I have been at my job for a little over a year. I work with this woman who has, from day one, dumped all the crap work that she doesn't want to do on me, eerything from stuffing envelopes to cleaning the kitchen - she even refuses to wash her own lunch dishes. She's very condescending to me about it. How do I: Get her to stop and if she doesn't stop, how do I keep from breaking her skinny freaking neck? I love my job, but I hate her, and it's causing me a lot of stress at work, because I try very hard to get along with her. Any ideas?
2007-03-21 08:06:40 · 7 answers · asked by Libby 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
She's not a manager or supervisor. We work for a very small law office (it's she and I and two lawyers). One of the lawyers, the one who hired me, is about to leave the office to retire. Just so everyone knows, I wouldn't really get physical with her....it's just a nice daydream...
2007-03-21 08:20:28 · update #1
Is she a co-worker or a boss? If she is not in a position to review your performance or direct your daily work, the word "no" is the word you need - as in, "No, sorry, I can't take care of that for you, I have my own work to do." Smile politely and keep saying "no" until she gets the hint. Leave her dirty dishes in the sink until they turn green.
If you share a boss, try talking to the boss about her and asking for some support.
If she IS the boss - find a new job!
2007-03-21 08:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she ask you to wash her dishes? If she does just say "no, that's not part of my job." If she is your boss...I don't know what to say. But if she isn't, there is no reason she should be dumping all these tasks on you. Do a return, if she asks you to clean the kitchen say "I did it all last week, perhaps you could do it this week because I have some other projects I really need to work on." Same with the envelopes, tell her you have some other pressing work that needs to be done. And if you don't have other pressing work? You had better get it. Volunteer to take on more interesting projects from your boss and other people. You will get recognition and your coworker will have to find someone else to dump all this on, or just do it herself.
2007-03-21 08:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by JM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DRIVE HER INSANE!
Create a new e-mail account with her name on yahoo or something and send it to her work e-mail address all day with random messages. You could include links about being too negative, lazy, gossiping at work, and whatever else she does to drive you crazy; this may straighten out the problem a bit!
If not, it will drive her crazy having e-mails coming in to her from herself! Use the computers at your local library.
If you don't feel comfortable doing that, start hanging up all kinds of positive messages, the value of silence around your space, and those kitchen plaques about cleaning up your own mess!
2007-03-21 16:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already, go to your direct supervisor and explain the situation. Review your duty statement to make sure that the work she hands you are your responsibilities.
Don't ever engage in any nonprofessional interactions with her, (i.e.), breaking her skinny freaking neck, verbal altercations, etc.
If you love your job, do everything you can to protect it. It would not surprise me that those in charge are already aware of her.
2007-03-21 08:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by ken erestu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you talk to her about it yet? if you did and nothing happened, maybe its time to talk to your manager or immediate supervisor about your concern. when i used to work for a private drug testing lab, i had this co-worker who was really driving me in sane, not just me, but several other co-workers were complaining about her. she acts like she knows everything but she was making a lot of crappy mistakes coz of her stupidity. before i left my job, i spoke to the owner (who is our manager) and i think they did whatever they have to do.
i forgot to tell you - if next time she asks you to wash her dishes for her, maybe you should tell her that its not part of your job description to wash her dishes. your not her maid. who cares if she's your boss? you're not working there to wash dishes. its her responsibility to clean up her stuff not other people.
2007-03-21 08:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Chelsea's Momi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, that sounds awful! It sounds like you have been putting up with alot from her! Is there a boss you can talk to about her? Or, can you stand up to her and tell her you're not taking it anymore?!
2007-03-21 08:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your manager or supervisor, then go to her manager and complain about her
2007-03-21 08:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋