My boyfriend is grumpy and stressed unless he smokes cannabis.We have a baby and i just want our relationship to work. This started before he started smoking it. He used to be so kind and caring when we first met but he has changed completely.
I end up buying it for him because i cant handle the rows. I love him but whenever we get into big rows he says he doesn't love me and is only with me for the baby. Then we get back together and he says he didn't mean it as he was just angry.
I don't know what to do please help.
2007-03-21 08:15:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He never smokes it around our baby, i would never let that happen. Always in the garden.
He has been to the doctor and they gave him pills for depression and stress but they don't seem to work.
2007-03-21 08:34:32 · update #1
Well, obdviously ur boyfriend is addicted to weed and has a problem. however, as far as u and ur baby go i really dont feel that breaking off a relationship over smoking pot is realistic...however, ur situation is a whole lot different..ur not dealing with someone who smokes weed socially, but someone who is willing to make u feel like crap over his bad habits..not to mention u have a child together and yet he is verbally and emotionally abusive to u...the concern i see hear is that u have to supply his habit in order to feel loved. its not fair for you or anyone to have to deal with a person who is consistently changing their moods.. you should really consider that ur child is learning this behavior, and that you dont deserve nor need to put up with this...we all have bad days, however when theres more days then bad, as women we need to take a step back and say SCREW THIS!
2007-03-21 08:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by jserrano1966@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My concern is for the child especially if your boyfriend is smoking around the baby. Remember second-hand smoke affects the child and you too!
Don't be an enabler. Besides buying it for him as his "patsy" so he doesn't get caught buying it, you could go to jail and he could end up with the custody of the child.
I am sure you can do a heck of a lot better than him especially if he needs "weed" to say "I Love You." Is it the weed that he loves or you?
Sorry to be so blunt but you have a full life ahead of you and you can do it safely without him around.
2007-03-21 15:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He started out being a "good guy" and now he is a totally different man?
He says hurtful things to you?
He says he is only with you because of the baby?
He says he does not love you?
So, this is not the man that you originally fell in love with?
There is nothing wrong with ending it and finding someone who will treat you like a lady.
You and your baby deserve better, hun!
This is NOT a good environment to raise a child in.
Cheers
2007-03-21 15:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is angry and until he deals with his anger problem you will have half of a person not a entirely whole individual.If smoking
was legal I'd say this to shall pass but you will be in trouble just like him.Is your little Innocent baby breathing in this cannabis?This is bad for a baby.Give them choice to get high.You have a lot of choices to make.My decision would be to leave ASAP...You're living in a dream world.
2007-03-21 15:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say compromise. If he stops smoking, you will stay with him. If he doesnt like that deal, tell him that smoking is bad for the baby and himself and if he doesnt at least try to stop, well I dont know what to do. But smoking could lead the baby to medical problems in the future, like asthma.( second hand)
2007-03-21 15:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Distance Runner 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not much of a boyfriend nor fit to be a father. You can do better. I have no issues with pot, but if he's got to be stoned to be pleasant to be around, he's got a problem and what happens when you're arrested for drug possesion (because you buy it for him) and your child is taken away from you? Hmmmm?
Bad enough he's got an illegal and harmful habit...worse that you are the one enabling him.
2007-03-21 15:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but my advice is to let him go. I know you said you love him, but why be miserable just to be with him? You deserve someone who treats you better.
Maybe he is suffering from depression. Do you think he would go to the doctor and see? There are great meds that will help him if he is willing to seek the help he needs.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 15:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you have family close by? If not pack your bags move into the local womens shelter do not have your child around this
if caught you will lose everything including your child
You have to think of the child now you have created a life that deserves to grow up happy and with love around it
if you want to stay with him give up your child to loving adults
to not punish yourself and please do not punish your child
2007-03-21 15:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by michigan_lady2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't buy it you, cant stay for your baby get out before your baby is a toddler or before he hurts you i no what I'm on about.you need all the luck in the world.if you don't have family to turn to go to your local council they will be able to help you Jo
2007-03-21 15:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by smokeyjo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more fish in the sea. If you stay you get both of them, he's not going to quit. Saw a great cartoon the other day, one lady was telling another about her x, she said "We weren't compatible, he was a smoker and I was a breather".
2007-03-21 15:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by john y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋