2007-03-21 07:58:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it changed the attention we gave each other-certainly! When the kids were babies it was more difficult, we used to argue a lot, I think it was mostly due to stress. Now that the kids are 5 and older, we have so much fun together. We go on nice vacations, theme parks, the kids' sport games, it is just a great step in our relationship now!
2007-03-21 08:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kids have nothing to do with a marriage. A marriage is between a man and woman.
Kids become a part of a family.
People have kids and think they are apart of the marriage and then wonder why their marriage fails.
2007-03-21 08:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If by "negatively impact", you mean there was less time for just myself and my wife, less disposable income and more things to argue about.
However, the positives far outweigh the negatives. We are both better people for having the little blessings in our lives. I can't picture it any other way.
2007-03-21 08:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only if your marriage has a problem to begin with. Having kids is the BEST...but the hardest....and not a fix for a bad relationship. But what a bond between two people who really love each other! Best wishes to you.
2007-03-21 08:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by caraanne2005 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Having kids changed our lives, but changed them for the better I think. We waited 5 years before having kids to travel, vacation, experiment, and explore. These days we don't get out as much, but I can honestly say that cooking dinner or BBQ'ing here at home with a cold Heineken in my hand, my wife keeping me company, and the babies playing on the livingroom floor with their toys is WAY better than spending $200 on dinner & drinks with people who stopped calling us as soon as we became parents.
2007-03-21 08:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think so. The only two things that even come to mind are securing a baby sitter when we wanted to go out, and the fact that we couldn't just have 100%, totally spontaneous sex, but that was never a big problem. Our son never interfered with our moderate social life or satisfying sex life.
2007-03-21 08:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say negative but.. I wouldn't go as far as to say positive . It just made it different. There are times when the children do make me feel more connected to my husband but there are also time when it makes us feel like we are on opposing teams. I would say it has made the marriage seem more "real"
2007-03-21 08:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not have kids, but most couples I know started bickering when their kids came along. I'm not sure if it's long-lasting, or just a temporary lack of sleep, but they do not seem very happy (and all of their kids were planned, since they are relatively affluent professionals in their mid-thirties)
2007-03-21 08:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, but from what I have seen, in general, a marriage should stand on its own merit. Taking on the role of parent is not the same as taking on the role as a husband/wife.
2007-03-21 08:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Blitz 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no it did not mine.. but you need to be ready for kids before you have them.. so many people want to just jump into a marriage and have kids or have kids then the marriage.. but you need to have a strong relationship before you can commit yourself completely to either of those things.
2007-03-21 08:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋