I guess im just being paranoid. My fiance and I have been together for about 7 years and people have ben hounding us about marriage forever, parents mostly, we always wanted to but could never afford it. I became pregnant by accident not too long ago and we decided to get married. We are both very happy about our situation.We scheduled our wedding quickly so that I wouldnt show. Our parents are so happy and both families are invovled with it, they just think we are being spontaneous. We are getting married april 6th and planning to tell our parents Easter April 8th, I just feel that this will be a let down to them, like everyone will think we are getting married because I got pregnant, (which we are) but it is a very joyous occasion. Did I mention everyone is a devout Catholic, I feel like a teenager having to tell my parents I got knocked up and Im 28 years old. Im also three months along and I feel like they will be mad maybe that we didnt tell them sooner. Do you think they suspect?
2007-03-21 07:54:45 · 19 answers · asked by Bored 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Have you ever heard the saying 'first baby can come anytime, the second one takes 9 months'?
I am sure they will be happy for you.
Good Luck & Congrats!
2007-03-21 07:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think by now your parents know that you and your boyfriend have been sleeping together as you both have been together for 7 years. You never mentioned if you live at home, have your own place or perhaps live with your boyfriend.
It is much better to tell your parents now and be honest rather than not say anything at all. You should be confessing way before Easter Sunday, a very holy day in the Catholic religion.
In my personal opinion, it is not wise to get married because you are pregnant. I am sure both parents may question your decision to get married because you are pregnant BUT I am sure both sides of the family will be happy for both of you with the anticipated new arrival.
Keep us posted on what your plans are regarding telling your parents.
2007-03-21 08:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, my dear...It doesn't matter what they think!!!! You and your fiance are apparently elated! Why should anyone else's opinion matter? Fact is, you and he have been together for a long time so obviously both of you love each other. Fact is you are pregnant and you would have gotten pregnant after you were married anyway so what's the difference if you got pregnant before the showy ceremony? RELAX! Enjoy your new husband and new baby! If they have a problem tell them that stressing you out is not good for the baby. By the time you have the baby and are healthy enough to be stressed by them, your parents will be so elated to be grandparents they will not care about the date of your child's conception! Congratulations and best wishes!
2007-03-21 08:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're 28 and will be married...I know you don't want to dissappoint your parents, but you're an adult and they'll just react how they'll react. They may already expect it with a "quickie" wedding, but not necessarily. You could tell both sets of parents by having an Easter lunch or dinner at your place and give each set a gift that's baby related like little booties or something like that to where it's obvious when they open the gift. My cousin did that. If you're happy with the siutuation, I'll bet your parents will learn to be, too, especially when that baby comes!
2007-03-21 08:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister told my parents (and the sisters of the family)
"The wedding is April 9 and the baby is due August 23"
We had no clue there was a possible wedding (they weren't engaged yet) and definately no clue about a baby!
Of course there is inital shock (my mom took a shot of Jose Cuervo and then said "I'm sorry, can you repeat that?") after the shock wears off your family will most likely be overjoyed and excited!
Congrats!
2007-03-21 08:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will not be mad. I'm sure no one was thinking you guys were saving yourself for marriage anyways. I've been with my fiance for 7 years and we found out about my pregnancy in September. We have no plans of marrying right now, and my parents (who are very strict) were completely ok with it because I have my college education, my fiance is a great, caring guy, and we're very responsible. They might be Catholics, but they're still your family! Don't worry and enjoy you're pregnancy. You're an adult now.
2007-03-21 08:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your parents will be happy either way... you're finally getting married (Congratulations!) and they're going to be grandparents (Congratulations!).
Whether they suspect or not really doesn't matter at this point. If they question why you took so much time to tell them, be pragmatic (and lie) and tell them you wanted to get out of the 'danger zone' of the first few months of pregnancy before spreading the word.
Congrats again!
2007-03-21 08:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I know where your coming from about the Catholisim part. My sister in law became pg and had a shotgun marriage and was Catholic. Aye aye aye, I feel it's very sad that we can't just accept things without being judged ya know.
The only who can judge us is above. You do what's right for you and your family. In the end that's all that matters. Once that sweet baby is here everyone will forgot about when you got pg. :) Good luck!
2007-03-21 07:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by yoopergoddess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell them your relationship will only grow stronger and your baby will perhaps be closer to your parents too. I know your Catholic but remember to err is human to forgive divine. If my daughter were in your situation I would want to support her no matter what ... because I adore her. There is no shame here ... so don't let that even come into your mind. You are on your way to creating a family and that is wonderful. Peace.
2007-03-21 08:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Buddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While there may be some initial disappointment that the "honeymoon" came before the wedding, I think overall they will be happy that "I DO" came before the first grandchild appears.
Congratulations and remember that the most important thing a mother and father can do for their child is to LOVE EACH OTHER!
2007-03-21 08:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by stonechic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋