Did you give your child up for adoption?

Question

For the real mothers, this may be a site that will help you. It helped me.

http://www.exiledmothers.com/

I'm so glad you get to talk to the daughter you gave up for adoption all the time, you're unique. In all my years with the exception of the annoymous writters on this site, have I known of so many happy, well adjusted, "birth mothers". Some who actually claim they have regular contact with their adopted out children ALL THE TIME.

ONCE YOU GIVE YOUR BABY TO ANYONE, YOU LOSE ALL LEGAL RIGHTS TO ANY PROMISES THEY MADE.

THERE ARE NO LAWS THAT ENFORCE "OPEN ADOPTION"... BELIEVE ME, IT DOESN'T STAY THAT WAY FOR LONG... IF AT ALL

There may be a few... very, very few girls/women who have given their baby to strangers and been ok with it. I don't know any. But if there are some, then it was a good decision, because there is something mentally not connected. The loss of a child is unnatural. Anyone who doesnt feel that pain and loss ISN'T NORMAL. If you ARE a normal, loving, caring, woman and really don't want to go thru with an adoption... DON'T !!!!!!!

NO IT IS NOT DIFFERENT... READ THE WHOLE WEBSITE

THERE ARE PAID PROFESSIONAL PREDITORS WHO TELL WOMEN / GIRLS THAT THEY HAVE "RIGHTS" THAT THERE IS SUCH A THING AS "OPEN ADOPTION"

I EVEN FOLLOWED THE SITE GIVEN BY SOMEONE HERE AND IT LOOKED COMPLETELY LEGITAMENT TELLING ABOUT "BIRTHMOTHERS" RIGHTS. I CALLED THE 800 NUMBER WHICH WENT TO CHILDRENS WELFARE, THE PERSON WHO ANSWERED THE PHONE IN ARIZONA ASSURED ME THAT THERE ARE NO RIGHTS FOR THE REAL MOTHERS ONCE THE ADOPTION GOES THROUGH. I STATED THE SITE I WAS ON AND SHE SAID THAT ANYONE COULD HAVE PUT THAT UP AS BEING LEGITAMENT, BUT IT WAS NOT.

IT DID LOOK REAL.

REAL MOTHERS HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHTS AFTER THEY GIVE THEIR BABIES UP FOR ADOPTION, IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT ANYONE TELLS YOU, OR WHAT PAPERWORK THEY GIVE YOU. IF IT DOESN'T FOLLOW STATE OR FEDERAL LAWS THEN IT IS NOT ENFORCEABLE.

SHAME ON YOU FOR PERPETUATING THESE LIES!!!!

THIS QUESTION WASN'T MEANT FOR YOU ANYWAYS.

READ THE QUESTION.

Answer 1

I didn't give my child up for adoption, but I, myself am adopted. My mother was 15 when she had me. This was back in the early 70's. I have tried to find her when I turned 19, and the files are not open. It was a closed adoption. I don't know anything much about my biological mother. I have some identifying information about her, about family and origins. My biological father was 19 at the time. I sometimes wonder now since I have a child of my own if she is still alive and still thinks about me around my birthday at least. Maybe one day I will know, maybe I will never know. I have my own life. I am not going to be all hung up about it, wondering for the rest of my life. I am sure it was decision that had to be made at that time of her life, her being young, still going to school, I don't know why her parents couldn't look after me, but things happen for a reason. I hope she thinks about me. But that is up to her.

Answer 2

A family member of mine was considering open adoption but ended up keeping her child. For one, the adoptive family knew everything about her and had been to her home a couple of times, but they lived out of state and not once did they give her an address or even invite her to see where her child would be raised. The AF had treated all of us, not just her, like "rednecks", her $40,000 a year income compared to their $120,000, they constantly looked down on her and us. Then they chose to watch a baseball game when the child they paid an agency (not the mom) $20,000 for was only 5 hours old and she was in surgery. They left all of the responsibility of the baby from feeding, to bathing, to dealing with the failed hearing test onto her, saying they didn't want to hurt her feelings. When she slept I cared for the baby. When they took the baby they had the baby in a blanket and zipped up sleeper in 75-80 degree weather, baby was always sweating. They neglected a follow up blood test and whisked the baby away to a hotel in a different city. Their attorney had moved the termination date to when the baby was only 16 days old when our state gives 6 months before final termination. The attorney also refused to talk to her when the baby's father was present when he was involved. I took her to go get the baby back. The baby had food in his hair, was stinky from being overheated and had a bleeding diaper rash, at only 6 days old. The AF had the baby for 5. We have learned the AF has since gotten another baby who has had pneumonia twice and we have read their blog, where baby is always sick. She doesn't work and leaves the baby in daycare to shop. To shop. She's always shopping for stuff. Purses. Jewelry. The birth mom has since lost her job which is why she was considering this open adoption. She is still struggling financially but she's raising a cool kid that we all love so much. These people would have taken him and ran. The "open" adoption didn't exist. They used her. They made empty promises to get what they wanted and there aren't any laws to protect the baby or birth parents in a case like this.

Answer 3

The information on your site is extremely outdated. The adoptions of the 50s, 60s, and 70s are nothing like today.

It would be best if you found some current facts to support your argument to put on your website. But, I doubt you will, because adoptions today just don't happen they way they did back then.

Answer 4

Yes, I have 12 years ago, still see her and talk to her
By the way I am a REAL mother.

Answer 5

nope, even though im a single mom

Answer 6

No.

Answer 7

never!!!!!!