Is it because they are inaccessible? Hard to get? Is it just a matter of a primitive psychology? A target to get to and once reached forgotten?
Why are we loved and desired more when we show no interest? Are we still so primitive that we need to appeal to the most basic instincts?
2007-03-21 06:47:23 · 8 answers · asked by oksana_rossi 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
only if we value abusive behavior, are we tied to that role/ Some people reject abusive behavior and only honor productive behavior. We love what we are used to.
2007-03-21 07:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not always, but its true. That we are loved most of the times because we are a mystery, or remain so.
For people whom we love, sometimes we are mystery, some people want to know more and more and more about us, and knowing more leads to montony. they do not look into other aspects in life, as in knowing more and interacting with us. They come, explore us, know more of us, know our inner most psychology, and then....it just turns weary...and boring, because they know all of it. What would be so interesting if you know ''ALL ABOUT IT''. It wouldnt remain interesting. It is simply a conquest. You conquer something unknown to you, you know all about it, and you believe you absolutely conquered that area.....
Yes, humans are still primitive. We are still experimenting on and on with relationships....exploring, knowing all, leaving if the desire is lost......
We appeal only for a short time, after that, its the interaction that gets it lively, whehter negative or positive...then once you know ''all about it'' you just move on, or stick on if you get attached to that state of mind...
2007-03-21 07:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe we love some people who don't love us, because we think they would if they only knew us. then lots of times, if you are able to get that person to love you, you find out that they really aren't so great after all, and your not interested in them anymore.
It's ditto on the above. It has nothing to do with being primitive, is has more to do with imagining that someone is a certain way, based on the way they look and act, from your perspective, then getting to know them and finding out that they really aren't the way you thought they were.
2007-03-21 06:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is all about validation - positive and negative.
Some people "need" the adoration of a loving partner. They need to be in a relationship because that is how they estimate their worth. "I am worth something because someone loves/needs/can love me".....They validate themselves in the positive.
The other group......are really afraid to need. Again, it's an esteem thing. The more you love them, the more they resist because they assume that if you love them, then there must be something inherently wrong with you because they "are not good enough" . Ironically, this now now makes you not good enough for them. They validate themselves in the negative rather than in the positive.
This social interaction btw men/women, men/men, women/women, depending your orientation, is what keeps human civilization going. It creates the urge for us to create new groups and add people (children, other family) into those groups....it's a very basic human survival instinct.....
2007-03-21 09:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by boston857 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People love people who won't love them back because its safer. If you love, and get love in return, You tend to risk being hurt at a later date. You have to commit to a long term relationship thus removing all aspects of your freedom. It's far easier to love someone to whom you owe nothing.
2007-03-21 06:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Corrupted_Virtue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is an unique bond...every person has their own heart that make she/he is different from others...may be because we want to know more about the person who doesn't love us...we want to figure out why she/he didn't love us like others...
2007-03-21 06:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by ckedot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We don't love them on purpose...that just happens
2007-03-21 06:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not true......What are you calling love?
2007-03-21 06:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋