why is it written: JANE weds JOHN and not JOHN weds JANE?..... see details?

Question

... is it the man that marries the woman or the woman marries the man?

the woman's name always (95%) comes first on the wedding invitation card and I always wonder why...

Answer 1

It is tradition!
It is historically correct!
It is polite to name the woman first!

Answer 2

Historically the Girl's father 'gave' her hand in marriage which was then solemnised in a wedding ceremony.

She married him..


A marriage can be declared by a wedding ceremony,which may be performed either by a religious officiator or through a similar government-sanctioned secular officiator. The act of marriage often creates obligations between the individuals involved, and in many societies, their extended families.

Answer 3

Because traditionally the man asks for the woman to marry him -- therefore the woman marries the man.

But really it means the same thing.

Answer 4

I was thinking about that also
My guess is because in most cases and societies:

The Man is the one who asked the woman to marry
Therefore
The Woman is the one who accepts on not

Meaning the the Man thought about it first, and If he want to wed JANE, she has to accept

that is how i guess about that

So SHE accepted HIS invitation to marry

So

SHE wed him and not HE wed HER

Thanks for this quations

VBAXLMan

Answer 5

If the man proposed to the woman then the man married the woman and visa versa

Answer 6

In a wedding usually the groom goes first and is not aloud to see the bride. She comes later (she's more important) and he takes her hand. Now they go do whatever. It's just something in the American language the probably has no reason.

Answer 7

nothing to do with who is marrying who! years ago or traditionally in a lot of countries the brides parents would pay for the wedding or the brides father gives his daughter away, so all is focused on the bride. that's why you always hear the bride and groom or on some invites the brides parents request the pleasure of your company for to attend the marriage of their daughter Jane etc .for having to pay for everything and organising etc

Answer 8

it's a historical thing.

in the past, the woman was only considered to *exist* in relation to a man. when she was single, this would be her father - which is why the bride's father "gives her away" at a wedding - then, when she married, she would leave her family's household to join that of her husband.

to 'wed' implies movement, both physically from one household to another, and in terms of status - from single to married. so the man is static, he stays where he is, and the movement is done by the woman... *she* weds *him*.

Answer 9

It's because traditionally, the bride's parents pay for the wedding, therefore their daughter is named first.

Answer 10

Woman comes first...always!