I'm a 14 year old girl and I have grown up with guys my whole life (I have 4 younger brothers at this point) and I have always gotten along with guys better than girls, whom I just don't get along with. I do have one very very good friend who is a girl, yet all of my other friends are guys. I know my mom wants to do the best she can in raising me, but she makes me bring atleast one other girl when I go out with my guy friends, and since I have only one friend that's a girl, I end up having to drag her and her boyfriend everywhere with me. I'm not going against my mothers judgement but I just wanted to know what anyone else thought of this, or have any suggestions on what I should do?
2007-03-21 07:47:33 · 9 answers · asked by spiffehdoo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm glad my mother is strict about things, I've never even been kissed before, however I feel this is straining my social life? I'm not exactly sure but I know it definitely doesn't let me get away from my 4 younger brothers enough, especially when my girl friend isn't able to come...
2007-03-21 07:50:21 · update #1
My mother also lost her virginity at my age, and I feel that she's sheltering me because she doesn't want me to turn out the same way? But I don't feel it's fair... because I've been brought up entirely different.
2007-03-21 08:17:38 · update #2
I was in the same situation as a kid...I did not get along with girls for nothing and all of my friends were guys not only guys they were older than me, when i was 15 i was hanging out with nothing but 18-19 year old guys but i also had a sister who were good friends with them as well and she was 16 so we were always together, my mother really didn't care because most of the guys looked out for us as if we were family, and they would always come over so my mother got to know them real well. Have you tried having them over so your mom could get to know them????That would give her a chance to find out what their about and see if she could trust them...
I could tell you, she probably wants you to be around a girl while with these guys because men are weird you can trust very few, being alone with alot of guys also increases your chances of getting raped ect you know and you don't want that.....
2007-03-21 08:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand what you mean. i've always had more guy friends than girls. I had a similar problem when a couple years ago when I lived at home. the best thing to do is just have your guy friends over or do things where your mom can see how you interact with them and how they are around you. Once she realizes you're all just friends and you respect and care about one another she'll probably lighten up a bit. Right now she's probably just worried that you will end up going out with the guy instead of just being friends. So just reassure her by showing her that you're all just great friends and see if that works. Hope it helps and good luck!
2007-03-21 14:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I have more guy friends than girl friends. Perhaps you can invite some of your guy friends over to watch movies or something a couple times, to let your mother get to know them better, and realize that they won't try anything with you.
2007-03-21 15:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by selena620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was about to say, some girls have lost thier virginity at 14 and you've never even been kissed?! I see you already knew that.
So you're a tomboy, get over it. your mom is just a little protective, don't worry. I do feel sorta sorry for your friend, but for you all you need to do is remind your mom that she shouldn't worry about it every so often.
2007-03-21 15:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Russly F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom just remembers how it was being a teen and HOW teenage boys think! Teenage boys DONT have to love u or feel any emotion for u for sex! Most will ummmmm jump anything that moves! lol I think your mom is just looking out for your best interest! Alot of guys just pretend to be your friend when they really LIKE u like you- and r just waiting for a chance!!!!! She loves u and wants to protect u thats all!
2007-03-21 15:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hanging around guys is great, but i do see your moms concerns. She has the right to be concerned but not controlled. At 14, i think you can look after yourself, just be around guys you trust and known for a long time.
2007-03-21 17:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I get along better with guys than girls. I also have more in common with guys than girls. However it's forbidden in my religion for girls to be friends with boys and vice versa which suxs. Just try to make more girl friends. You'll get used to it if you try.
2007-03-21 14:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have had more guy friends than girl friends. Have you told your mom that you haven't even been kissed yet ? Maybe you should tell her . It may ease her mind to know your not sexually active , and most importantly , NOT HER !
2007-03-21 15:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by K.Heat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to understand now but i believe your mother is just looking out for you kids are growing up so fast these days
2007-03-21 15:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋