Do you think that husbands and wives have the same role in marriage?

Question

I think men and women have different roles. It isn't 50/50 with each spouse doing the same thing to make the marriage work. It's should be 100/100 where the husband and wife each fulfills there own SEPARATE duties in the marriage.

Men should be men and women should be women in marriages. Do you agree?

That's the problem with a lot of you that answered. I said roles in 'marriage' not roles in the "household duties". Marriage is a lot more that wether I pick up my dirty underwear or not.

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Answer 1

I agree with you 100%.

When husbands and wives share roles, there is conflict. Men and women bring distinctly different gifts to the marriage, and they should develop these gifts over the years and use them wisely.

The Man is the head of the home.

The woman is the heart of the home.

Answer 2

I think you are partially right, as there are things that a man is more likely to excel at and vice versa for a woman...however, they are a team. It's not a case of the old days (very often) where he brings home the money and she keeps the house and raises the kids...

In most relationships nowadays, both parties work...if that's the case, then both should also help care for the home and kids (if applicable), and both be responsible for input or action on all aspects of the couple's or family's life and improvement.

Without surgery, men can't be anything other than men, and women can't be anything other than women. Your post sounds more like veiled chauvinism with your "separate duties". Wish you'd listed what you felt the husband's and wife's duties were...

They are each 50% of the couple, but should put 100% of themselves into the relationship.

Answer 3

Men and women's roles in society and marriage are different BUT equally important. A society would suffer without women as surely as it would without men. What I mean when I tell people that we are "complimentary" is this: One has attributes and abilities that the other doesn't and together the two make a whole. It is a beautiful thing when it works out. And that goes for marriage as well. I doesn't mean that the relationship has to be rigid with both frozen in their duties, either side can and should help and share with the other for the better good. Call me old fashioned if you like but harmony in a relationship is something sorely absent these days.

Answer 4

I'm religious so part of this is in consideration to that but I've also been married so...Men are historically workers and women are historically housekeepers. Honestly, if I were a man, I would never marry a woman that didn't plan on working but I've had ex's tell me that they wanted me to stay at home so I've seen both sides. Men should be the protector, hunter-gatherer though and make sure that the 'needs' of the family are met. Women should be maternal and take care of the family. Men should have a part in raising the children and women should have a part in meeting the needs (working, etc.) but it's logical to go with the 1950's stereotype. Culture today suggests that women can do it all and be independent and work while men stay home but most women I know want a man that will protect them in the 'my boyfriend can beat up your boyfriend,' way but one that is responsible enough to take care of a family. In instances when big decisions need to be made, the spouse with expertise in the pertaining area reigns. As an example, I'm horible at controlling the finances so my husband made the 'lets refinance our mortgage,' decision, while I made other decisions. It's all relative to the couples strengths as individuals.

Answer 5

I do agree with you.. We do have different roles, The only problem I see now days is that the men aren't playing the male role and the women aren't playing the female role.. Women wanted their independence and in result men (not all) have become lazier, letting the women do it "all" work a job, raise the kids, pay the bills, clean the house, etc. I don't blame it on men, Women asked for it and now they have to deal with it (well not all women asked for it) I personally would love to go back to the days where a man worked and the women stayed home, families were closer, kids were able to be kids, and although they had their issues they were a over all better group of people. The Feminist movement ruined this country in my opinion. And Yes I am a Woman

Answer 6

Yep! It takes 100% from both partner. I think sometimes one person is better at one thing than the other, but that's why they say you have to work on it. I also think men and women have different roles in the family and they should establish their roles together.

Answer 7

somewhat. i feel we each have roles but we should both contribute 100% to make the marriage work. every marriage is diffrent. We split the duties and both work to pay the bills. i do most of the cooking and cleaning and he maintains the yard most of the time. we both have days were we pick up the otehr ones slack or help out with eachothers chores. the point is we both do the owrk and put into the marriage.

Answer 8

No they dont have the same role, I think that if a man works and the woman stays home than the woman should be in charge of cleaning the house and taking care of the children.
Wives were made to be help mates and should submit to their husbands.
Husbands were made to be the leader of the family and are to love their wives.
Both should respect each other and stand by them no matter what.

Answer 9

The year is 2007. The important thing is that both husband and wife are happy and fulfilled. however each couple goes about achieving this is up to them. I have no problem cooking, cleaning, changing diapers as needed. i personally expect my partner to share the sentiment with regards to those things that are traditionally "male" tasks and roles.

Answer 10

Yes I agree, in the most general sense. However, the specifics of what constitutes a "man's role" or a "woman's role" can vary from couple to couple - with the exception, perhaps, of bearing children, which remains unquestionably a woman's role.