what do you think about someone who needs to be a dancer to have income?

Question

to support herself and her child while in school full time, no high school diploma, and needing her own place and a car...would only be doing it till she graduates college.....

Answer 1

As a former dancer, I say as long as you're mature enough to handle yourself in that environment, go for it. It's not as dangerous as most people think, but it's not innocent either. Make sure you have no other options before you decide. Make sure that if you do, don't get seduced by what some of the girls would call the "easy money". If you can't look at yourself in the mirror the next morning, it's not worth it.

Answer 2

The only concern I see is by your use of the phrase "needs to be a dancer". Unfortunately, some people need to have the jobs they have because they have no other choice and no other means to support themselves. I'm just saying that most of the people I've met that tell me they "need" to do this don't consider other options out there, and I don't mean to accuse that you haven't thought about something else.

If you indeed have to be a dancer to have income, then no, I don't see anything wrong with it. If anyone ever gives you a hard time, you can ask them if they think fast-food workers NEED to do what they do, or if they truly enjoy every job they've ever had.

I also wonder how you got into college without a high school diploma (hopefully you have a GED or are working towards one), or you might be still in high school. Either way, it's unfortunate to hear that you have so little help from friends and family that you need to have your own place and support yourself. However, if I was a single parent it's unlikely I would want roommates as well, and I would be willing to do whatever I had to do to provide for my family and make ends meet.

Overall, I don't think it's anything to fret about to feel shame for, I would consider doing it if I thought women would pay me to remove my clothes and dance. My girlfriend tells me that I have the body for it but not the attitude, and she could be right, she danced for a bit before we got together.

Just be safe and make sure that you know what you're doing and why. It can get dangerous if you get caught up in the thrill of making money and lose sight of the responsibility regarding where that money needs to be spent. To put it bluntly, CPS will take your child if you are on drugs or arrested for prostitution, both of which have been known to happen to dancers. Your safety and your child's well-being have to come first, and take care to finish school. But I'm sure you already knew that.

Answer 3

Can you feel good about it and when your child finds out later in life, can you feel good about it? If you don't have a high school diploma, how are you going to go to college? I think, at minimum, you need a GED.

Looking for an easy way to make a lot of money. Don't expect to be respected because you won't be, not by the men in the strip bar nor by anyone you date. And, remember, there will be those that will offer money for services - what's your price? You will be treated horribly for the most part and be insulted by liquored up old, ugly, fat men.

I think I'd rather work as a waitress in a nice restaurant or get assistance from the State until I graduated from college then put myself in a position to be treated disrespectfully around a bunch of drinkers in a bar where drugs are probably sold and prostitution is also going on. Your choice what type of environment you want to live in and expose yourself to. Few people can wear white gloves out in the garden and keep them clean. You will be around the worst society has to offer no matter what type of club it is. Think about it. But don't kid yourself about what you will be doing - you will be selling your body and your self-respect down the river. But, perhaps you have a poor self image and think only looks will get you by in life. Well, looks fade with time, sweetie. So, do it right now so you don't have to depend on your looks later.

Answer 4

As long as your a respectable dancer. NO drugs, no prostituting, no letting those ppl grope you, lick you, kiss you, remember you have NO clue where those ppl been before coming to YOU. I had a friend from high school go into that. She has since lost her kids (2), ended up in the hospital ER with 7 different kids of STD's, hooked on drugs, been arrested for prostitution (a 1 yr sting operation at one of the clubs she stripped at), arrested for fighting in a bar, etc. She is NOT good right now. She's lost everything that was dear to her. She got hooked on the money. ($3,000 in ONE weekend) She even had a college degree, but made more stripping than at the job that req'd a degree! The money is NOT worth your life. How about just getting a "sugar daddy" instead? At least it's only ONE guy instead of hundreds of strangers...just a thought. My heart goes out to you though. I feel that I may have taken that route MANY times if I wasn't so embarrassed of my belly! I would have been fired for NOT sleeping around, NOT doing drugs, NOT letting any person TOUCH me, etc. I'd of demanded respect, even if it's at a strip bar. I guess that's why I never did it too. Wouldn't fit in. If you got the body for it, it is the easy way to pay your bills. Not much to rely on but your looks and your mood. What ever you do, be the BEST.

Answer 5

There are other options. You could get a job as waitress. I know some who earn 60 to 100 dollars a day. It may or may not pay as much, but it's more respectable and safe because sometimes being a dancer is dangerous.

Answer 6

No problem there. Dancing is a beautiful way to artistically express your body. If that person can support her and her child doing a legal activity, then go for it. But try to avoid turning tricks, doing illegal drugs or getting involved with other dancers.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with it. You are using what you have to make a better life. Furthermore, you are using dancing as a means to fund college. It's not like you will be dancing until arthritis makes you stop.
If you a level head, you won't get into that "dancer's attitude."

Good luck!

Answer 8

i think it's OK as long as it's dancing and not selling your body. take pride for supporting yourself and your kid. finish your school and have a better life. but if you can find another work aside from dancing the better. explore your options and do what is right for you and your kid. take care and good luck!

Answer 9

as long as you continue with your future plan. get a college degree!! you won't have that boy forever.

i wish i had danced in college instead of waitressing...i could have worked ALOT less hours and made ALOT more money and had more time to study and have a life!!