?
i must point out that she will not have access to the phone very frequently and no email, as she is planning to volunteer in an african country,
2007-03-21 08:32:07 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it is meant to be, she will come back to you.
2007-03-21 08:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well being honest with you. I doubt that only a 2 month relationship will survive such a great distance and infrequent communication. In two months you have barely had time to create a real bond with each other. Some people that are married for a year or more are still learning things about there mate and are still in a bonding stage. So no I really don't think that this relationship will make it. She is going to get distracted and believe me with her being gone so long and so far your eye will be caught by someone else even if it is just because you are lonely. I think that you should both give each other the freedom (meaning break up), to do what you are probably going to end up doing anyway which is be with someone that is right there for you rather than going through the pain of finding out one or the other of you are cheating. Part as friends and then if you still feel the same for each other after all of the time has passed then you can get back together.
2007-03-21 15:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to be honest with your feelings for each other when the time comes.
If you both love each other, & you are BOTH determined to make it work, then you should try to keep the relationship going. It requires total committment & trust. In the long run your relationship will be stronger because of it.
If either of you don't feel the same, then you should both move on. It will not work if only one of you wants this relationship.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you have no regrets.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 16:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say break up when she leaves. If both of you are still feeling the same way when she comes back, then kick it up again.
She's going away for a decent amount of time, and will be in a place completely different from now. This experience WILL change her. She will come back a different person. Do you want to close yourself off from other opportunities/relationships for her to comeback and it not work out?
2007-03-21 15:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon whether or not you want to make the sacrifice.
Personally, I think it's bet to see other people while she's gone.
That's too long a period of time at such a young age to give up on dating and pine away for a long-distance mate.
2007-03-21 15:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i think you should break up until she gets back. You'll be at college and it's whole different ball park there. You'll meet new and exciting ppl. You don't want to feel obligated and miss an opportunity with someone else for the sake of a few month fling.
2007-03-21 15:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These kinds of things are like a test. If you are really meant to be it will happen. If not it wont but dont stress over it in the months up until she leaves cuz that will definately ruin the relationship....
2007-03-21 15:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are this relationship is toast
You'll be at uni wiping beer from your chin and locking yourself out of your house, she'll be in some sub saharan hellhole looking at kids with no legs and going blind from conjunctivitis.
Something tells me you will both be different people with differnt perspectives as the time goes. . .
2007-03-21 15:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by RedSnook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the relationship until you both go away. You can tell her that you can pick things up when you are both in the same town again. You both can keep communicating , but it doesn't mean that you need to be "together" . It won't work.. too much work , too little fun.
2007-03-21 15:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it will last especially since you have only been together for 2 months, and with very little contact. You need to have a long talk with her and find out whats best for both of you
2007-03-21 15:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you like long-distance relationships you should not break up with her. But if you don't you can still stay with her but I would probably look for some one else just in cause your relationship goes down the hill.
2007-03-21 15:36:46 · answer #11 · answered by ghettoboy57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋