Are you enjoying your life?

Question

I have been seeing a man who is very mean (in my opinion). I grow tired of how when I am upset about something, he always turns it around, effectively not accepting any responsibility for his rude behavior. The other night I was stunned when he said to me, "Why can't you just enjoy your life like everyone else?"

To say the least, this took me back. Is everyone else enjoying their lives? Then why are people so mean and why do they look so tired? I have never worked in a job I enjoyed and never had enough money to get by. Are there people, besides Oprah, who actually enjoy their life? Are there people who enjoy their jobs?

If so, I would love to hear from you.

Answer 1

I can honestly say I have struggled my whole life in everything I do too. My husband thinks he's the greatest man God ever made & he is good in a lot of ways but if everything is done HIS way. If I have an idea it's blown out the window. Everything we have ever done has to be his idea first. He is very stubborn. I wish there was a way of getting something in life that makes us happy. Are you depressed ? I went on Prozac but nothing changes. I just feel used by everyone & my needs are never met ! If he is making you more miserable get rid of him quick ! Don't get stuck.
Good luck !

Answer 2

I guess it's alright. Well not really alright. I enjoy some parts and hate others. I think that's common.

"Why can't you just enjoy your life like everyone else?" is a gross overestimation of the truth. Most people don't really enjoy their life. Many people who SEEM to be enjoy it often put on a face. You know how fake people tend to be? You're just honest and a lot of people don't like honesty. They think they do, but they don't.

It's like when someone asks how you're doing. (I remember this question in either here or surveycentral.org.) Do you either give a generic answer like "Fine"? Or tell them how you really feel? I'm the type who is sincere, and so I tell it like it is. If I'm tired, I'll say "tired". If I'm bloated, I'll say "crampy". If I'm energetic, I'll say "hyper". People tend to flinch when they're not expecting a real answer! But sometime I get a laugh of the person. And then I think, it's nice to know that there are some people left with their humor intact.

But that being said, don't complain incessantly. I used to be a serial complainer, but got over it somehow. Anyways, if that guy bothers you don't beat around the bush. Tell him exactly what is wrong with him because it'll be the only way you'll get through to him. Even if it seems like it doesn't, it will. I know how those type of guys function. And the cold, hard truth won't kill him. He's given you his cold opinion. Now it is your turn to do him.

Answer 3

Sadly there are a lot of people out there that don't enjoy there lives. They don't think they aremaking enough money aren't living in a big enough house or things along those lines. I grew up in a rich county but spent 2 years of my life with my family moving from friend to family members houses because we didn't have any money and my father had walked out on us.

Surely not the story of someone who enjoys there life right?

Not really. When I got out of high school I got a temp job and I am still there to this day. I love my job and I am quickly moving up that later. In the first 3 months I got a promotion and went into my current department and couldn't think any better of the job I am in or the people I work with. If I didn't enjoy what I was doing I would have left a long time ago and found something different.

I have been through enough relationships to know that there are plenty of men out there that will walk all over you to get what they want. Now I am with a guy I couldn't think any higher of. And he feels the same way about me. We are working on starting a future together and although we know there are times we don't get along and we don't see eye to eye we also know we can work through it.

Beyond that I have my issues with my family just like everyone else. I haven't heard from my father in over 3 years bit I have the greatest stepfather anyone could ever ask for.

While I understand there are people who don't enjoy there lives I do not understand why. I would never dream of working in a job that I didn't like or dealing with family issues or boyfriend issues that would make me hate my life. Its not worth it. You don't live long enough to be unhappy.

So I say sit back and count your blessings. And if you see something in your life your not happy with get off you butt and change it! Its not that hard as long as you have the will. That is the important part.
And no offense this man you are with obivously isn't making you that happy so why are you with him? Shouldn't you be with someone who makes you happy and listens to you instead of turning away from you when you need to have someone listen to you?

Anyway...hope it helped a little bit if nothing else.

Answer 4

My job kinda sucks...but I have a beautiful little 6 year old girl and to watch her run around and be so excited about life has taught me so much. I have never had much money ever in my life time, which is fine because when I do save up and get a nice thing every now and again it makes me appreciate it more. I surround myself with positive and fun people. I used to date jerks all the time and finally decided that being single was better than putting up with jerks. If you are an unhappy person then all you will see are all the other unhappy people. If you start to look for the people who really enjoy and live life, then you will see that we are every where. When I started to be more positive then I found that I met more positive people, including a wonderful man. I wish you the best.

Answer 5

I am like you...I have never liked a job, I never have any money and am usually negative. My boyfriend on the other hand loves his overly physical job...wants to work 24/7, there are always bills that need to be paid that leave him broke, he has a dark cloud over his head and bad things keep happening to him but he still has a positive attitude, lets nothing bother him, never stresses, and just enjoys life. He says there is no point in worrying. Bc after all the worrying, the problem is still there, is doesn't help. He says if there is something you can do about it do it and if not don't worry about it and this makes him trully enjoy his life. It is really inspiring that people who are poor or handicapped or whatever the non perfect situation is, are really happy with their lives. Also I think books by Sylvia Browne are good. She explains that you plan your life and harder it is the braver of a person you are. Just know everyone has problems, some bigger than others, but you have to be the one that says I am not going to let this get me down, I will get through, I always do, and keep going on. Sometimes we have to also find simple pleasures, and these are what sometimes make life enjoyable. Sorry to keep going on but remember someone always has it worse than you. (Be nice if I could practice what I preach)

Answer 6

generally guys enjoy life easier because they don't get bothered by things as much as girls. so, i suspect he just doesn't understand that because he is okay with stuff and you are upset by stuff, that doesn't make anyone wrong. either that or he is too much of a jerk, find someone else. usually guys and girls have to work at their relationship though often it isn't until a few years of marriage have gone by. ( for reference as you can probably tell, I am a girl, married, and been through and seen lots of this kind of stuff.)

do I enjoy my life? well sometimes, other times I would like not to have to deal with the problems I have. and seriosly, my problems now are not so bad, as a kid well, that was huge problems which of course still affect me. Even with my good kife, I still get depressed, three weeks ago, tons of crying, with reason, two mmonths ago, crying wit minor reason. It comes and goes, but I am under the care of a doctor taking medicine for emotions. Don't flip on me, society has no idea the scientifically the chemicals in your brain may go off balance, causing you to be sad when you reaay aren't sad. anybody who says, just get over it knows nothing. if I hsd diabetes noone would tell me to get over it like it wasn't real, cause that is an insoline imbalance, not in the brain. Maybe you might want to see a doctor, more likely he should see adoctor, ut won't. It is hard for guys cause they feel week about it and guys can't stand feeling week. instead they say it is girls not them. Everyone feels sad sometimes, if you feel desparate do get help, it is not something you can just wish away. Often people associate anti-depressants with being suicidal. that also is not true, even at my worst, idon't want to die, just be someplace else.

do I enjoy my job? yes, I have a good one with a great boss. terrible pay though, also it is part time so I don't work all that hard. In my oppinion dont pick a job by salary, money never makes you happy of course povery doesn't do much for you either. try a balance of money and interest level. working with good people is a definite must for a happy job.

Answer 7

I enjoy my life. I work with youth and get paid very little. Money is definately not going to make you happy. If you can't be content with what you have now, you will always think you need something more to make you happy, even if you come into a lot of money. As for your job, maybe you need to take a step back and decide what best suits your personality. You have the power to change who you are seeing. If he doesn't respect you then move on. I hope you someday find what your looking for.

Answer 8

Yes, I truly enjoy my life, but it has taken me a long time to learn how. I would not enjoy being around a jerk like you refer to (the "man"). Therefore, I would not select him as a friend. You sound okay. He does not. He has a problem. You have a problem with him. Do you see how to add this up properly? Either he changes or you leave. He sound depressed and agitated projecting his bad moods on you. You don't need that. If he will not get help and admit to his problems, then you have little choice.

Now, you need to learn to enjoy life regardless of where you are or what you do or how much money you make. Happiness is an internal quality. MY favorite quote:

Happiness is difficult to find within yourself. It is impossible to find elsewhere.
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Answer 9

It's a psychological feeling. I am in West Verginia and i have absolutely NO money... infact, i go to a highschool with 516 kids. But though i don't really like the fact that everyone hunts here, i get over it because this school was the first place i ever had any friends. I was accually going to commit suicide if it wasn't for my best friend. Don't hate your life because there are those few who gets on your nerves, and you hate your job. It isn't them that's making you unhappy, it's yourself. Think posative... or you'll end up like me. Just think, who in your life is most important, and what would you be without them.

Answer 10

I enjoy my life, I always think to myself, what I'm going through isn't probably the greatest, but I know theres someone out there whos going through hell.