O.K My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She gave pretty feeble excuses, and we had been dating for a year. I had no contact whatsoever with her, until she asked the other day if i would mind going for a drink with her as friends. I went along...we just argued...and she spent the whole time telling me about a guy friend she met up wiv 4 1st time in 3yr...i stupidly admitted i loved her, and said that this whole friends thing wasnt working, and i walked out of the room. Since, I get texts saying how hurtful she was,sorry,& could we be friends.i ignored her.she then asks my friends have they seen me today cos she's worried about me!Anyway,yest i had enough,& textd her back saying that she hurt me 2much & to leave me alone,i said u've moved on,so should i.anyway,she replied saying she still has feelings 4me,& misses parts of our relationship,but doesnt want to date again.i agreed to meet her 4drink 2moro, but i backed out..then she said she was naive 2 think friends would work
2007-03-21 06:28:59 · 6 answers · asked by Soliloquy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am in the same boat. If they just want to be friends, then why do they want to be around us all the time? Sorry, but you can't have your cake and eat it too.
Seems to me that by being around one another all the time and "just friends" gives them license to have us when they want us without the responsibility that goes with it such as "I'll do what I want, when I want, with who ever I want and I don't have to answer to anyone".
I think they are keeping us on a safety net so if the "Others" don't work out they can come back to us. Forget it! You are not wrong. She wanted to break it off, she needs to stay away. Maybe when time has passed she will realize that she made a mistake in leaving. You need time to heal and move on and you cannot do that when she is in the picture.
2007-03-21 06:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. The friends thing won't work. I understand why she's concerned about you you, but she has to let you go and let you move on and if that's what's best for you and if she really cares, then she would do that and respect that. The minute she broke up with you your thoughts and feelings became none of her business IMO. She is just feeling guilty IMO and her concerns are probably genuine but that's not your problem anymore either. You will heal better and faster and be able to move on sooner if she would leave you alone.
2007-03-21 13:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right to end the friendship considering the fact that you couldnt handle the emotional loss of a relationship above and beyond friendship. I doubt very seriously that she would even consider taking you back and as for what she may be thinking. Only she would know that.
2007-03-21 13:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like cutting it off cold turkey would be less painful for you. i think it was very hurtful of her to talk to you about a new guy she's talking to after only being broken up for 2 weeks!! Clearly she has no morals or class, and you can do better. move on and I bet you will find the girl that is meant to be with you! good luck!
2007-03-21 14:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by slustephi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes trying to be controlling. Its too early to be friends. Friends after love is only right when all the emotional junk is gone. And forgiveness is when you stop thinking you can change the past. so what are you gonna do?
2007-03-21 13:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by fabulous13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on she is just teasing you. and she is being mean. just walk away it is over. i think she is just keeping you hanging in-case the new one doesn't work so she won't have to be alone@
2007-03-21 15:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dori S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋