2007-03-21 07:31:42 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No...My marriage is a twosome, not a threesome...
2007-03-21 07:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I still believe in God. I am simply not convinced that God and/or His church really cares about marriage.
Given my experience with lack of help from the church when my wife, also a church member, had her affair and left, and lack of effective help from God, I'm not really convinced God really cares.
He certainly did not demonstrate care and love during the divorce.
I have not seen her suffer consequences from the affair.
She was picked to be the primary custodian, not because she was a better parent, but simply because she was already with our daughter more due to being a SAHM.
So, perhaps it is the lack of God, but it's not like God wasn't invited into my former marriage. Instead, it seems he ignored the invitation.
2007-03-21 16:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, and I tend to take issue with people who like to use God (Jesus or religion) as a "one size fits all" solution to relationship problems.
A couple could have an absolutely wonderful or disastrous relationship due to the presence (or absence) of several key issues, and these are NOT inextricably linked to God, Jesus or religion.
You're entitled to your beliefs, but I can show you a happy atheist couple and a miserable born-again couple.
Some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:
1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.
3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.
4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.
2007-03-21 15:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes because God gives you the most sound advise about marriage and when I look at marriages today I find there are two things missing that God says is so important. One is love and the other is respect. If you read the book of ephesians ch5:33 God instructs men to love their wives as they love themselves and women to see that they respect their husbands. He doesnt tell women to love their husbands, because woman love them anyway but they do tend to loose respect for them easily, when husbands dont tll them that they love them over and over. WOmen ned to know that they are loved. On the other hand when I see how some men treat their wives I wonder just how much they love themselves!
When God is included people behave more maturely for the simple reason that they know that they have to account to God one day for their lives and what they did with Jesus in their lives and how they treated friends, family and foe.
A person who has God in his life will learn to be humble and not proud, wise and not foolish, accountable and dignified and walk with integrity. He will have love, joy, peace and be kind and good and faithful, excercising self control and enduring all things, because you see that is the very nature of God, that a christian inherits when he invites God into his life. Naturally that would be a great arena for a successful marriage, wouldnt you agree?
Life without God is meaningless and empty. Life with God is exciting, rewarding, everlasting and eternal and more than anything, better than anything the world can offer.
Yes there are Christians who fall into sinful ways and by the way no one is perfect and never will be, because there is not one person on earth who does not sin. Through repenting he is forgiven. Many Christian leaders have fallen into temptation and one silly CHOICE is what broke them and destroyed them. That is what life is all about, CHOICE. You can choose anything you want, good or bad. You simply have to live up to the consequences of that choice.
By worldly standards today marriage does join two together to be one, the question is which one?
I know you didnt ask for all this but I think it explains why I say "yes".
2007-03-21 15:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. Hundreds of millions of Budhists and Confucianists have happy marriages that work.
Maybe arrogance can be a problem in some marriages though--wink, wink. Ahem.
And Ted Haggard's wife didn't seem all that happy to find out the Evangelical leader was stepping out for meth-fueled homosexual sex.
People crack me up--smile. Despite all the evidence to the contrary--billions of Budhists, atheists, agnostics, confucianists, etc happily married, and devout deists (christians, jews, muslims, etc) that are unhappily married or divorced--some persist in superstitously clinging to the notion that somethings aside from character and attitude are at work here.
Silliness.
2007-03-21 14:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People who define themselves as "born again Christians" happen to have the highest divorce rate of any group in America.
If anything has been a problem in my marriage it's been too much religion. My wife is fanatically religious and I am not.
Still, we've managed to work it out for 26 years.
Enjoy
2007-03-21 14:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Duck in the woods 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it might be part of the problem but I think there are other things that hurt mariage worse. I think we humans are not willing to work hard to make our marriages work. As soon as it get tough we bail. We chose the wrong partners for the wrong reasons.
2007-03-21 14:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that were true, then most religious theists would be in the happiest marriages, and most atheists would be in the least happy marriages. Please don't be naive enough to tell me that's the case.
God or lack thereof has absolutely nothing to do with the success of a marriage.
2007-03-21 14:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Probably too much God not enough marriage relationship.
2007-03-21 14:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The major problem is a lack of mutual respect.
2007-03-21 14:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Niklaus Pfirsig 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes I believe couples who do not accept God in there lives have a harder tiome getting over rockslides etc. in marriage.
I'm not saying you must attend church every week and strictly follow the bible but just believing and praying for you, your spouse and family, friends and other loved ones gives you a refreshing aspect to your life. Plus having things you cannot
discuss with others you can with God and only him.
Very important point and question God Bless.
2007-03-21 15:09:35 · answer #11 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋