My soon to be ex-husband asked that I move out of the house with our three year old. About a month later I found out I was pregnant, about three months with our child. By this time he was already seeing other people in one instance traveling out of town to be with another woman. He has tried to convince me that he wants to work things out but I have proof that he is still seeing other women. I feel like if he was sincere he would be focused on me and the kids and not seeing other people. He is playing this out like I just chose to leave when he actually gave me two weeks to move out. His dad is trying really hard to get us to work things out but my thought is why go back hes been seeing this one person since last summer. I have paid the attorney and moved my three year old to a new preschool where she is very happy. We are now living in a very stable loving environment. My new place is already set up for my three year old and the new baby.
2007-03-21 06:59:18 · 15 answers · asked by jlaurentaylor2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Normally it would be best to work at a marriage, especially when there are children involved. Your husband sounds to be only thinking of himself and is not showing effort on working on the marriage. Just by him asking you and your child to move is an indication of how little he even cares for you and his child's welfare. You need to seek the advice of a Attorney as to what your legal rights are regarding the home, alimony, and child support. Stay in your new place and continue to think about what is best for you and your children. Your husband is obviously not thinking of his responsibilities as a husband and father. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-21 07:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt NO.
Guilt is not what should be considered when making a decision about your child. What is in the best interest of the kid, NOT YOU and NOT your STBX.
Reason would be your kid needs both parents present, he didn't want to be for some reason at the moment he gave you the boot.. He gave YOU the boot. at the same time he gave the kid the boot.
Don't get into the emotional upheaval of back and forth with your kid. Stick with your plan. Show your kid while his daddy is a philandering scumbag, you can be a good parent.
No. If he was a manslut before he'll continue to be one.
2007-03-21 14:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel guilty. The one who should feel that way is him. You are making a stable life for you, your child and the baby on the way. He is the one who should of moved out not you. He is the one who will have to answer to the judge when the divorce goes threw. If he was truely a man he would have tried to work things out with you , not made you move out , care about his child and the one on the way. I am glad that you are a strong woman for taking the right steps.,
2007-03-21 14:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what to do, nor should anyone have the arrogance to try to tell you what to do. What do you want to do? What is best for your children? What is best for your husband? You will not be able to reach/communicate with your husband until the third party is out of the picture. This will have to be his choice and his commitment; he has to do this of his own will. Marriage is a team effort, and, as they say, there is no "I" in team. From what you've written it appears that there is no abuse, addiction, etc. in your marriage. Always remember that NO problem is insurmountable if both parties are willing to tackle it. You are the strong one in your marriage; your husband is weak. Your husband is being selfish; you are not. Your husbands reality is clouded by this third party; in many ways it is equivalent to drug addiction. Please think long and hard about what's right and good for you, your children, and your husband before you make a decision to end your marriage.
2007-03-21 14:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by lamar_4869 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are doing what is going to be best for your Daughter and you! If you try to stay in a bad relationship it will have an affect on you and her that could be very negative. If you are in a good enviroment as you say, stay with it, go forward with your life. You will meet others and someday I hope you find Mr. Right.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 14:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! you have no reason to feel guilty!
you shouldn't be moving out he should be!
you make sure you get child support for both of your kids!
You don't need a cheating man in your life, and your children do not need in influence like that.
your doing the right thing, don't doubt yourself
2007-03-21 14:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by darkurax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have nothing to feel guilty about, sounds as if your husband already left the marriage when he began cheating on u. if he had any real desire about working it out, he would have ended his relationship with the other woman.asking u to move should be the final straw.
2007-03-21 14:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you made a wrong choice here. I also wouldn't blame myself in your shoes. Your children are more important than anyone else in this so keep doing what you are doing without any regret. Good Luck.
2007-03-21 14:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY!!!!! why on GODS green earth would you fell guilty???? you go girl,!!!please don't fell bad at all.there are worst things to fell bad.or guilty,about. but not this..and if no one has said this AM proud of you, it takes a strong person to do this, and you well be a better person, (stronger) for having to go through this. GOD BLESS ladyhalk.
2007-03-21 14:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by ladyhalk7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your soon to be ex he lost his mind somewhere down the road and good luck in finding it because you're staying right where you're at and you'll see him in divcorce court.
2007-03-21 14:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋