My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years now (I am almost 21) and we have decided we are going to move in together January 2008. The problem is I grew up in a very very conservative religious environment and they are still that way. Now I still believe in God and have my morals, but I know my parents will disapprove and be angry with me and accuse of sinning and how wrong I am. They are sort of close minded and who knows how they will react. I love my boyfriend, and eventually we will be getting married after we finish college. My question is, what does everyone think about this, and do you have suggestions on how to handle the situation? I'm nervous about telling them. I don't want their to be hate between me and my family. It's not a question of should I move in with him, because I am and I'm happy with that. Just curious what everyone thinks!
2007-03-21 08:13:50 · 3 answers · asked by pink86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think if you have an engagement ring and his family actively involved in planning your wedding now, and your parents involved too, it will be much more likely that you and your boyfriend can 'play house' for awhile. If you or he or both of you balk at the kind of commitment I'm talking about, then who do you think you're kidding? You're parents will disapprove because of your boyfriend's lack of commitment to a lifelong relationship - they will simply see this as a way for him to get laid more often and have you be his cook and do his laundry! Roommates share chores, true, but you could just as easily move in with a roommate if you want to share chores and save money. Your parents are not close minded. They have a sneaking suspicion that you are lowering your standards and he would be taking advantage of you. Get out there and date or marry this guy - ask yourself which would be his choice if he had to choose between marriage and waiting/dating other people.
2007-03-21 08:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it, your family should love you for you and not what you decide to do. You are old enough to know what is good for you so sit down with them and tell them what you are doing. Make sure you let them know you love them and that you want to remain a close family even though you are taking a different route then what they may approve of.
2007-03-21 08:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think it is good i was with someone for 4years then i moved in with him then i could not talk to my mom or my son or anyone else so watch what is said when u move in
2007-03-21 08:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋