Had a fight with wife?

Question

HI every one,
I had a fight ot of arguemnets with my wife last night and she is madly angry with me ..I am trying to find a way to approach her to soothe down her anger plz guys help
thanks

Answer 1

Pamper her with gifts, it doesn't take much to get a woman happy again.

Answer 2

Of course, it might have helped those of us answering this question to know a bit more about what the fight was about, if you actually did something wrong, and what the circumstances were. However, not knowing this, the best advice I can offer is if there is anything that you did wrong that you can work on before approaching her do it: if you broke something fix it or replace it, if you didn't do something, try to do it. If you can't do that, try flowers (if she likes them) but be aware that some women view this as a cheap way out. You could go pick her some flowers (a lot of women actually like that better (unless they're high maintenance). You could also get her jewelry if she likes that or a heartfelt gift. Maybe you could even go further and make her something or write her a note of apology and read it her or let her read it herself (whichever you prefer. Or what I would really want my hubbie to do if I were super angry---You could try doing something for her that she would not expect you to do, but she would appreciate and so she couldn't help but start to be at least a little less angry with you. For example, if she has been asking you to do something for months but you haven't done it, do it--maybe it's cleaning out the garage or moving some boxes into the attic? Or if the house is dirty, just start cleaning it, and that doesn't mean asking her where the mop and the vaccum and the cleaner is because that would defeat the purpose. You just need to do it like it's nothing. If you have to look for something, look for it. If she asks you what you're doing, you can tell her. Make sure you smile. I think 99% of women would appreciate something like this, but if by some chance your wife is one of those that wouldn't want you doing these things because she's the only one that can do them "right, " I wouldn't even attempt the cleaning idea. Of course, you could apply the cleaning idea to whatever works in your life--cooking, mowing the yard, washing her car. Good luck working things out!

Answer 3

It depends on what the fight was about! I can say this much when my hubby and I argue I hate being the one to apologize or to say I was wrong BUT I also hate the silent treatment and avoiding each other because all I want to do is make up! When u go home tonight pull her into youir arms and without a word lay a lip lock on her like u havent done in years!!!!! That will stop her in her tracks and make her think things over in a hurry!

Answer 4

Give you a little time to calm down and then offer to give her a massage to make up, (tell her you'll warm up the baby oil on the stove or in the microwave) and give her a hot oil massage or just start to massage her feet as she's watching tv. But tomorrow you two need to have a good talk about whatever the fight was about so that the issue is properly resolved. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

Hi, I am not a guy, but a wife, so I think I can help you. Catch her off guard, go buy some inexpensive flowers, her favorite candy bar. Give her the little gifts, and say, "honey I'm sorry, and I just can't handle it when you are mad at me, if you are unhappy, then I'm unhappy". Do this even if you were not the "wrong" one in the argument, I promise, this will melt her heart, We ladies can't stay mad, when you guys have flowers, candy, and apology

Answer 6

I would start with just keeping my mouth shut. Then flowers and candy. Maybe get her a present she has been wanting. Then just be quiet for awhile and let her come to you. Fighting is normal. It can add to a good relationship. Be a good hubby and keep the attitude my hubby vowed. I (the wife) am always right even when I am wrong. No fights that way. (giggle)

Answer 7

If she's not talking, a short note of apology would be nice. You don't have to accept blame for the whole argument...just be honest..."I love you too much to fight; I'm sorry."

Then give her some time. If she wants to go through the details, try to change the subject...take her to a movie...buy her a book by her favorite author. Don't get sucked back into the same argument.

Answer 8

It depends on what you were fighting about and why she's mad. You need to understand the real reason why she is upset, so that if you apologize, you know what you are apologizing for and you will be able to be better about it in the future. Even if you feel that you didn't do anything wrong, she is upset about SOMETHING and that's what you need to figure out. I don't envy you, women can be confusing (as I am one too) and sometimes we expect you to just know why we're mad.

Answer 9

It's admirable that you want to make things right between you. See if she is calm, and you can approach her to discuss the problem maturely--without yelling, cursing, name calling. Tell her you are sorry, that you want to make things right again between you, and that you want to come up with a solution that is good for both of you. And a card, flowers, etc. doesn't hurt either.

Answer 10

Ok. so i'm not a guy; but I'm mad at my husband and he tries to calm me down and it just makes me more upset. We finally found some words to help us. Here they are for what they're worth. Good Luck! "I know you are upset, I just don't know why this ________ (be specific) bothers you. Would you mind if you told me again, so we can come to an understanding on what the problem is and than work out a solution?"
Usually he says "You're mad" to which I reply "No duh!" Him "I don't want you to be mad" Me (Well, then fix the problem-but I'm too mad to actually say that so I slam the door to the bathroom) :)

Answer 11

what did you guys fight about? Maybe just coming right out and talking to her will help. The longer you wait to talk the worse it will get because she will feel that you don't care. Get her something nice as a piece offering but talk to her tonight.