If a bully hits, kicks, bites, or pulls your child's hair etc., do you tell your child to do it back? or do you just tell your child to tell the teacher? My experience is that the teacher doesn't do anything about it.
2007-03-21 07:39:12 · 22 answers · asked by wolfdance1978 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I always tell my kids to go tell the other one and then to go both beat him up.
2007-03-21 07:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I had a question about people's opinion on this kind of thing yesterday.
My brother was nearly stabbed with a pencil by a kid who has been bullying him since the third grade (the only thing that saved my brother was a very thick jacket he was wearing at the time). My brother knocked the you-know-what out of him and me and my parents congratulated him for standing up for himself. The teacher, on the other hand, put both boys in time out for an hour. My mother and I will be having a very strongly worded conversation with her soon.
Besides, my parents always taught me and my little brother that if someone were to start a fight with us and throw the first punch and if we didn't swing back or do anything to defend ourselves, we'd get another butt-whooping when we got home. I feel sorry for people who teach their children to not stand up for themselves and to "tell the teacher". They're basically teaching their kids to be doormats for the rest of their lives. Even if the kids were to tell the teacher, they don't take anything seriously nowadays. They just say "behave and sit down". No real punishment for anything anymore. It's horrible.
2007-03-21 07:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell your kid that if someone hits them then by all means hit back. It's called self defense. The Teacher will understand that I'm hoping. If it doesn't stop and you've already talked to the teacher about it with no success then go to the principal. Have a meeting with him/her and the bully's mother or father. That should straighten things out. Tell your kid I said stay strong. Good luck!
2007-03-21 08:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by elanda333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem with telling your child to defend his/herself is that they will probably be suspended or even expelled even though the situation is not their fault. However, if your child could be seriously hurt, then it is important that they defend themself. I strongly suggest notifying both the teacher and the principal so if your child is attacked again and they are forced act violently in self defense, it will not seem like they acted at random or overly aggressively. Whether or not the teacher is helpful, speak with the principal. If the principal doesn't assist you, then contact the superintindent of your school district. The more authorities you involve in the issue, the less likely your child is to suffer consequences and the more likely the problem will be resolved without your child having to act violently at all.
Good luck. Your child deserves to be safe at school.
2007-03-21 07:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to admit it, but my daughter, who is not one to get angry quickly, was being bullied by a boy in school. They were both in middle school and she said he would not leave her alone. He was constantly calling her name, pushing her, grabbing her things, etc. She finally had enough and punched the kid so hard she broke his nose and gave him a bloody lip. She did get called to the principals office, but this kid was just a bully and she was not his only target. Needless to say, she had no further problems with this kid and he avoided her like the plague. I do not advocate violence nor kids fighting back, but sometimes things just need to be settled between the kids without the parents becoming involved. I have found that when grownups get involved in kids playground problems, it makes matters a lot worse. So use your best judgement. Sometimes a well placed punch or shove is all a bully needs. They will continue to bully until they meet someone that is willing to bully back and they will usually back down. Bullies are cowards.
2007-03-21 07:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if your child is being physically assaulted by another student at school and the teacher is not doing anything about it; then you need to talk to the principal. If the principal doesn't do anything about it, then call the police or Child Protective Services.
2007-03-21 07:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU go to the school and do something about it! Never advise your child to hit back, then he will get in trouble. Trust me, I'm going through(or have recently) this with my son. I went to talk with the principal and the teacher and it's no longer a problem.
2007-03-21 07:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell them to tell the principal. If that doesn't work - go to the school board. Really, two wrongs don't make a right... even though you really want to tell your child to kick the crap out of the bully!
2007-03-21 07:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by ઈтєlly 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I say to first tell the teacher and if nothing is done about it hit back if he/she knows they are not going to get caught
2007-03-21 07:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by sedusa71 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My son would regularly come home with bloody shins from the little creeps that would kick him under the table. I spoke to the teacher. She did nothing and told me that my son needed to learn how to relate to his peers. I told her those creeps were not his peers, would never be his peers. Then I told my son to punch them and punch them hard because he'd probably only get the one chance. He did. Got suspended for a few days, but the creeps never messed with him again.
2007-03-21 07:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell the teacher on him ,but if he sell wouldn't leave me alone i would hit him no mater what
2007-03-21 07:48:08 · answer #11 · answered by daryl-ann e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋