I really like this guy. I would love to be his gf. But i am afraid. My last couple relationships have turned out crappy. They haven't lasted longer then 3 weeks. The guys change. I don't change. they do, for some odd reason. I'm afraid if i do go out with him, the romantic little love poems will stop, and he would become a prick, like the others. I'm not sure what to do. he wants me to be his gf. but i'm afraid of getting my heart broken once again. should i just give up, and stay friends?
2007-03-21 06:27:54 · 35 answers · asked by Skye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok but this guy was into drugs, cigs, and underage drinking... so this scares me
2007-03-21 10:33:04 · update #1
NO DONT GIVE UP......
MAYBE THE PROBLEM IS THAT YOU ARE PUSHING LOVE AWAY.......SEE IF YOU DO THAT LOVE DIES BEFORE IT EVEN STARTS AND BURNS OUT BEFORE IT BECOMES A FLAME......SO LET IT BE...... TAKE IT REAL SLOW ...NOT TO SLOW THOUGHT YOU DONT WANT THE FIRE TO GO OUT EITHER.
YOULL FIND ITS MORE ENJOYABLE IF YOU SAVORE IT!!!
2007-03-21 06:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by A. RMZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to deprive yourself forever if you assume every guy will be like that. Most if not all the guys may be a prick but if you don't keep looking you will never find that guy who is always romantic. Guys do mature as they get older and I don't know how old you are but are you confusing changing with getting comfortable? If you want a guy who will write poems to you every day and bring you flowers each time he See's you then you better keep yourself off the market because that won't happen. The newness of a relationship doe's wear off but the love gets stronger. If he is committed to you and is a good provider to his family he may have to much on his mind to be romantic all the time. So accept being spontaneous with the romance.
2007-03-21 06:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the poor guy a chance. He didn't hurt you and it's not fair to hold him responsible for others mistakes. He sounds like a great guy. And guys don't change when you start dating them. Your other boyfriends were pricks before you started dating. This guy sounds like the furthest thing from being a prick. The most rewarding things in life are usually the hardest to do (meaning that your usually scarred).
2007-03-21 06:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finally steeped up and asked out this girl I really liked! We went out for like two months and the time we spent together was great. The thing that ended it all was that is she was always busy and I got tired of trying to set up dates and finding out she would be too busy to go out. I did the most amazing things too! little romantic love poems and everything! Valentines day would blow your mind, and all for her, but she didn't have time to go out and not seeing her was driving me crazy (I never though it would end like it did), so we broke up.
Some guys will change I guess. I know it hurts when the person you are dying to be with changes and you cant even point out what it is (she said it was me who changed). I just dint understand it.
My dad once said "Life sucks...and Love is worse." He may be right.
I would say go for it though.!
2007-03-21 06:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Back 4 Revenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should at least give it a chance. Just take it slow, don't get too attached. Keep your space and hang out with friends as much as possible. Things usually work out for a reason. If this guy's a jerk to you, then get rid of him. Someday you'll find your true love. Who knows, maybe he'll be your true love, if you don't try it out, you'll never know. My last few boyfriends turned out that way, now I've been married to my husband for 6 years and he's good to me. There are actually good guys out there! Good Luck :)
2007-03-21 06:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mommyof2angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up, sister!!
But, it's a good idea to slow down and take a look at what went wrong with the last relationships - what happened to make these guys change? Did you give into them too easily? Not give into them? Ignore them? Smother them? Of course, it could be that you're dating the wrong guys!
Only you know the answer to that - so once you figure that out, try not to make that mistake with this guy.
Just remember to always be yourself - never compromise yourself or your beliefs!
Good Luck, sister!
Aloha!!
2007-03-21 06:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am forced to answer your question with one of my own... Why do you judge future relationships by your past relationships?
You are never going to know how things with this guy are going to turn out unless you take a chance on him. If he is doing drugs and drinking, in that case I will have to say to have some respect for yourself and find someone decent.
2007-03-23 10:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the saying is "no risk, no reward" u have to keep trying if u truly want to be happy. all u can do is learn from the past and build on ur future relationships.... and it goes for both sides. u have to evaluate and see if there is anything u can do to change ur fortune in love. if u need to take a break from dating to figure some things out, u should do it. good luck with this one and make the best decision for ur heart.
2007-03-21 06:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE IT SLOW!! Relationships are meant to be taken slowly. Get to know each other and all the little quirks that both of you have. Talk and spend time together, not too much tho. You don't want things to get "crappy" as you put it, the don't rush and things will work out fine. Good luck
2007-03-21 06:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go out with him make it clear from the start you don't want to do anything sexual. If he cares about you he will wait.
Read 1 Corintians: below it helps you identify a man of goodness and love. Charity means love by the way - this an older original version.
13:4. "Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely, is not puffed up,"
"Caritas patiens est benigna est caritas non aemulatur non agit perperam non inflatur"
13:5. "Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil:"
"Non est ambitiosa non quaerit quae sua sunt non inritatur non cogitat malum"
13:6. "Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth with the truth:
"Non gaudet super iniquitatem congaudet autem veritati"
13:7. "Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things."
"Omnia suffert omnia credit omnia sperat omnia sustinet"
13:8. "Charity never falleth away: whether prophecies shall be made void or tongues shall cease or knowledge shall be destroyed."
"Caritas numquam excidit sive prophetiae evacuabuntur sive linguae cessabunt sive scientia destruetur"
13:9. "For we know in part: and we prophesy in part."
"Ex parte enim cognoscimus et ex parte prophetamus"
13:10. "But when that which is perfect is come, that which is in part shall be done away."
"*** autem venerit quod perfectum est evacuabitur quod ex parte est"
13:11. "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child. But, when I became a man, I put away the things of a child."
"*** essem parvulus loquebar ut parvulus sapiebam ut parvulus cogitabam ut parvulus quando factus sum vir evacuavi quae erant parvuli"
13:12. "We see now through a glass in a dark manner: but then face to face. Now I know in part: but then I shall know even as I am known."
"Videmus nunc per speculum in enigmate tunc autem facie ad faciem nunc cognosco ex parte tunc autem cognoscam sicut et cognitus sum"
13:13. "And now there remain faith, hope, and charity, these three: but the greatest of these is charity."
"Nunc autem manet fides spes caritas tria haec maior autem his est caritas"
2007-03-21 07:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up because this guy could be mr. right. i would tell him that you are afraid of getting hurt again and that if you all do start dating that you dont want the poems and romantic things to fade away and see what he says then just take it from there. good luck :)
2007-03-21 06:34:15 · answer #11 · answered by sasha_miller_2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋