Husband complains that i give him too much sex.?

Question

ever since we have been married he complains i give him too much sex. he always makes excuses to not have sex with me. all he wants is sleep and sleep more. if it was for him we would only do it once a month! what the hell is that i cant do that. at least three times a week. is that too much to ask.

Answer 1

The majority of the guys will answer "he's gay" "do it with me" or "you need a real man" , when the truth is you haven't provided enough info to go by like:
How long have you been married?
Have there been fights, arguments, or other marital stress lately?
Has this become a recent problem or ongoing?
You know some men can suffer from REAL problems either mental or physical that render a number of things to include lack of sexual desire. First thing is to ask the right questions, find out the why's, then treatment, starting with bloodwork then possibly counseling.
Good luck if you can get thru all the "do me instead of him" answers.

Answer 2

I have the same problem. However mine does work hard and is tired though I tell him all he has to do is lay there and enjoy. Anyway, my solution is what I tell men who want to get their wife in the mood. Talk throughout the day (something may be bothering him that has nothing to do with you), compliment him, let him know you respect him, leave flirty notes or pictures places for him to find throughout the day, pamper him (bubble baths are good for men too or just a subtle back, foot, leg, shoulder, full body massage), help with chores. Find your best timing - i.e. is he happiest and has the most energy right after dinner, in the morning, can you wake him in the middle of the night with a bj, or is it at bed time, while he is in the shower, during a commercial break.

But since he is a man, not a woman, it may be as simple as he is incapable of intimacy and sex with someone you love who loves you usually involves intimacy. Or are you making sex all about you? If so, make it all about him next time. Did you try asking him why he isn't interested (though it may just be a difference in sex drives)?

Friends used to tell me to act like I wasn't interested in it and it would drive him wild. For a while it did and he enjoyed being the one to make the first move, but I couldn't stuff my own personality and desires for long.

I dont' think you are expecting too much in general, but he may feel you are expecting too much from him. You cannot expect someone else to meet all your needs - so do the job yourself.

Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Honestly, for two married working adults... three times a week is a bit much. Todays work and the rat chase of running around just to do the basic things in life is enough to make a man sometimes just want the comfort of his lazy boy.
You need to get a vibrator and whatever other sex toys you need to pleasure yourself. This can be very rewarding for both of you.
Your husband may need to start working out or doing something to increase his adrenaline and metabolism. I found that Gingseng is sometimes all that's needed to make a man overburdened with work and stuff to want to tap that asss every other day. After I started taking Ginseng, a month later my wife was like, oh my God honey, it's still sore from last night! ;-)

Answer 4

I can see your frustration, most men would be extremely happy with your eagerness. Maybe he is stressed out, or is suffering from some sort of depression, that may explain all the sleeping. I am sure you love him dearly you are just irritated because when you think that the "man" is the one making excuses it seems like the whole universe is out of whack!

Answer 5

Man I bet there alot of guys that are reading this and saying sh it what is up with this most of the time it is the women not giving enough?. Tell him you need more sex with him or you may have to consider battery operated alternatives some guys when they hear this are like what no way they don't want to be outclassed by a dil do.
God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 6

I don't understand that. Unless you're some kind of 400 lb Yhetti with hair on your back, I just don't understand that mentality on a man's part. If I had it my way and had time, we'd go at it 5-6 times a day everyday. Alas, I'm not that lucky.

My guess is that this man is either gay or he has performance problems.

Answer 7

(Divorce him, I'll divorce my wife, and we can do the damn thing. Many nights strong and long.) On the real, peoples sex drives are different. Mine must be like yours, I gotta have it daily. But, I settle for every other day or at least 3 x's a week. For him, who knows. You might want to buy a toy so you can fill the void. Change the will power over your desires or find another source of self fulfillment. (Like a new husband, lol.)

Answer 8

Hmmmmmmmmmm he is a man right? lol Maybe he is just stressed out from work and problems he has on his mind. Maybe he would like to be the one to make the first move but you always beat him to it? My hubby has turned me down a few times BUT not often. Thankfully we do have great times 5 to 6 times a week! Try a romantic candle lit bubble bath for two! A oil massage! Ky gel with heat activation! Try holding out until HE makes the first move! Dress with less when he is home and lots of bending over! lol

Answer 9

What the hell is wrong with him? A man who doesn't want sex? Perhaps he forgot to tell you that he is gay. Seriously, he may be covering up his true tendencies. I cannot think of a reason why a heterosexual male would want less sex. I can't get enough myself...so if you're ever in the neighborhood :)

Good luck. I think he's either secretly really angry at you or he is gay and is afraid of confessing.

Answer 10

It's his duty and obligation to keep you sexually satisfied. If he's coming up short in that department, isn't there some guy in the neighborhood who would be willing to take up his slack? Thress times per week is not asking too much at all. That should be at a minimum.