Sometimes I feel like I dont fit in anywhere and I dont have any friends what should I do?

Question

I try really hard to fit in but I feel like its time wasted sometimes i get so depressed even thinking about it. Any advice would help THANKS!!

Answer 1

Dont' try to fit it be yourself and accept who you are. Being outside the box is a good thing. Embrace your unique qualities that's what draws real friends.

Answer 2

If you really don't feel that u fit in the group, then that means they are not the type of friends that u can really gets a long. Try to find some people that you get a long with. Then, talk one of the person that you need a freind to be there 4 u most of the time. But if ur shy to do that, you can also ask 4 teacher's help. He/she'll understand your situation and feeling. Ha! ha! ^_^ you might even be friends.

Answer 3

I have friends, and I do fit in, but damn if I don't feel like this every now and then, too.

First, don't try so hard. Just learn to appreciate who you are. The better you feel about yourself, the more other people will notice it. Everyone likes confident people, so if you are trying to fit in and you aren't confident, it'll show.

Second, it can be depressing! But I default to my first point. You have to like yourself first. Otherwise, you'll be surrounded with all of these people, and you'll still feel alone.

Last, spend some time alone and trying to enjoy it. Get to know yourself. Figure out what you love, find out what your flaws are, find out what kinds of things you would say to describe yourself. You'll become stronger in who you are, and you'll feel less alone because you'll realize that you always can rely on yourself!

Answer 4

Being Confident is attractive, so even if you are different, people can respect you for who you are. I feel the same way, i'm different then people my age i'm 25, and most girls my age act so prissy, and i just like to be me. I'm content with having no friends (i just moved to a new city), I have acquiantances but no real friends here, i'm content because I have great friends back home. Real good friends that stay with you for a long period of time and those are great friendships. If you dont fit in, thats ok, you may not want friends like that anyway.

Answer 5

Don't try to fit in - just be yourself and you will find that you're all that you need to be.

When you get the healthy self-confidence that makes up part of being a balanced human being, you will find that you will have friends without even trying.

In practical terms, concentrate on yourself - what can you do that will make you feel good about yourself - is it playing basketball, or working out in the gym? Just do what you need to do and then, just by virtue of being there and brushing shoulders with people who share the same interests with you, friendship naturally blossoms.

Good luck!

Answer 6

First- I think most of us in our lifetime feel that we don't fit in anywhere. The way that I look at it is be true to yourself. Don't do things just to fit in. Be yourself! I'm sure you have wonderful qualities:If you have to do things that you normally wouldn't or try to impress someone that is not a true friend.
Think about the things that make you different: such as your personality, looks, passion for life... Maybe people are perceiving you differently. When you are around others you need to project what you want them to see about you-- all of the good qualities!
Just a thought!

Answer 7

I feel u. when I first came to Colorado; I kept thinking life wasn’t valuable anymore. My first school I went to was not about fitting in becuz ppl already wanted me 2 be their friend and everything, but when I transferred to another school, no one seemed to care that there was a new student coming from another state. Mainly because it was full of conceited that grls that meeting new friends means nothing to them, so I started realizing, “I don’t fit here and im not going to try 2 fit in.” Grls in my school are so conceited that I decided not 2 try 2 fit in and try 2 become like them. I learned that in my other school, they liked me for not how I looked like, but how I am, and in this school, all they care about is the latest trends. No matter how much u want to fit in, ur going to start realizing it’s a waste of time, but if ur looking 4 friends, talk 2 ppl that are like u. if u dont have someone to talk 2, talk 2 me. I’ll listen! Making friends is easy but it can be hard. If u want friends, ur going to have to start trying 2 fit in so ppl can notice u, but u don’t have to. U have 2 take a decision that u respect!

Answer 8

Stop trying so hard, surround yourself with those that hold the same intrests as you so you can openly feel safe to be yourself, which by the way you should do regardless of who is around. There are clubs, groups for almost anything now a days. Life is too short to sit around being depressed get your butt outside and and surround yourself with people that share your intrests!

Answer 9

Maybe you just haven't found your niche in life. Go volunteer at the animal shelter, the library (read to the blind), the hospital or nursing home, join a book club at the local library or book store, join an athletic group (volleyball is a lot of fun), ask an elderly neighbor if they need errands run (rake the lawn, shovel snow, walk their dog, clean their house), ask if any neighbors need their dog walked or kids babysat. Call your grandma and ask if she wants to have lunch with you. You will meet lots of new people and some of these will become friends. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 10

You have to change something about your allocation of time in your day. Meaning, if you do what you're already doing, you'll get what you're already experiencing. Think about what you like to do or what you'd like to be doing and find a group that does that. You could start out chatting with others about your prospective hobby on the internet. Secondly, having friends means being there for other's and giving yourself to the relationship. Join a club that does something you are good at.