I would like to know if it is OK to let a 8 year old that is sleeping over at a friends house and then starts crying and doesn't stop for 3 hours cause they want to go home, but the mother of the friend will not take the child home.. Do you think this is right? Also, do you think it is right to make a child stay, if they don't want to. The child gets real angry and says that they are not going to stay. Do you think this will make the child rebell more against staying with other people.
2007-03-21 08:26:39 · 6 answers · asked by Dorothy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it should be up to the mother of the crying child to decide what to do, not the mother of the friend. She should have called the child's mother to see how to handle the problem instead of taking it upon herself to just let the child cry. The mother may have wanted to come and get the child instead of leaving them there. Either way, allowing the child to cry for 3 hours is excessive. I understand wanting the child to get used to staying with friends, but you should know after 30 minutes that it's just not going to work. The child is probably scared to death to stay at anyone's house now.
2007-03-21 08:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GRRR
The kid was at a sleepover he was not in a gas chamber.
If he was a bit uncomfortable TOO BAD!
As long as he was not in any danger, 8 years old is a great time for him to learn that because he cries, shyt does not have to go his way.
Was this sleep over because the mother had to work or was it because the child was supposed to be having a good time?
Sure it sucks that the child was crying and if I was the host, I would have been pretty pissed BUT
if the mother was unavailable I dont see what choice the host had!
If the mother had to work, letting him cry it out does not make her a bad mother.
Sometimes parents make other plans when the child is out of the house if I was the host and the child's mother had made other plans I would not have wanted to bug her if we were friends and she had already warned me of this kind of behavior. It would have been nice if the mother would have called to check on him but this does not make her a bad person.
The host probably did the best that she could to comfort the child...if this is NOT your child and you are not the host, why are you so concerned? I am sure that this child did not cry for 3 hours straight, but if he did maybe next time he wont act like such a skirt and respond a bit more rationally to his fears!
Last year I paid for my son to go to camp that all of his friends were going to (he was nine) the first night the counselors called and said he was homesick....crying, snotty nose and the whole nine.
I talked to him and asked him exactly what about camp had him so distressed.
He as afraid of daddy long legs....
The camp allowed him to use another bathroom where there were less spiders.
Needless to say, he stayed for the week and when I came to pick him up he did not want to leave.
He had a ball.
Sure it would have been easier (and CHEAPER since they would have refuned about $500 bucks) to go and get him but he learned quite a few lessons about himself and life
and had a ball while doing it. A parent in most cases knows waht is best for her child and if the mother and the host were okay with it then it is NONE of your business how she raises her kid!
2007-03-21 23:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not the one not taking the child home, because obviously that person is an idiot. If it was my child who was crying and wanted to go home I would be very upset if my child expressed that they wanted to go home and the friends parents would not take him home. Or the mother should have at least called the other parent to pick-up the child in question. I would have picked up my child and given the mother a piece of my mind
I think not taking the child home will make them have a bad outlook on sleepovers in the future. They are supposed to be fun not torture.
2007-03-21 15:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by mars1021 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the mother of the child should have p/u the kid and yes the child will be more scared of being left behind so the child would more likely not let their mom or dad out of their site.
2007-03-21 15:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by C M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a child does not feel comfortable then they should not be forced to stay. I would be furious if this friend's mother would not bring my child home or at least notify me so I could pick my child up!!!!
2007-03-21 15:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats wrong.
2007-03-21 22:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋