I have this friend.....?

Question

who is extremely annoying. if I like something, she rolls her eyes, if she likes something, i have to like it too. she goes to my church and has a really nice family so i can't exactly hate her. What should I do? ( no stupid answers please)

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean. My sister is that way, so I can understand the need to be delicate about the situation. What I do, is keep alot of personal opinions to myself, or share them with other friends instead of her. And I do also find myself agreeing with her about things just to keep from an eye-roll or a bad attitude. In my experience, she will never change, and she doesn't see herself with the problem, so you will have to adjust yourself to the situation. Like I said, when you want to share something or gossip or talk about something that she will snub, then save it for someone who will appreciate or be open minded. SHare only the things with her that will not cause anger inside you when she acts like a butt-head. I understand. It's very unfair and frustrating, but people like that see you as the one with the problem, not them. And they will NEVER change.

Answer 2

When she's around think of other things that will help make you feel good! Think about them one at a time before going on to the next one. It does make you feel good, especially the thought at the end #45.

1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket.
5. A special glance.
6. Getting a card or letter in the mail.
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Chocolate milkshake (vanilla or strawberry).
12. A bubble bath.
13. Giggling.
14. A good conversation.
15. The beach.
16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter.
17. Laughing at yourself.
18. Looking into someones eyes and knowing that they Love you.
19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
20. Running through sprinklers.
21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
23. Laughing at an inside joke.
24. Friends.
25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
29 Playing with a new puppy or kitten.
30. Having someone play with your hair.
31. Sweet dreams.
32. Hot chocolate.
33. Road trips with friends.
34. Swinging on swings.
35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
36. Making chocolate chip cookies.
37. Having your friends send you homemade cookies.
38. Holding hands with someone you care about.
39. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
40 Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
41. Watching the sunrise.
42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
43. Knowing that somebody misses you.
44. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
45. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.

Answer 3

You have several options:

1. Next time she rolls her eyes at something you like, point it out to her and ask her why she does that. You can also express how it makes you feel when she responds that way to your likes.

2. Next time she expects you to like something that she likes, when perhaps you don't, stand your ground. It is okay to have your own opinion without insulting someone. You can let her know you are happy that she likes that (if that is how you feel) but for whatever reason you don't care for it for yourself.

3. Begin to distance yourself from her. If the friendship is not healthy, then there isn't anything that says you have to be buddies with her. You can be kind and respectful to her, but at the same time you can start to expand your circle of friends and slowly move away from her.

4. Pray for tolerance and the ability to forgive. Also pray for the wisdom to be able to communicate with her the things that are bothering you. Are those the only two things that annoy you about her? If so, then perhaps bringing them to her attention will help her to correct it.

It is important for us to be honest with our friends. If they are truly someone we care about, then they deserve to know how we feel. If what she does is important enough (something that is affecting your relationship with her) then you need to find a way to bring it up and see if it can be resolved. Avoidance is the easy route, but I have found that confrontation (in a respectful way) helps me to grow more mature, and helps the other person to understand how they can grow and mature.

Most of all, pray!!!

Answer 4

This may cost you your friendship, but hey, if she does that then there's no need to keep her. I have had a friend that got mad a me because I didn't like her other friend, and we were best friends up until that point. If she got mad at me for saying that I didn't have to be her friend just cause my friend was her friend, then yeah. You should tell your friend to stop doing that, and if she keeps on and doesn't respect your choices then she's not a friend at all. You may like her, but liking somebody doesn't make them a friend. Trust and sacrifice does. So tell her that. But as it turns out, the girl who I said wasn't my friend, we're good friends now.

Answer 5

eiwww.
I just dumped a friend probab;ly like this a week ago. Always in competition with me, best schools, clothes, ideas, solutions, ect ect.
I continued to put up with her for a year, partly because she has no other friend that last more than a few get-togethers. then last week I could no longer contain myself. I ended it and you should,too. Whats the purpose of adding another burden to your life.

Answer 6

It sounds like your friend is somewhat self-centered, but in my experience, most people are. With maturity will come the ability to embrace differences and diversity. If we all liked the same things, how boring would life be?
Ever think of telling her that?

Answer 7

Don't act as if u like something just coz she wants u to. Give her a piece of your mind,don't try to please her the whole time,u can be honest without fighting with her or being rude.I also think that a friend doesn't behave the way she is,so if I were u,I'd write her off as a friend.

Answer 8

Start rolling your eyes at her likes. And ignore her remarks about things you like

Answer 9

We should talk, I have the same problem expect this girl even tries to be like me shes walking,talking,doing her hair, wearing the same perfum, liking the same guys...ect just like me! only thing I can tell you is leave her alone let her be maybe she will grow up in time, but you just try to live your life the best way you can.

Answer 10

You have to tell her that your taste is different to hers and she has to come to terms that each person is unique. She has to respect you just as you do her. If she treasures your friendship, she therefore has to give you your own space. Each of you can agree to disagree without being disagreeable. That is the sign of maturity.