My husband and I have been married for 6 yrs. For a while he has been having trouble wile in bed. Its seems like most of the time he can't go more then 3 min without having an orgasime. I don't think it's me I'm a pretty attractive women I 5ft 8in 120 pounds. I don't know what I can do to help him' and I don't won't to say anything and hurt his feelings or pride. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-21 07:34:31 · 13 answers · asked by luckeybug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Premature ejaculation
Causes
Experts are still trying to determine exactly what causes premature ejaculation. While it was once thought to be only psychological, we now know premature ejaculation is more complicated and involves a complex interaction of both psychological and biological factors.
Psychological causes
Some doctors believe that early sexual experiences may establish a pattern that can be difficult to change later in life such as:
Situations in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered
Guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters
Other factors that can play a role in causing premature ejaculation include:
Erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate which can be difficult to change.
Anxiety. Many men with premature ejaculation also have problems with anxiety — either specifically about sexual performance, or caused by other issues.
Biological causes
Experts believe a number of biological factors may contribute to premature ejaculation, including:
Abnormal hormone levels
Abnormal levels of brain chemicals called neurotransmitters
Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system
Certain thyroid problems
Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra
Inherited traits
Rarely, premature ejaculation is caused by:
Nervous system damage resulting from surgery or trauma
Withdrawal from narcotics or a drug called trifluoperazine (Stelazine), used to treat anxiety and other mental health problems
Although both biological and psychological factors likely play a role in most cases of premature ejaculation, experts think a primarily biological cause is more likely if it has been a lifelong problem (primary premature ejaculation).
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By Mayo Clinic Staff
Mar 2, 2007
2007-03-21 07:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quick shooter may have a lot of things on his mind.
Talk to him away from the bedroom. There maybe some stress at work that he's not shared with you.
If you can't talk to him. Then go the a sex shop and buy this jell called Chinese Brush. It will numb up his wood and he can go for hours without side effects
2007-03-21 07:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would quit having sex until this is resolved I would insist he go to the doctor and if everything checked out o.k. I would make him take the time for me to be satisfied whatever that takes. 6 yrs is worth finding out the problem and good luck
2007-03-21 07:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old he is, but it's a common problem in older men. Talk to him as there may be a medication the doc can give him to help. Otherwise, unhappiness in the bedroom leads to unfaithfullness.
2007-03-21 07:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him try a ********, it restricts the blood flow and there for should help him last just a bit longer. The adult stores and adult toy partys have them.
I have never tried it but read about it so good luck.
2007-03-21 08:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy one of those realistic looking and feeling dildos. When your husband gets his thrill before you, make him finish the job with the realistic dildo. Don't allow him to be selfish and have his quicky thrill then leave you high and dry. He needs to be taught to finish what he starts. After several instances of having to use the dildo to finish his job, he'll eventually learn to hold off on his own...until you're ready.
2007-03-21 08:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband might want to consult a therapist or doctor of some sort to learn to prolong intercourse.
it's not you (but it was interesting to see how you think it might be!) ...he just doesn't have "control".
if you can't talk with your husband about your sex life, who can you talk to??????
try communication.
all the best!
2007-03-21 07:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would do it in front of the tv so he is a little distracted and he should foreplay with you longer at the begining and the more often you have sex the longer he will last
2007-03-21 09:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by summertime f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he use to last longer before? Are you having sex less frequently now?
2007-03-21 13:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by krsh28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him. Maybe see a therapist together. Also, try spell check.
Or, it could be that you are so hot that it would happen to any guy.
2007-03-21 07:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by ropman1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋