when did you know that you wanted to be a mommy?

Question

I'm waiting for my husband to finish his schooling before we try for a baby, because I want to be able to give the baby all my attention and not have to go back to work right away. It's getting really hard to wait....its suddenly all I can think about and I'm always looking at baby sites and imagining what it's going to be like. I know that I'm probably trying to jump the gun a little, but I can't help it. When did you know that you were ready to be a mommy? Just curious :-)

Answer 1

I'm only sharing my experience because I want to help...

My husband is a PhD student (full-time) and I just graduated college. A couple months after graduation I got pregnant (ooooops!). We really wanted children, but knew that we couldn't because my husband is in school full-time. Months later, I am 30 weeks pregnant and working full-time. We depend on my paycheck and I also have the insurance...trust me, you need to wait until your hubby is done with school. Even though it is so tempting and difficult to wait. I go on unpaid maternity leave and then it's right back to work for me...not to mention we can't afford for me to stop working until I basically go into labor. I'm so uncomfortable and miserable!!! My husband also is extremely busy with school, and does hours of work everynight (until 2 or 3 AM usually) he is worried about keeping up with his school and taking care of our infant daughter. We had to sell my car (and now we share 1) and we live in a 650 sq foot apartment. We are scrammbling to save enough money to cover our bills while I'm on unpaid maternity leave...TALK ABOUT STRESS! I spend more time stressed, worrying, and scared of the responsibilities of parenting than being excited!

We knew we wanted to be parents very early on. We have wanted a child since the beginning (I was just like you...I couldn't help it!!)...and because of that our birth control methods weren't as stringent as they should've been. It's hard to be really anal about birth control and contraception when you want a child so bad. But I do know it is best to wait until after your husband is done with school.

Answer 2

I know this sounds cliche, but I knew I wanted children when I had the feeling that my fiance was "the one." Even though I wanted to wait a few years, we always agreed that if the time came before we were prepared, we'd make changes and become prepared. I graduated from college in May and by September, the HPT was positive. (Talk about good timing! I wouldn't have been able to handle school and pregnancy at a Catholic college!) We immediately started an online savings account and had direct withdrawls from both of our checks, and now that I'm at 29 weeks, we can't believe our luck with our future son. We can hardly wait for June!

Answer 3

I don't think anyone is ever really ready to be a mom... I mean, you think you're ready, but the amount of work involved in just infant care is intense and all-consuming. It's not all finding the perfect layette and showing baby off. It's also sleepless nights, constant worry, and unceasing upkeep. I think a lot of the reason there's so much post-partum depression is because women have this preconceived notion of what motherhood should be and when the reality doesn't measure up it can be difficult to accept.

Personally, when my husband and I conceived I was NOT ready to be a mom. I wasn't really ready when my son was born, either--but eventually I found my stride and I enjoy being a mom now. I

Answer 4

I wanted to be a Mum when I was two years old and my Mum had my brother. I spent my childhood babysitting and caring for everyones kids. When I was 16 I sat down and told my Mum I was going to have a baby when I was 18. I was still a virgin and had only just had my first kiss!!!!!
But I KNEW I wanted kids and I wanted them when I was young.
I met my current partner and father to my children not long after. I knew from our very first meeting that he was going to be the father of my children.
It was a very slow relationship and that was good.
I fell pregnant the 2nd time we had sex, a few days before my 18th birthday. Unortunately we lost that baby at 4 and a half months.
We now have two beautiful lovely daughters. And are still together (8 yrs). He was aware that I wanted children (I didnt trick him) and we had planned and discussed having children. I had also tested his baby skills with my friends baby, that I sometimes babysat.

I knew from a very early age that my role in life was to be a mother.

Answer 5

Well I knew I wanted to be a mommy from I was little. Later on in life thru high school I wanted to. Thank God I didn't have a bf thru school cause I would have been a teen mom. So now that I'm 22 now I finally have a bf who really cares about me. So I'm just hoping to be. Hope everything goes well for everyone.

Answer 6

When I was about 20 I started thinking about it. I started breeding cats, thinking that taking care of the kittens would help that feeling. Over a few years, it just kept getting worse and worse. About last year at this time, when I was 22, I started to think about it all of the time like you are. Now I'm 23 and obsessed with baby stuff and babies (the feeling gets worse over time) and my soon to be husband are finally getting it to where we can afford for me to stay at home and afford baby stuff. We are going to start trying soon! I can't wait!

Answer 7

I knew right after my first child was born (she was unplanned, unexpected, and I wasn't ready. After she came, I loved her and wanted her).
Everyone is different! Some women 'know' from the time they are young that they want to be mothers, some people NEVER want to have children. There are no 'right' feelings on this subject!

Answer 8

I knew I wanted to be a mommy the day I took my pregnancy test. You see I hadnt reliezed it but subconciously I had planned my pregnancy, and I really wanted to have a baby in my life....

Answer 9

15. At 15 I wanted a baby. I still do and I am 17. I want a little baby boy so bad I can't stand it. If only my lazy bf would get a freaking job I could finally make my dream come true. I want A LOT of children. (my cousins have 11 & 12) And if my man wants to have a polygamist marriage that is fine cuz I know my role in life is to be a mom. Dude, I cant effin wait!