we conceived on our honeymoon, it wasn't planned..?

Question

I am appreciative for the life growing inside me I was just wondering if anyone had any tips or mistakes they have learnt from as far as how a baby changes a marriage. we are newlyweds and we planned to start a family in about 2 years, but our baby girl is 3 months away! we have been married for only 6 months. is there any advice you can give me that will help us keep our marriage fresh and new at least for a year? I know there must be some little tips and things we could do for each other.
thank you for any advice.

Answer 1

Ride the waves of life and take everything with ease. Rushing and stressing will make this huge change of marriage harder, especially since there is another huge change: Baby. There's not going to be much wooing or romanticism, but morning sickness and moodiness. So the big test is if he'll be able to be a loving, patient and understanding partner. Now that all that is almost over you'll have Baby- poo, spit up and everything. Try to make everything fun and remember to spend evenings away for one on one and get a sitter. It's a big adjustment- making this marriage work is the biggest factor here- making it fun is almost secondary, but both can be done. Just keep chill and humerous. Remember the small things like saying something sweet, doing a favor, leaving a cute sticky note and talking grown up (it's easy to get into "goo-goo-gah-gah"). Joke and laugh and cuddle and be sure to do new things even though you have Baby now. Like festivals, new restaraunts, movies, fishing, picnicking, bbq's w/ friends. Just remember the Baby is important, but so is keeping your relationship healthy.

Answer 2

Bringing a child into this world is never an easy task and when it is not planned it can make a marriage tough but it can also at times make the marriage better. I'm not saying have a child is good when the marriage is on the rocks to change things for the better in any means. I suggest that you look at this as a blessing from God and he felt that you two were ready for this adventure. My suggestion is that you continue to do stuff with each other the first few months will be hard to do with the constant child care but once the 6 month mark comes around hand the baby over to grandparents or a family friend you trust and get out and enjoy being newlyweds. One other thing express to your husband that after you have the baby it may be awhile before you can have sex some Dr's even recommend up to 6 weeks
or longer to allow your body healing time from the stretching etc. One other important factor don't forget that you have a man in your life and do not allow him to forget how much you love him and how much you appreciate him. The other thing
is that some guys can be grossed out with the whole changing the diaper routine do not allow him to refuse or pass it onto all the time he is the father and he has as much responsibility in caring for the child as you do.
Do things as a family as much as possible get tips from family and friends that have kids they will know best. Research cribs and child seats before you purchase these things are crucial to the health and safety of your baby. Remember your parents raised you so they would have some good tips on stuff. Enjoy being a mom if you wanted children and well this came unexpected just live it up.
One thing in general in any marriage though is to remember
never by anything that you cannot afford to pay for in cash
except maybe a car or a house, all I'm saying is refrain from charging up the credit cards use for emergencies only.
Financial strain is one of the most common reasons for divorce!
Congratulations on your new marriage and becoming a mom
God Bless and Best Wishes for you your family and the birth of your baby may your baby be strong and healthy.

Answer 3

Congratulations on your baby girl. Marriage has its ups and downs the first year. You have that adjustment time of getting to know one another as man and wife. Now baby makes three. Your maturity will greatly determine how you handle this little person in your life so soon after marriage. There's diapers, formula, clothes, doctor's visits, etc, etc, etc. If you're going to work after the baby is born you have to find daycare. If you don't work, then you might want to enroll your baby in a play group so she can interact with other babies. You and your husband will have so many new things to experience that it will stay fresh for a long time. There's no perfect answer. Holding your baby at night while watching tv, trying to eat your own dinner while the baby eats too, spending quality time with your husband, go out on dates without the baby at times to keep your relationship strong. The list goes on and on. Best wishes to you and your husband.

Answer 4

Congratualtions on expecting.

My advice... always take time to do things alone as a couple (dates). This is very important! Find a family member or babysitter to help you out here. It doesn't have to be anything expensive since you're going to have a whole slew of new bills with the baby, but just focus on the 2 of you. Go out for a picnic or a walk.

Also, you're going to be exhausted after the baby arrives, but try to keep from getting angry at each other because you're so tired.

Answer 5

No doubt about it, a baby changes things. I got pregnant right before I got married (the first time) and the first year was really tough. Hormones, getting used to each other, etc.
Once the baby comes, try to remember when you're tired and just want HIM to take a turn with the kid, that it's all new to him too....you have to make time for each other still. You, as a young first time mother, will probably find it hard to leave your baby with ANYONE for a while, but you have to make yourself do it so your husband can still get some one on one time with you. Good luck!

Answer 6

One thing that I believe is important for the both of you to do is make some time for just the two of you to do something together.Maybe you can have someone in your family watch the baby long enough to do something together.When you have a baby it is really easy to get frustrating and hard.It is also easy to push each other away [for some people].As long as you two make time for each other you should keep the flame burning between the two of you.Have Patience.If you two love each other that much you can get through anything.Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Take time for each other. Plan special outings for just the two of you. It doesn't matter if its getting away for the whole weekend or just getting away to watch a movie together.

Talk to each other. Remember your interests outside of your family and relationship and keep up with them. It gives you something to talk to each other about.

Answer 8

congratulations! get a sitter and go out keep time for the two of you and it will be hard! that's why get a sitter now someone who you will trust because it all changes after that precious little baby gets here. just make the time for the two of you. that's the biggest thing and the important thing. good luck and again congratulations!!

Answer 9

First of all, congratulations.
I would suggest you look into some parenting classes or a book on the subject. Remember, just because you're having a child doesn't mean the romance is over.

Answer 10

The thing is to make sure you take time for you and your husband . I know that a new baby is demanding but dont let yourselves get into a rudd. You need to make some time just for you and him .